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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoNobody talks about why self improvement quietly works for some people and turns into a treadmill for everyone else, and it isn't discipline or the right system, it's that the ones it works for stopped trying to become someone new, and started removing the things blocking the person who was already there - Silicon Canals
Self-improvement fails when it feels like a performance; true change comes from uncovering your existing self rather than building a new identity.
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
22 hours agoFrom Toronto to Edmonton: The diaspora carrying Ukraine's fight across the world - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
Ukrainian communities abroad are not just watching the war unfold; they are actively carrying part of that fight forward, embodying a living extension of Ukraine itself.
Canada news
#retirement
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours agoNobody talks about what actually happens to your friendships in the first years of retirement, and it isn't drama or fallouts, it's the quiet Tuesday afternoon you realise some people only knew the working version of you, and there's nothing left to talk about now that the building between you is gone - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to the fading of work friendships, revealing that many connections were based solely on the work context.
Renovation
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 66 and I've been retired for two years and the loneliness isn't what I expected - it's not about being alone, I have a wife, I have children, I have neighbors - it's about no longer being the person a room turns toward when a decision needs to be made, and that shift from being needed to being included is the quietest demotion there is - Silicon Canals
The loneliness of retirement stems from feeling unnecessary as roles and needs change over time.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says there's a specific version of loneliness that only shows up in retirement - not the absence of colleagues or the silence of mornings, but the slow understanding that the version of you the world was interested in was the one producing, performing, solving, and the version sitting at home in a quiet kitchen is someone the world has gently agreed to stop asking about - Silicon Canals
Retirement loneliness stems from losing one's identity and purpose, not just from missing social connections.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe retirement crisis nobody is talking about isn't financial - it's that a generation raised to measure their worth in output is now expected to rest, and rest feels dangerously close to worthlessness - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to a loss of identity and purpose when work defines self-worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the people who finally meet themselves in their 60s and 70s aren't reinventing anything, they're meeting the original person who got buried under decades of being useful to everyone else, and the relief they feel is recognition, not discovery - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to self-discovery, revealing the original self buried under roles and responsibilities.
fromIndependent
4 days ago'That tension has always been around in my life, being mixed race and growing up in Ireland with Hong Kong heritage'
Choy-Ping Ní Chléirigh-Ng expresses that growing up in Wicklow as a mixed-race individual often felt isolating, as they navigated their identity in a small town.
Arts
fromColossal
3 days agoContrast Reigns in Austn Fischer's Conspicuous Black-and-White Photos
"I started doing photography as a way to express things I don't understand or to convey a message I'm having a hard time explaining. I often work in quite a backwards way, knowing exactly what I want to arrange in front of the camera but struggling to understand the significance in my life until I am able to reflect on it after."
Arts
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who answer emails at 11 PM aren't more committed than people who don't - they've lost the boundary between availability and identity, and the late-night reply isn't proof that they care more about the work, it's proof that the work has colonized every hour of their day, and they stopped noticing because the invasion happened so gradually it felt like dedication instead of surrender - Silicon Canals
Being constantly available for work can lead to losing personal identity and boundaries.
#entrepreneurship
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
#theater
Arts
fromMetro Silicon Valley | Silicon Valley's Leading Weekly
5 days ago(Un)Documents in San Jose | Metro Silicon Valley | Silicon Valley's Leading Weekly
A theatrical roller coaster evokes empathy for generational pain caused by politics, focusing on personal experiences of deportation and identity.
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe loneliest people at any gathering are almost never the ones standing alone by the wall. They're the ones laughing in the middle of the group who will drive home afterward in complete silence and not call anyone about it. - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from being surrounded by people who believe they know you, rather than from physical absence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals
The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe loneliest people at any gathering are almost never the ones standing alone by the wall. They're the ones laughing in the middle of the group who will drive home afterward in complete silence and not call anyone about it. - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from being surrounded by people who believe they know you, rather than from physical absence.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere's a version of loneliness that only arrives inside a crowded room full of people who like you, and it comes from the slow realization that what they like is a performance you can no longer remember choosing to start - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can persist even in social settings, stemming from a disconnect between one's true self and the persona they project.
#social-anxiety
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says people who keep adjusting their personality to suit the room aren't socially skilled - they're exhausted, and they've been exhausted since childhood - Silicon Canals
Constantly adapting one's personality can lead to exhaustion and loss of personal identity, rather than being a sign of social skill.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says people who are warm in public but distant in private aren't being fake in either setting - they've built an entire social identity around the version of themselves that performs well in rooms and they genuinely don't know who shows up when the room is empty - Silicon Canals
People may develop a polished public persona that overshadows their true self, leading to a disconnect between social performance and personal identity.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoMost people don't realize that the sharpest loneliness in midlife isn't having no friends - it's having friends who knew an earlier version of you and have no interest in meeting who you've become - Silicon Canals
Loneliness in midlife often stems from friends not updating their understanding of each other, rather than a lack of social connections.
fromItsnicethat
1 week agoRiz Ahmed's new show Bait has a spy-spoof title sequence masterminded by Pentagram partners
"Given the impetus of the plot involves James Bond - the world's most famous spy - undertones of the genre of intelligence and espionage are alluded to, in both the choice of a monospace typeface, ABC Rom Mono, and in the widely tracked, code-like setting of it."
Television
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who accomplished remarkable things by 60 share one pattern - they changed their minds more often and their identity less often - Silicon Canals
Identity transformation can lead to personal fulfillment, while rigid opinions may hinder growth and authenticity.
London music
fromIndependent
1 week agoSam McBride: When one generation takes its lead from Rory McIlroy and the next from Kneecap, the future is impossible to predict
Rory McIlroy unites Northern Ireland through his inclusive identity and focus on sporting achievement, transcending traditional divisions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the most isolating part of getting older isn't having fewer people around you - it's having fewer people who knew you when you were whole and fast and full of plans, because the version of you that exists in other people's memory is shrinking at the same rate as the guest list, and one day you'll be the only person alive who remembers what you were capable of - Silicon Canals
The hardest part of aging is losing connections to those who remember different versions of ourselves.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals
People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI retired two years ago and the part nobody warned me about isn't the boredom or the loss of purpose. It's that the friendships I thought were mine actually belonged to the job, and the job took them when it left. - Silicon Canals
Retirement reveals that many friendships were based on shared work experiences rather than genuine connections.
fromKqed
1 week agoWhat Draws People Into Cults? A New Book Tracks Two Followers
Hippies placed a premium on freedom, on the right to improvise their lives as they saw fit. And yet the 1960s and seventies also revealed the limits of freedom - how an endless array of options could be confusing, overwhelming, even debilitating.
Books
fromIndependent
1 week ago'Living with a rare disease like Hurler syndrome hasn't held me back - it's given me the best life'
One in every 17 people has a rare disease - I'm one of those people. I have mucopolysaccharidosis type I. It's more commonly known as 'Hurler syndrome', but even when I use that term, no one I meet has ever heard of it.
Medicine
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks agoFrom Andrew Tate to Mountbatten-Windsor, my first name has been dragged through the mud. Can a global community of Drews' help change that?
The Council of Andrews is dedicated to uplifting the Drewish Community towards prosperity and self-actualization, creating a space for positive interactions among those sharing the name.
Online Community Development
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoA letter to the person who is terrified of giving up being single: the freedom you're protecting is real, and the loneliness you're tolerating is also real, and the courage isn't in choosing one over the other, it's in admitting you've been holding both this entire time - Silicon Canals
Long-term singleness can bring both genuine freedom and loneliness, challenging the narratives of being either broken or enlightened.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere's a kind of exhaustion specific to people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s - not physical tiredness but the cumulative weight of having been reliable for so long, for so many people, with so little reciprocity, that they genuinely cannot remember what it felt like to be the one who was taken care of - Silicon Canals
Reliability can overshadow personal identity, leading to emotional exhaustion and a lack of self-care.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks agoThe sheila is returning to Australian culture, riding on a new wave of bogan feminism' | Maria Lewis
The request is made in her signature Aussie drawl, something that musicians attempting to break into the international market would attempt to disguise in decades previous. Yet for the Amyl and the Sniffers frontwoman, everything from her peroxide mullet to proudly bogan background has become an important hallmark.
London music
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