"They want my husband to act like he did when he was 21, single, and broke, when he was living on their sofa and joining them for partying. They blame me for the change in his priorities rather than realizing he simply grew up, and they often try to put a wedge in our relationship, like they did when they were in town this weekend."
"They suggested an event that began right at our son's bedtime. When my husband reminded his mom of this, she told him that he should go without us. I feel he should have told her right then that we are a package deal and to find an alternate activity. Instead, he asked me about it. I told him I thought it was really weird to even suggest excluding us and that it would hurt our son's feelings. But he decided to go."
"No one told the kiddo until they abruptly ended dinner to rush off to the activity. My son's face got so bright thinking he was going along. I guess their plan was just to drive off, leaving him and me to deal with it myself? His dad put him in our car, which is when he finally realized that he wasn't going with his dad and grandparents and cried."
Husband (46) and wife (45) have been together 14 years and share a son. The husband's parents continue a partying lifestyle and expect him to act like his 21-year-old, single self. They blame the wife for his changed priorities instead of recognizing that he matured. During a visit they proposed an event that began at the child's bedtime and suggested the husband attend without his family. The husband checked with his wife but ultimately left, surprising the child who briefly believed he was going. The son cried and the husband did not call; the wife objects to being excluded during a family visit.
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