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#exhaustion
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6 days agoThere's a kind of exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you did today and everything to do with how many versions of yourself you performed. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the weight of translation between who you are privately and who each room requires you to become. - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from the cognitive load of managing multiple identities rather than just physical effort or workload.
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9 hours agoSome people are exhausted not because they do too much but because they feel too much and have nowhere to put it. The emotion doesn't leave when it's unexpressed. It circulates, looking for an exit that was sealed shut decades ago, and that circulation costs more energy than most physical labor ever could. - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion can stem from unacknowledged emotions rather than physical factors like sleep or nutrition.
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fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThere's a kind of exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you did today and everything to do with how many versions of yourself you performed. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the weight of translation between who you are privately and who each room requires you to become. - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from the cognitive load of managing multiple identities rather than just physical effort or workload.
#loneliness
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16 hours agoLoneliness doesn't always look like an empty room. Sometimes it looks like a person who laughs at every joke, remembers every birthday, shows up at every event, and drives home afterward in total silence wondering why none of it ever reaches the part of them that's still starving. - Silicon Canals
Social starvation and social performance can coexist, leading to a deeper crisis of loneliness that isn't solely defined by the absence of social contact.
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5 days agoNobody prepares you for the particular loneliness of not enjoying your own life - not because it's empty, but because it looks so full from the outside that you can't even say it out loud without feeling like you're complaining - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can stem from feeling disconnected from a seemingly successful life, leading to a hollow experience despite external appearances.
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1 week agoPsychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals
Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
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6 hours agoThere's a version of loneliness that only arrives inside a crowded room full of people who like you, and it comes from the slow realization that what they like is a performance you can no longer remember choosing to start - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can persist even in social settings, stemming from a disconnect between one's true self and the persona they project.
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16 hours agoLoneliness doesn't always look like an empty room. Sometimes it looks like a person who laughs at every joke, remembers every birthday, shows up at every event, and drives home afterward in total silence wondering why none of it ever reaches the part of them that's still starving. - Silicon Canals
Social starvation and social performance can coexist, leading to a deeper crisis of loneliness that isn't solely defined by the absence of social contact.
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fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoNobody prepares you for the particular loneliness of not enjoying your own life - not because it's empty, but because it looks so full from the outside that you can't even say it out loud without feeling like you're complaining - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can stem from feeling disconnected from a seemingly successful life, leading to a hollow experience despite external appearances.
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1 week agoPsychology says the loneliest generation in history isn't Gen Z - it's the boomers who raised everyone, hosted everything, and are now sitting in quiet houses wondering where everybody went - Silicon Canals
The loneliest generation today is not Gen Z, but the baby boomers who once held social connections together.
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1 week agoPsychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals
Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
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23 hours agoPeople who are excellent in emergencies and fall apart during ordinary weeks aren't wired wrong. Their nervous system was calibrated for crisis, and calm registers as the absence of signal rather than the presence of safety. They function brilliantly when the house is burning because fire is the only temperature that feels familiar. - Silicon Canals
The autonomic nervous system has a social engagement system that affects how individuals respond to stress and calm.
#social-media
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fromEngadget
19 hours agoMost US teens say TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat aren't hurting (or helping) their mental health
Most teens report social media apps like Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat do not harm their mental health, but some experience negative effects on sleep and productivity.
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20 hours agoPsychology suggests men who are deeply unhappy in life but hide it well aren't being strong - they're running a performance that costs them every real connection they have, and the people closest to them almost never see it coming - Silicon Canals
Men often mask their depression with busyness and distraction, making it difficult to recognize their true emotional state.
#anxiety
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fromPsychology Today
1 day agoWhy High-Functioning Adults Often Feel Anxious
High-functioning individuals often experience anxiety despite external success and competence, struggling to relax and feel regulated.
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fromPsychology Today
1 day agoCoping With Climate Change Anxiety
Anxiety is a normal response to real threats like climate change, serving a protective function.
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5 days agoMental health
People who always respond with "fine" when asked how they are aren't lying - they learned, at some specific point in their life, that the true answer produced outcomes that were worse than the silence, and fine has been the silence ever since - Silicon Canals
Personal experiences with anxiety and emotional responses reveal deeper truths about coping mechanisms and the challenges of authentic communication.
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5 days agoPeople who always respond with "fine" when asked how they are aren't lying - they learned, at some specific point in their life, that the true answer produced outcomes that were worse than the silence, and fine has been the silence ever since - Silicon Canals
Personal experiences with anxiety and emotional responses reveal deeper truths about coping mechanisms and the challenges of authentic communication.
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1 day agoI was peeing blood constantly': my ketamine hell and what made me stop
The reason people use drugs of any kind is because they want to escape, Delaney says. I had suicidal ideations from a very, very young age because I assumed that, if I was dead, maybe my mum and dad wouldn't be arguing.
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1 day agoThere's a type of person who only feels permission to rest when they're physically sick, and the illness isn't the problem. The problem is the invisible equation they absorbed decades ago that says rest must be earned through suffering and a healthy body has no valid claim to stillness. - Silicon Canals
Sickness is often the only socially acceptable reason for rest, revealing deep-rooted beliefs about productivity and morality.
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1 day agoThe person who thrives during a crisis and falls apart during ordinary weeks isn't broken. Their entire operating system was built for emergencies, and peace registers as a system error because they never learned what competence feels like without urgency underneath it. - Silicon Canals
Crisis-thrivers are often dysregulated, struggling with normalcy after emergencies, revealing a deeper issue with their nervous system's response to stress.
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2 days agoI realized at 66 that the reason I'm always tired has nothing to do with sleep. I've been running an internal monitoring system since childhood that tracks other people's moods, and it never shuts off, not even when I'm alone. - Silicon Canals
Emotional exhaustion can stem from lifelong habits of managing others' emotional states, leading to fatigue that sleep cannot alleviate.
#self-reliance
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1 day agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoFinding Order in Disorder, a Bipolar Memoir
When I was diagnosed, my mother took to the camera to film, record, analyze, and critique our lives. Our relationship took a turn for the better when I shared my writing with her, and she began to capture our journey on film. This was a breakthrough moment in the way we viewed each other, and we realized that both were in this together and neither needed to deal with it alone.
Mental health
fromThedrum
2 days agoTime to Change - Raising awareness of men's mental health with Messenger
The campaign got men's attention with video ads on Facebook and Instagram. A lighthearted introductory video showed a man crushed by a tree, while a friendly squirrel asks him if he is okay. He responds by saying he is 'fine', until questioned a second time.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoMy Child Has Autism: How Do I Know the Program Is Working?
If the application of behavioral techniques does not produce large enough effects for practical value, then the application has failed. Practical value is whatever you define as meaningful for your child's life.
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2 days agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 37 and the happiest I've ever been arrived the year I stopped trying to be happy - not because I gave up but because I finally understood that happiness isn't a thing you build, it's a thing you notice when you stop building long enough to look around - Silicon Canals
Happiness cannot be treated as a goal; it emerges when one stops pursuing it as a project.
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fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals
Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI spent three months waking up at 5am and tracking every metric I could find - sleep quality, word count, mood, energy - and the data told a story my ego didn't want to hear: I was measurably worse at everything that mattered - Silicon Canals
Waking up at 5am initially boosted productivity but ultimately led to disappointment and self-reflection.
#grief
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fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology explains people who remain joyful into their 70s aren't the ones who suffered least - they're the ones who grieved most honestly, who let the losses be as large as they actually were, and who came out the other side with enough room left to let something good back in - Silicon Canals
Genuine happiness in old age often comes from embracing grief and loss rather than avoiding it.
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fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a kind of exhaustion specific to people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s - not physical tiredness but the cumulative weight of having been reliable for so long, for so many people, with so little reciprocity, that they genuinely cannot remember what it felt like to be the one who was taken care of - Silicon Canals
Reliability can overshadow personal identity, leading to emotional exhaustion and a lack of self-care.
fromBuzzFeed
5 days agoI Was Drinking A Liter Of Vodka A Day. Then A Single Word From My Son Caused Me To Seek Help.
During my teenage years, I associated alcohol with the good times: birthdays, house parties and summer holidays. It wasn't until I left home for college that my drinking took a dark turn.
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fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI grew up lower middle class and the thing nobody explains is how the financial anxiety doesn't leave when the money arrives. You can have six months of savings and still feel the phantom weight of an empty account because your nervous system was calibrated in a house where the math never quite worked and it stored that frequency permanently - Silicon Canals
Chronic stress from childhood financial instability affects adult behavior and emotional responses to money.
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fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
5 days agoTrapped and Alone: Fear of ICE Is Deepening Postpartum Isolation for Immigrant Mothers | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Immigrant mothers face isolation and stress during childbirth due to fears of deportation and separation from family.
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fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says keeping your phone on silent isn't a communication preference - it's a nervous system preference, and the people who need it most are often the ones who spent years being on-call for everyone else's emergencies - Silicon Canals
Constant phone notifications can trigger stress responses, leading some to keep their phones on silent as a protective measure for their nervous system.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the reason self-improvement feels harder after 60 isn't diminished capacity - it's that for the first time you can't use the future as a consolation prize, which means you have to want the change for its own sake, right now, which is actually the only reason it ever worked - Silicon Canals
Self-improvement becomes urgent after sixty as the future feels limited and the time for change is now.
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days agoMental breakdown': oil tanker workers stuck in Gulf for six weeks are reaching their limit
After six weeks stranded in the Gulf, one of the 20,000 seafarers trapped by Iran's chokehold on the strait of Hormuz is reaching their limit. We're at anchor, near dozens of loaded tankers. No one has moved an inch.
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1 week agoI'm 66 and I just realized that the things I used to call my personality - punctual, tidy, self-sufficient, never dramatic - were survival strategies I developed before I was ten and kept running long after they stopped being necessary - Silicon Canals
Coping mechanisms developed in childhood can become mistaken for core personality traits, impacting adult behavior and identity.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoTwo generations are currently arguing about work ethic when what they're actually arguing about is whether suffering should be a prerequisite for dignity. One generation believes it is because that was the deal they were offered. The other is trying to renegotiate. - Silicon Canals
Generational differences in work ethic stem from a broken contract between Boomers and Gen Z regarding dignity and economic stability.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says people who feel purposeless after 50 aren't lost - they've simply outgrown a self that was built entirely around what other people needed from them - Silicon Canals
Identity can be lost when roles defined by others are removed, leading to a journey of self-discovery.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe quiet power of doing nothing - why highly sensitive people who protect their solitude aren't avoiding life, they're preserving the energy most people burn through by noon - Silicon Canals
Solitude is often undervalued in a culture that glorifies constant activity and productivity.
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