"Although in an ideal world I would love to be in their lives and have the huge family I always missed as an only child, I have accepted that this might not be realistic. I don't want to break up their family at all, but I would like to know where I come from. Specifically, I'd like to know the names of my great-grandparents. There's just one issue."
"I think the kindest thing DNA Disaster could do would be to supply the information that the long-lost siblings are likely seeking, or at least point them in the right direction. For example, a certain program will hide people's names if they're still living. Marking them as deceased can at least give people a jumping-off point to do their own research."
A person discovered that their father has five other children and a wife who likely do not know about their existence. The person wants to know their origins and specifically the names of their great-grandparents, but genealogy sites have hidden the relevant information. The person requests that DNA matches or account holders provide identifying details or guidance, for example by marking deceased relatives or adding a contact note in an account's "About Me" section. The person emphasizes a desire not to disrupt the existing family and suggests using social media or discreet contact through family members as alternatives.
Read at Slate Magazine
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