Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 hours agoBeyond Inclusion: Liberating LGBTQ+ Athletes
LGBTQ+ athletes face unique stressors that impact their performance and well-being due to the need to manage their identities in sports environments.
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#community-management #digital-communities #positive-change #zumba-fitness #zumba #conflict-management #nimh
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fromSilicon Canals
5 hours agoTwo generations are currently arguing about work ethic when what they're actually arguing about is whether suffering should be a prerequisite for dignity. One generation believes it is because that was the deal they were offered. The other is trying to renegotiate. - Silicon Canals
Generational differences in work ethic stem from a broken contract between Boomers and Gen Z regarding dignity and economic stability.
#loneliness
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoPsychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals
Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the loneliness that arrives after 65 isn't an inevitable feature of aging - it's the accumulated result of every friendship that was allowed to thin, every phone call that was delayed, every invitation that wasn't extended, compounded quietly over decades until the social life that once maintained itself without effort requires more effort than it has ever required and more energy than is currently available - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from a series of small decisions that weaken social connections over time.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoPsychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals
Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI used to be lonely and now I'm not, and the honest version of how that happened isn't that I found my people - it's that I stopped waiting for someone to come find me and quietly became someone worth finding - Silicon Canals
Loneliness stems from perceived social isolation, not just being alone; true connection requires internal change rather than external circumstances.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the loneliness that arrives after 65 isn't an inevitable feature of aging - it's the accumulated result of every friendship that was allowed to thin, every phone call that was delayed, every invitation that wasn't extended, compounded quietly over decades until the social life that once maintained itself without effort requires more effort than it has ever required and more energy than is currently available - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from a series of small decisions that weaken social connections over time.
#solitude
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoThe quiet power of doing nothing - why highly sensitive people who protect their solitude aren't avoiding life, they're preserving the energy most people burn through by noon - Silicon Canals
Solitude is often undervalued in a culture that glorifies constant activity and productivity.
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fromSilicon Canals
20 hours agoPsychology says people who genuinely enjoy being alone aren't missing the need for connection - they've located the one condition under which their full self is available, and that condition happens to require an empty room, and there is nothing wrong with that except that the world was not designed with them in mind and has been making them feel guilty about it ever since - Silicon Canals
Society often mislabels the need for solitude as a deficiency, while those who recharge alone are more emotionally stable and focused.
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fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoPsychology explains people who grew up with very little affection become adults who are deeply uncomfortable being comforted - not because they don't need it but because need, expressed openly, was never safe, and the body that learned that keeps flinching from the very thing it was always asking for - Silicon Canals
Experiencing a lack of affection in childhood can lead to difficulties in accepting comfort and expressing needs in adulthood.
#burnout
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoWhy So Many People Burn Out at Work
Burnout results from high demands, limited resources, and unmet psychological needs, not just workload alone.
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fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
#anxiety
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoPeople who hate phone calls aren't being rude - they grew up in homes where the phone ringing meant something was wrong - Silicon Canals
Phone calls often evoke anxiety due to their association with bad news and unpredictability, reinforcing a sense of threat over time.
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fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoPeople who hate phone calls aren't being rude - they grew up in homes where the phone ringing meant something was wrong - Silicon Canals
Phone calls often evoke anxiety due to their association with bad news and unpredictability, reinforcing a sense of threat over time.
#aging
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fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoPsychology says people who describe their 70s as the best years of their life aren't looking back through a nostalgic filter - they've simply reached the age at which the things that were costing them the most have expired, and what remains when the performance obligations, the career pressure, and the need for approval all fall away at once is frequently the first honest version of a person's life they have ever been able to live - Silicon Canals
Older adults often experience increased life satisfaction as they shed psychological attachments that previously defined their identity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals
Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoPsychology says people who describe their 70s as the best years of their life aren't looking back through a nostalgic filter - they've simply reached the age at which the things that were costing them the most have expired, and what remains when the performance obligations, the career pressure, and the need for approval all fall away at once is frequently the first honest version of a person's life they have ever been able to live - Silicon Canals
Older adults often experience increased life satisfaction as they shed psychological attachments that previously defined their identity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals
Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology explains the reason some people grow sweeter with age while others grow bitter has nothing to do with how hard their life was - it's about whether they learned to grieve their losses or hoard them - Silicon Canals
Aging can lead to either bitterness or sweetness, depending on how one processes life's hurts and losses.
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fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoPsychology says people who intentionally limit their social media use aren't more disciplined than everyone else - they became more honest about what the unlimited version was replacing, which was the interior life, the undirected thought, the boredom that produces things, and once they understood what was being replaced they didn't need discipline, they needed only the honesty to stop - Silicon Canals
Boredom can lead to meaningful engagement and creativity, rather than being a sign of lack of activity.
#therapy
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says boomers who learned to 'just get on with it' aren't emotionally stunted - they built a coping architecture that millennials are now paying therapists to reconstruct - Silicon Canals
UK spending on private therapy has risen over 40% in a decade, with millennials as the largest demographic seeking treatment for emotional issues.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says boomers who learned to 'just get on with it' aren't emotionally stunted - they built a coping architecture that millennials are now paying therapists to reconstruct - Silicon Canals
UK spending on private therapy has risen over 40% in a decade, with millennials as the largest demographic seeking treatment for emotional issues.
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fromwww.theguardian.com
14 hours agoNot unique to war': millions of Americans suffer from moral injury. What's causing it?
Moral injury, recognized by the American Psychiatric Association, arises from actions contradicting deeply held beliefs, affecting mental health across various contexts.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who feel a persistent low-level sadness they cannot attribute to any specific cause aren't depressed in the clinical sense - they're experiencing the accurate emotional response to a life that has drifted, incrementally and without announcement, away from the one they meant to live, and the sadness is not a symptom, it is a signal, and signals are not treated, they are followed - Silicon Canals
Low-grade melancholy may signal a disconnect between current life and expectations, rather than being a symptom of depression.
#emotional-health
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who've mastered not caring aren't detached - they went through a period of caring so much it nearly broke them, and came out the other side with a much shorter list - Silicon Canals
Mastering the art of not caring comes from exhaustion, not indifference, after deeply caring and learning what deserves emotional energy.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who've mastered not caring aren't detached - they went through a period of caring so much it nearly broke them, and came out the other side with a much shorter list - Silicon Canals
Mastering the art of not caring comes from exhaustion, not indifference, after deeply caring and learning what deserves emotional energy.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI grew up in the 1970s and the closest thing I had to therapy was my uncle telling me to 'walk it off' after I broke my collarbone - and that phrase became my entire emotional philosophy for the next fifty years - Silicon Canals
Some emotional wounds cannot be healed by simply ignoring them; they require acknowledgment and processing.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere is a specific kind of pride that belongs to people who grew up being told to figure it out. It looks like strength from the outside. From the inside it feels like a locked door they built so well they lost the key. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is a socially rewarded trauma response, often masking deeper emotional needs and issues within modern work culture.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere was a moment in my late twenties when I realized every close friendship I'd lost wasn't a relationship that ended. It was a version of myself that could only exist around those specific people, and the grief was never about them leaving. It was about that version of me having nowhere left to live. - Silicon Canals
Friendship dissolution often signifies the loss of a version of oneself rather than just the loss of a relationship.
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fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who were told they were gifted as children often grow into adults who avoid challenges - because their identity was built on being naturally good, not on getting better - Silicon Canals
Labeling children as 'gifted' can hinder their growth by tying their self-worth to innate talent rather than effort and improvement.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific kind of grief that belongs to people who outgrew their hometown but never fully arrived anywhere else. They're not homesick for the place. They're homesick for the version of themselves that didn't yet know the place was too small. - Silicon Canals
Returning to one's hometown reveals a paradox of searching for a lost self rather than a changed place.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals
Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere is a version of grief that only people in their forties understand. It's not for someone who died. It's for the life you were quietly building in your head for twenty years that you now realize was never going to happen, and the mourning has no name because the thing you lost never existed outside your own planning. - Silicon Canals
Midlife reckoning involves mourning an imagined life that never existed, rather than regret for choices made.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals
Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals
Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
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fromIndependent
4 days agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
#emotional-labor
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who are quietly unhappy with life don't always look unhappy - they look tired, they look busy, they look like they're managing, and the managing is the performance and the performance is the problem and the problem is invisible to everyone who mistakes a well-maintained surface for evidence of what's underneath it - Silicon Canals
Quiet unhappiness manifests as chronic exhaustion and the performance of being okay, often disguised by busyness and emotional labor.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
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fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe loneliest people at the party are often the ones everybody knows - they've become so reliable at reflecting others back to themselves that nobody ever thinks to ask what's actually happening behind their eyes - Silicon Canals
Being the social mirror for others can lead to feelings of loneliness and invisibility, despite appearing socially connected.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the reason walking away from disrespectful people feels like guilt instead of freedom is because you were raised in an environment where your comfort was never a valid reason to make someone else uncomfortable - and unlearning that equation is the hardest boundary work there is - Silicon Canals
Walking away from disrespectful relationships is essential for personal peace, despite feelings of guilt rooted in past conditioning.
fromPsychology Today
6 days agoPeople With Bipolar and BPD Struggle in Mental Healthcare
There is a unique kind of pain in losing your mind, not just once, but over and over. Losing your perception of reality, of your emotions, of your closest relationships-both across months and multiple times a day. Knowing deep down that something is wrong but being unable to stop it.
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