Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoWhat Shapes Your Words Before You Speak
Internal responses shape our words; a pause fosters awareness and leads to clearer communication.
#authenticity
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#communication
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI've noticed that the moment I stop trying to impress someone is the exact moment they start leaning in and asking real questions - like people can smell performance from a mile away even if they can't name what feels off - Silicon Canals
Authenticity in conversation fosters genuine connection, while performance creates a barrier that hinders true interaction.
Fashion & style
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNobody tells you that the most attractive version of yourself might not arrive until your late 40s - after you've stopped dressing for approval and started dressing like someone who already knows who they are - Silicon Canals
Authenticity and comfort in one's own skin are more attractive than trying to conform to societal expectations.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
2 days agoI cofounded Angie's List. People recognize me when I'm running to the grocery store in sweats.
When we started Angie's List in Columbus, Ohio, in 1995, it was called Columbus Neighbors. I was the only employee, and I was the one who answered the phones and went door-to-door signing up contractors to join.
Marketing
#people-pleasing
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the worst part of people-pleasing isn't the exhaustion - it's realizing that no one actually knows you because you never gave them the real version - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to exhaustion and prevents genuine intimacy, as it creates a façade that others connect with instead of the true self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals
Genuine confidence stems from self-awareness, not the need to broadcast one's worth or achievements.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoYou know you've been lonely for too long when someone asks how are you and you can feel yourself giving the performance answer before you've even decided whether to tell the truth - Silicon Canals
Society often encourages superficial responses to inquiries about well-being, leading individuals to mask their true feelings.
fromwww.mediaite.com
5 days agoBritish Lawmaker Caught Using AI-Generated Image of Fake, Deformed Supporters
Many of the supposed supporters in the image had deformed and warped faces, including several whose eyes appeared to be missing. Instead of hands, the supporters were pictured with bizarre, deformed sausage fingers, holding Reform UK signs with nonsensical text.
UK politics
SF LGBT
fromQueerty
6 days agoHoney Dijon on her proudest career moment: "I get to choose my day as a marginalized trans woman of color" - Queerty
Surviving as a marginalized trans woman of color, Honey Dijon emphasizes authenticity, cultural respect, and financial prudence in her successful music career.
#relationships
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals
Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoYou know you have a high-quality woman in your life if you feel more like yourself around her than you do alone - not because she completes you, but because her presence creates the specific condition under which the version of you that doesn't need to perform anything gets to simply exist - Silicon Canals
Authentic relationships allow individuals to be themselves without the pressure of performance.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
1 week agoThe Right Thinks I Don't Exist. The Left Thinks I'm a Liability. I'm Just Trying to Figure Out How to Live.
Transgender individuals in America face increasing legislative attacks, yet embracing authenticity and gender expansiveness is crucial for survival and fulfillment.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere are two types of tired. There's the kind where sleep fixes it. And there's the kind where you've been agreeable for so long that you don't know what your own opinions sound like unedited and the fatigue is existential and no amount of rest touches it because rest isn't the deficit - Silicon Canals
Soul tiredness stems from the exhaustion of constantly filtering oneself and prioritizing peace over authenticity.
Marketing
fromMuse by Clios | Discover the latest creative marketing and advertising news. Muse by Clio is the premier news site covering creativity in advertising and beyond.
1 week agoThe 79 Percent Rule: Why Honest Brands Win | Muse by Clios
Honesty in branding and communication is essential for agencies to differentiate themselves in a saturated market.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI walked away from a fifteen-year friendship last year and the hardest part wasn't the loss. It was realizing I'd been auditioning for a role the entire time, and the version of me that friendship required was someone who never disagreed, never needed anything, and never outgrew the dynamic. The grief wasn't for the friend. It was for the years I spent performing. - Silicon Canals
True friendship requires authenticity and conflict, not just compliance and absence of disagreement.
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoMental health
I'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology
People who are kind and intelligent but have no close friends have usually spent so long being competent in every situation that they've forgotten, or never learned, how to be helpless in front of someone - and helplessness, offered honestly, is one of the primary raw materials that close friendship has always been made from - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe friends you can call after six months of silence and pick up exactly where you left off aren't low maintenance. They're the only people who ever loved the version of you that exists between performances. - Silicon Canals
Friendships that endure long silences are often deeper and more honest than those requiring constant interaction.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI walked away from a fifteen-year friendship last year and the hardest part wasn't the loss. It was realizing I'd been auditioning for a role the entire time, and the version of me that friendship required was someone who never disagreed, never needed anything, and never outgrew the dynamic. The grief wasn't for the friend. It was for the years I spent performing. - Silicon Canals
True friendship requires authenticity and conflict, not just compliance and absence of disagreement.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPeople who are kind and intelligent but have no close friends have usually spent so long being competent in every situation that they've forgotten, or never learned, how to be helpless in front of someone - and helplessness, offered honestly, is one of the primary raw materials that close friendship has always been made from - Silicon Canals
Real friendship is built on vulnerability and connection, not competence or capability.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe friends you can call after six months of silence and pick up exactly where you left off aren't low maintenance. They're the only people who ever loved the version of you that exists between performances. - Silicon Canals
Friendships that endure long silences are often deeper and more honest than those requiring constant interaction.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals
True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
fromScary Mommy
2 weeks agoWhitney Levitt Is Doing It All, Authentically & Apologetically Herself
I want to grow brands that I'm passionate about, and dirty soda has always been a part of my life. It wasn't just this viral moment that people who watch Secret Lives saw. It was something that's more sustainable.
Chicago
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI realized recently that I've spent years becoming whoever the room needed me to be - and now I honestly can't tell the difference between what I actually enjoy and what I've just been pretending to for so long it stuck - Silicon Canals
Constantly adapting to others' expectations can lead to losing touch with one's authentic self and preferences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals
Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.
#social-media
Social media marketing
fromHer Campus
2 weeks agoTHE RISE OF RELATABILITY AND THE FALL OF 'THE INFLUENCER'
A shift towards more relatable, authentic content on social media is emerging, moving away from traditional influencer culture.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology suggests the most attractive person in the room is almost never the one trying hardest to be - because effort in the direction of attractiveness is visible, and visibility of effort is the one thing that reliably cancels the effect it's trying to produce - Silicon Canals
Authenticity is more appealing than effortful perfection in social interactions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Women in technology
fromFast Company
3 weeks agoAI isn't just reshaping productivity and threatening to kill jobs. It's changing how we lead, communicate, and treat each other. It's also creating a new gender gap
Generative AI is reshaping communication, trust, and cultural interactions beyond productivity and efficiency concerns.
Startup companies
fromTechCrunch
3 weeks agoA new dating app, Sonder, has a deliberately annoying sign-up process (and it's working) | TechCrunch
Sonder aims to revolutionize dating apps by creating a more authentic and engaging user experience through unstructured profiles and unique in-person events.
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the people who actually escape loneliness don't do it by finding more people - they do it by finally dropping the version of themselves that made real connection impossible in the first place - Silicon Canals
Loneliness stems from a lack of genuine connection, not merely from being alone or having many acquaintances.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals
Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
fromTasting Table
3 weeks agoChef Aaron Sanchez Says This Tex-Mex Staple Is The 'Destruction Of Humanity' - Tasting Table
Chef Aarón Sánchez stated, "It's actually something that's super inaccurate ... I think it's the destruction of humanity," referring to fried tortilla bowls and their lack of authenticity.
Silicon Valley food
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks agoSoon publishers won't stand a chance': literary world in struggle to detect AI-written books
An editor expressed concern, stating that the Shy Girl incident could happen to any publisher, highlighting the industry's need for vigilance regarding the authenticity of submissions.
Books
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