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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoI grew up in a house where money was discussed in whispers and spent in silence, and it took me thirty years to understand that the secrecy wasn't about the money. It was about the shame. And by the time I realized those were different things, I had already inherited both. - Silicon Canals
Secrecy about finances in families often stems from shame rather than a lack of information, impacting children's understanding of money.
#parenting
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
19 hours agoIf Your Kids Lead Easy Lives, Do You Need To "Manufacture Hardship"?
Parents face a conflict between providing comfort and teaching resilience to their children.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
4 days agoI Put in All the Effort to Make Holidays Special for Our Family. My Wife Finds a Way to Ruin It Every Time.
Kendall dislikes holidays, causing tension during family celebrations, and the writer seeks advice on managing her negativity during Easter.
#communication
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoMost families have one person everyone loves but nobody genuinely listens to - and psychology says that person almost always knows exactly who they are, has known for decades, and long ago stopped hoping anyone else would figure it out - Silicon Canals
Family dynamics often lead to certain voices being unheard, creating an invisible hierarchy that affects communication and connection.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and my wife Donna said something last week that I haven't been able to stop thinking about. She said the reason our sons don't call more isn't because they don't love me. It's because I taught them that strong men don't need checking on, and they believed me. - Silicon Canals
Father-son silence often reflects learned emotional stoicism rather than a broken relationship, demonstrating that strong men don't need to check in.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals
The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
#neurodiversity
Mental health
fromIndependent
5 days agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoYou know you grew up lower-middle-class if the most stressful sound of your childhood was the phone ringing at dinner - and you understood, before anyone explained it, that some calls meant someone needed something the family didn't quite have, and that understanding became the background noise of every evening for years - Silicon Canals
Growing up lower-middle-class means living with constant worry, always one crisis away from trouble despite appearing fine on the outside.
#aging
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week agoMy Father Is Finally Rid of My Hellish Mother. But I'm Very Concerned by What He's Doing Now.
The letter-writer is concerned about her father's engagement to a younger woman after a long, unhappy marriage.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe hardest part of watching your parents age isn't the decline. It's the moment you realize you've become the adult in the room and nobody appointed you and there's no one above you anymore. - Silicon Canals
Watching parents age reveals uncomfortable truths and shifts the balance of power in family dynamics, leading to unexpected responsibilities and existential challenges.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology explains the reason some people grow sweeter with age while others grow bitter has nothing to do with how hard their life was - it's about whether they learned to grieve their losses or hoard them - Silicon Canals
Aging can lead to either bitterness or sweetness, depending on how one processes life's hurts and losses.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe hardest part of watching your parents age isn't the decline. It's the moment you realize you've become the adult in the room and nobody appointed you and there's no one above you anymore. - Silicon Canals
Watching parents age reveals uncomfortable truths and shifts the balance of power in family dynamics, leading to unexpected responsibilities and existential challenges.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere's a generation of men in their sixties who express love almost entirely through logistics. Checking tyre pressure. Topping up the oil. Arriving twenty minutes early. And the reason their children don't always recognize it as love is that the language it's spoken in has no words, only verbs. - Silicon Canals
Love can be expressed through actions rather than words, often leading to misunderstandings about its presence.
fromVulture
1 week agoThe Biggest Reveals from Lamar Odom's Netflix Documentary
"I really thought he was joking," his first wife, Liza Morales, explained. "I said, 'My God, come on now. That's too soon.'" This sentiment was echoed by his aunt, Janean Mercer, who noted that none of his family was invited to the wedding.
Los Angeles
fromFilmmaker Magazine
1 week agoExclusive Clip: Roseanne Pel on Her New Directors/New Films Closing Night Title Donkey Days
"Rosanne Pel's Donkey Days is a darkly comic exploration of family dynamics, ingeniously blending Dogme-inspired naturalism with flashes of surrealism to create a work that is at once caustic and unexpectedly tender."
Independent films
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who were always the strong one in the family often become the loneliest person in the room after 65. Every link must be real and accurate - Silicon Canals
Being the strong one in a family can lead to profound loneliness in later life due to a lack of emotional reciprocity.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who apologize by doing something nice instead of actually saying the words learned that language somewhere specific, and it almost always traces back to a household where direct emotional speech was treated as weakness. - Silicon Canals
Many people apologize through actions rather than words due to learned emotional strategies from their upbringing.
fromDallas Observer
1 week agoTaylor Sheridan Made Dallas Feel Like New York City, Says The Madison Cast
When I read the scripts, I was really blown away by them. I am a fan of Taylor, and I think his writing is fantastic. To me, this just had a certain poetry to it. It was creating imagery of this place in my mind before I had even seen where it would take place. It was beautiful and lyrical.
Austin
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople born in the 1950s display a type of resilience modern generations mistake for coldness - but it's actually a survival adaptation built from being raised by traumatized parents who couldn't afford to process their own pain - Silicon Canals
Generational trauma from war leads to emotional suppression in families, affecting how feelings are expressed and understood across generations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI drove six hours to visit my aging parents last month and within twenty minutes my mother had criticized my weight, my career, and my parenting - and I realized the little girl in me is still waiting for approval that will never come - Silicon Canals
Parental approval significantly impacts adult self-esteem and behavior, often reverting individuals to childhood insecurities regardless of their achievements.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks agoI saw Rachel Reeves while out shopping with my teenager. Apparently I completely humiliated myself | Zoe Williams
Whenever there's a problematic headwind that needs an announcement on the rolling news, my kid's friend goes: What's your mum on about now? This reflects the humorous connection between personal life and public figures.
London politics
fromIndependent
2 weeks agoWe transferred the farm to our son but his new relationship has us terrified for its future
The decision to transfer the family farm was based on the son's long-standing interest and commitment to the land, which made the parents believe they were making the right choice.
Parenting
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