In college, my girlfriend cheated on me with a much older, dad bod-type guy. She told me about it, which was nice, and she felt awful, which was also nice, but I felt this weird, unexpected combination of hurt and arousal. I'd think about them together, and I'd feel sick, but I'd get hard. My mind would wander there when I'd masturbate, and the orgasms
People with limited experience with the kink community often imagine some pretty extreme caricatures when they hear phrases like "BDSM," "Daddy Dom/good girl," and "fisting." It’s inevitable, given that the most easily discovered depictions are pretty extreme.