#communication

#communication

It may be time to have a different conversation with your friend. Perhaps she is having memory problems. See if you can cite at least three instances when your friend has recounted a different version of a story to you than you remember. Tell her that you are concerned about her memory, and give her these examples as evidence. Know that she is likely to push back. Tell her anyway.

Too often, IT professionals feel like "order takers" for business groups - told what systems to implement or troubleshoot instead of being asked how technology can solve bigger business problems. Making the leap from support tech to strategic advisor takes time. The people who do it well don't just focus on fixing issues, they learn the business, talk in plain language, focus on results instead of tasks, and look ahead to prevent problems rather than just reacting to them.

A few years ago, my brother-in-law and his wife stopped inviting us. (They still invite my husband's parents to everything). We don't know the reason; there was no fight or misunderstanding or awkward interactions. We in turn no longer invite them to our smaller occasions. Weddings and other big occasions are different; everyone is invited. However, every time we are celebrating our birthdays or anniversary, my husband starts insisting on inviting his brother.

I'd gently suggest that you're not helpless against the changing tide. You've noticed a pattern that seems to be in conflict with your hopes and expectations for the holiday. So, for next year, you have the opportunity to talk about it with your daughters in advance and find a solution that makes everyone happy. Every holiday meal is, of course, about the food, but its primary purpose is togetherness as a family.

My company recently hired an entry-level colleague to our team, and I am annoyed that I am the one who has to train her. She graduated from college last May, and this is her first job. I understand that she is not expected to know anything, but our work is fast-paced, and it's frustrating to have to slow down for her to take the time to understand what's going on.

"When you don't say what needs to be said in the moment to spare somebody else's feelings, first of all, like, you're rejecting the truest part of yourself," Paltrow said. "And then it's going to come out another way. And that's like, you'll end up being dishonest. You'll end up not saying what needs to be said. You'll end up stringing out some lame relationship for eight extra months and treating them not so nicely because you have stuck yourself in something, you know, you just make a mess," she said.

It's completely understandable that you'd want to confront your wife for cheating, but I'm going to encourage you to be practical here. You have the ability to set the tone. If you weren't really bothered by it, or if the turn-on majorly outweighed your bother, it may not be useful to stage a full-on confrontation. A more effective route could be for you to just say that you know what's up-you saw it with your own eyes-and it really turned you on.

The first thing you should do may be the hardest: Talk to your son and ask him his honest opinion about the last 14 years. This blow-up didn't come out of nowhere. You write that he was sort of OK, for instance. This raises big questions. How much hurt has he been sitting on all this time? Has he tried talking about this before? What is sort of OK?

The findings, which were drawn from the "pleasure report" by the instructional website OMGYES, and published in the journal PLOS ONE, come from a survey of more than 3,000 women, ages 18 to 93, from across the United States. Women were asked how they tend to increase their own pleasure during sex. (This particular study focused specifically on vaginal penetration, and the majority of the respondents identified as heterosexual.)

I care about her deeply, but taking on someone else's debt even someone I love feels like a huge risk. I've worked hard to protect my own credit, and the idea of being on the hook for a car that isn't mine stresses me out. When I tried to express my hesitation, she acted hurt and suggested it meant I didn't trust her. That's not true at all. I'm more than willing

I've been dating a great guy, "Max," for about a year. Not too long after we met (we weren't dating then), we started talking about family, siblings, etc. I mentioned I'd had a sister who died at a young age in a car accident. He said he'd lost a brother, "John," the same way. It bonded us in a way, and it wasn't long after that talk that we began dating.

According to the author, Zach Mercurio, mattering is when another satisfies our fundamental need to be seen, heard, and valued. Mattering is when we feel significant to others. 'Mattering is different and more elemental than 'belonging' or 'inclusion.' Belonging is feeling welcomed and accepted into a group. Inclusion is being invited and able to take an active role in that group, but mattering is feeling significant to its members.'

My husband and I have been together for 20 years. He's 55 and I'm 40. We have sex twice a month if we're lucky, and normally, I'm the one to start it. He almost always requests the same thing. He requests a blow job. But he never reciprocates. Never. If I don't, he will sometimes refuse to have sex. He hasn't done any type of stimulation in years-oral, digital, or otherwise.

Higher ed cannot restore public trust in colleges and universities unless the sector reckons in a clear-eyed fashion with the causes of the current crisis. Simply put, the fundamental problem is that when the sector or its individual institutions draw public criticism, we are unable either to make quick changes in response, to explain compellingly why we should not do so, or to redirect public attention effectively toward the overall value and purpose of our work.

Gen Z is never beating the " unemployable " allegations. For Gen Z, a growing confidence crisis means common workplace interactions are now a major source of anxiety. Working with unfamiliar colleagues, making small talk, using the phone, and waking up early were among the biggest anxieties for young workers, according to new research from Trinity College London. ​These fears have also been echoed online.

Asking if she has anything to tell you is one way, though that's a leading question that telegraphs suspicion, which may in turn put your wife on the defensive. That's not the most comfortable place to be when revealing intimate details of one's life. Instead, you may want to nudge her by saying something like, "You have a lot of fun with [your third's name], huh?" Or, "You really like her, huh?"

Repeat. Your wife is not asking you to drive around with her human anatomy-resembling art plastered to your back windshield for the world to see. This is your home! The reaction of your family-whispering, "Are you aware of the resemblance?" not screaming, "Oh my god, there's a butthole over the fireplace!"-actually proves that her artistic intention was clear. It's a flower with some unfortunate qualities. Nobody actually thinks you have pornography hanging above the mantel.

I can never be upset about anything. Anytime, and I mean ANYtime I bring up something that upsets me, it gets turned around into how whatever she did that upset me is my fault. I end up fuming, but then ultimately apologize so that I can keep some semblance of peace. I'm not respected. I'm not desired. For a significant portion of the year when she coaches, I'm invisible. I try to express what I need physically, and it's usually ignored. Need I go on?

Straight men are orgasming far more often than straight women and for plenty of us, that "orgasm gap" feels less like a statistic and more like a personal biography. In this episode, Jennifer is joined by Alix Fox - writer, broadcaster and script consultant on the hit Netflix series Sex Education to unpack why that gap exists and what we can do about it.

My first thought, upon reading your letter, was a curious: What are the differences for your husband between penetrating your vagina with his penis and performing oral sex on you, in the context of the fact of your having given birth? My second thought was that, in your position, I would have a very difficult time calmly asking that question from a place of genuine inquisitiveness.

"If you do have a tendency to argue about money, Christmas is going to be a big, big time for that. The vast majority of couples, you'll have two people with different spending habits. That's not unusual at all. It's probably quite rare to have a couple where they'll both have similar spending habits. "So, like with everything else when it comes to being in a healthy couple, communication is the key thing."

I sat with what they told me for a moment. I recalled how I felt when my dad called me with the news that his thigh pain was from a tumor that had spread from a mass in his lung. I remembered how much I wanted someone to tell me it would be OK, that we would all survive this, that the world, now horrifyingly askew, would somehow right itself.