#personal-growth

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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
45 minutes ago

Not everyone who keeps a small social circle is protecting their energy. Some of them built a wide one once, watched it reveal exactly how many people would show up during an actual emergency, and quietly restructured around the answer - Silicon Canals

Small social circles often result from past crises that reveal true friendships, rather than a preference for fewer connections.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours ago

The people who changed the most in their fifties and sixties weren't the ones who read the most books about it - they were the ones who experienced something that made the cost of staying the same feel higher than the cost of changing - Silicon Canals

Real change often comes from life experiences rather than information or self-help resources.
#happiness
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

Psychology says the happiest people aren't the ones who found their passion - they're the ones who stopped treating their life as a problem that needed solving - Silicon Canals

The relentless pursuit of passion may lead to unhappiness, while embracing diverse interests can foster a richer, more fulfilling life.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals

Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals

Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

Psychology says the happiest people aren't the ones who found their passion - they're the ones who stopped treating their life as a problem that needed solving - Silicon Canals

The relentless pursuit of passion may lead to unhappiness, while embracing diverse interests can foster a richer, more fulfilling life.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals

Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals

Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours ago

Psychology suggests people who push their chair back in when they leave a table aren't being polite - they're demonstrating a character that behaves the same way whether or not anyone important is watching, and that consistency, across every small unwitnessed moment, is the only version of character that has ever actually meant anything - Silicon Canals

Small actions reflect deeper character and consistency, revealing true identity when no one is watching.
fromTiny Buddha
12 hours ago

What My Body Taught Me: 13 Surgeries, One Coma, Countless Powerful Lessons - Tiny Buddha

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. I was born with spina bifida and faced multiple surgeries, leading to uncertainty about my ability to walk again. Despite the fear and pain, I refused to accept paralysis as my fate.
Medicine
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

I'm 66 and I just realized that the things I used to call my personality - punctual, tidy, self-sufficient, never dramatic - were survival strategies I developed before I was ten and kept running long after they stopped being necessary - Silicon Canals

Coping mechanisms developed in childhood can become mistaken for core personality traits, impacting adult behavior and identity.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
19 hours ago

Patrick Ball says even if 'The Pitt' didn't work out, it made him debt-free: 'They can't take that away from me'

I paid off my student loans like three months into 'The Pitt,' and that was a really profound moment 'cause I thought I was gonna die with it.
Television
Podcast
fromIndependent
22 hours ago

Jarlath Regan: 'I don't drink at all. I think of the misery the next day, it hits me so hard and it gets so dark afterwards'

Jarlath Regan shares personal experiences including giving up alcohol and donating a kidney to his brother.
#boundaries
Relationships
fromBustle
1 day ago

Hi! You Need Boundaries With Your Mom.

Setting boundaries with a parent can protect emotional well-being and individuality, especially in complex relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

The most liberating thing you can learn after 40 is that 'because I don't want to' is a complete and legitimate reason - not an opening argument - Silicon Canals

Saying 'no' without justification can lead to a more fulfilling life.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the reason walking away from disrespectful people feels like guilt instead of freedom is because you were raised in an environment where your comfort was never a valid reason to make someone else uncomfortable - and unlearning that equation is the hardest boundary work there is - Silicon Canals

Walking away from disrespectful relationships is essential for personal peace, despite feelings of guilt rooted in past conditioning.
Relationships
fromBustle
1 day ago

Hi! You Need Boundaries With Your Mom.

Setting boundaries with a parent can protect emotional well-being and individuality, especially in complex relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

The most liberating thing you can learn after 40 is that 'because I don't want to' is a complete and legitimate reason - not an opening argument - Silicon Canals

Saying 'no' without justification can lead to a more fulfilling life.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the reason walking away from disrespectful people feels like guilt instead of freedom is because you were raised in an environment where your comfort was never a valid reason to make someone else uncomfortable - and unlearning that equation is the hardest boundary work there is - Silicon Canals

Walking away from disrespectful relationships is essential for personal peace, despite feelings of guilt rooted in past conditioning.
#self-awareness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago
Psychology

Most people who overcame years of laziness didn't find motivation - they found a mirror they couldn't look away from - Silicon Canals

Mindfulness
fromTiny Buddha
1 week ago

When Self-Awareness Turns into Overthinking and How to Stop - Tiny Buddha

Self-awareness can shift from growth to self-surveillance, leading to overthinking and frustration instead of healing and clarity.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Most people who overcame years of laziness didn't find motivation - they found a mirror they couldn't look away from - Silicon Canals

Self-awareness is crucial for real change; many people misperceive their own behaviors and motivations.
Mindfulness
fromTiny Buddha
1 week ago

When Self-Awareness Turns into Overthinking and How to Stop - Tiny Buddha

Self-awareness can shift from growth to self-surveillance, leading to overthinking and frustration instead of healing and clarity.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why Highly Sensitive People Feel Compelled to Manage Others' Feelings

Highly sensitive people often absorb others' emotions, leading to rescuing behaviors that can hinder personal growth and resilience.
Berlin
fromEsquire
1 day ago

The Best New Hotels in the World 2026

Modern hospitality balances guest comfort with the desire for adventure, creating authentic experiences that facilitate personal growth during travel.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

8 things people in their 30s quietly stop doing that everyone in their 20s thinks are essential - Silicon Canals

People in their 30s reassess priorities, realizing that not all friendships or activities require equal investment of time and energy.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who seem unbothered by criticism aren't the ones who stopped caring what others think. They're the ones who moved the evaluation internally, and the transfer happened so quietly that other people mistook a change in audience for a change in sensitivity. - Silicon Canals

Handling criticism reveals more about personal growth than mere sensitivity or emotional maturity.
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 day ago

I came up with the 'burned haystack' dating method. It helped me find Mr. Right.

The Burned Haystack Dating Method helps women navigate dating apps, but personal experiences led to a temporary withdrawal from dating.
#emotional-health
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says people who've mastered not caring aren't detached - they went through a period of caring so much it nearly broke them, and came out the other side with a much shorter list - Silicon Canals

Mastering the art of not caring comes from exhaustion, not indifference, after deeply caring and learning what deserves emotional energy.
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago
Mindfulness

I'm 37 and I've already learned that your body keeps score, your gut rarely lies, and your childhood follows you into every relationship - while pretending I had it all figured out at 25 - Silicon Canals

Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says people who've mastered not caring aren't detached - they went through a period of caring so much it nearly broke them, and came out the other side with a much shorter list - Silicon Canals

Mastering the art of not caring comes from exhaustion, not indifference, after deeply caring and learning what deserves emotional energy.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 37 and I've already learned that your body keeps score, your gut rarely lies, and your childhood follows you into every relationship - while pretending I had it all figured out at 25 - Silicon Canals

Emotional struggles and stress manifest physically, impacting health and well-being.
Bicycling
fromBikeMag
2 days ago

Laurie Greenland After Santa Cruz Syndicate: What's Next?

Laurie Greenland steps back from UCI Downhill racing to rediscover his passion for biking and focus on personal happiness over competition.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the grief that follows retirement isn't about losing your job - it's about the self that only existed inside the job, the one who was competent and needed and clearly defined, and that self doesn't retire when you do, it simply loses the only environment that was ever capable of calling it into existence - Silicon Canals

Retirement challenges identity, as losing a job often means losing a coherent sense of self.
Exercise
fromInsideHook
2 days ago

Do You Have "Shortcut Syndrome"? Here's How to Fix It.

Challenging oneself is essential for personal growth, but not all challenges suit everyone, especially in a frictionless modern life.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The thing boomers know now that younger generations are still learning the hard way - that the people who make you feel small usually need the room you're taking up - Silicon Canals

The people who need you to shrink are dealing with their own stuff. After decades of running my own electrical contracting business, I've worked in hundreds of homes. Rich people, poor people, and everyone in between. You know what I noticed? The people who treated me like I was beneath them were always the ones fighting their own battles.
Careers
#friendship
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I have no close friends and I do not say that as a confession or a complaint - I say it as the most accurate thing I know about my life right now, and I am trying to hold it with honesty rather than explanation, and some days the honesty is enough and some days it is the loneliest sentence I know how to say - Silicon Canals

Not having close friends can lead to freedom and clarity rather than feelings of failure.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

The hardest friendships to maintain aren't the ones with conflict. They're the ones where both people are growing but in different directions, and neither person is wrong, and there's no argument to have, just a slow widening that nobody caused and nobody can fix. - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end due to gradual emotional distance rather than specific events, highlighting the importance of recognizing blameless drift.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

If you aren't losing friends, you aren't growing up - and if that sentence has never once applied to you then either you are exceptionally lucky or you stopped growing somewhere and found it comfortable enough to stay - Silicon Canals

Growth sometimes requires letting go of friendships that no longer serve you.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I realized last month that I haven't had a real conversation with anyone other than my spouse in over a year - not because I'm antisocial but because every friendship I had required me to perform a version of myself I don't have the energy for anymore - Silicon Canals

Friendships can fade as personal identities evolve, leading to a disconnect between past selves and current realities.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 34 and I've started noticing that the friends I made in my twenties loved the version of me that was convenient for them. The version that said yes, split the bill when I couldn't afford it, and never made my problems anyone else's weight. Growing out of that person cost me half my contacts and none of my peace. - Silicon Canals

Social circles can shrink as people evolve, reflecting personal growth rather than failure in maintaining friendships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I watched my friendships disappear one by one - no fights, no drama - and then I realized it was me who changed - Silicon Canals

Friendships can fade as individuals change and evolve, often without conflict or clear reasons for the loss.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I have no close friends and I do not say that as a confession or a complaint - I say it as the most accurate thing I know about my life right now, and I am trying to hold it with honesty rather than explanation, and some days the honesty is enough and some days it is the loneliest sentence I know how to say - Silicon Canals

Not having close friends can lead to freedom and clarity rather than feelings of failure.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

The hardest friendships to maintain aren't the ones with conflict. They're the ones where both people are growing but in different directions, and neither person is wrong, and there's no argument to have, just a slow widening that nobody caused and nobody can fix. - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end due to gradual emotional distance rather than specific events, highlighting the importance of recognizing blameless drift.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

If you aren't losing friends, you aren't growing up - and if that sentence has never once applied to you then either you are exceptionally lucky or you stopped growing somewhere and found it comfortable enough to stay - Silicon Canals

Growth sometimes requires letting go of friendships that no longer serve you.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I realized last month that I haven't had a real conversation with anyone other than my spouse in over a year - not because I'm antisocial but because every friendship I had required me to perform a version of myself I don't have the energy for anymore - Silicon Canals

Friendships can fade as personal identities evolve, leading to a disconnect between past selves and current realities.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 34 and I've started noticing that the friends I made in my twenties loved the version of me that was convenient for them. The version that said yes, split the bill when I couldn't afford it, and never made my problems anyone else's weight. Growing out of that person cost me half my contacts and none of my peace. - Silicon Canals

Social circles can shrink as people evolve, reflecting personal growth rather than failure in maintaining friendships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I watched my friendships disappear one by one - no fights, no drama - and then I realized it was me who changed - Silicon Canals

Friendships can fade as individuals change and evolve, often without conflict or clear reasons for the loss.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Learn Self-Compassion in 5 Simple Breaths

Self-compassion is essential for personal growth and should be practiced as one would treat others with kindness and support.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I used to be lonely and now I'm not, and the honest version of how that happened isn't that I found my people - it's that I stopped waiting for someone to come find me and quietly became someone worth finding - Silicon Canals

Loneliness stems from perceived social isolation, not just being alone; true connection requires internal change rather than external circumstances.
Film
fromThe Independent
3 days ago

Halle Bailey on life after The Little Mermaid: 'I learnt how to block out the noise'

Halle Bailey embraces her identity as an old soul while navigating her career and personal growth in the entertainment industry.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says people who were told they were gifted as children often grow into adults who avoid challenges - because their identity was built on being naturally good, not on getting better - Silicon Canals

Labeling children as 'gifted' can hinder their growth by tying their self-worth to innate talent rather than effort and improvement.
#lgbtq
LGBT
fromQueerty
3 days ago

Being less shallow, frolicking on nude beaches & no more closeted Republicans: Gays share how they've changed over the years - Queerty

Gay individuals experience continuous evolution, particularly through coming out, learning from mistakes, and prioritizing mental health and relationships.
LGBT
fromQueerty
5 days ago

Gay men reveal the things they've vowed never to do again - Queerty

Many gay men shared personal commitments to avoid certain actions or decisions, reflecting on past experiences and lessons learned.
LGBT
fromQueerty
3 days ago

Being less shallow, frolicking on nude beaches & no more closeted Republicans: Gays share how they've changed over the years - Queerty

Gay individuals experience continuous evolution, particularly through coming out, learning from mistakes, and prioritizing mental health and relationships.
LGBT
fromQueerty
5 days ago

Gay men reveal the things they've vowed never to do again - Queerty

Many gay men shared personal commitments to avoid certain actions or decisions, reflecting on past experiences and lessons learned.
Writing
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

The kindness of strangers: I was taken aback by a rude remark. Then it hit me she was absolutely right

Perspective can transform challenges into opportunities for growth and gratitude.
#self-worth
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Nobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals

Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who feel successful at 50 aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped measuring their worth against an imaginary scoreboard they inherited at 23 - Silicon Canals

Measuring worth against inherited societal scorecards leads to disappointment and a distorted sense of success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Nobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals

Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who feel successful at 50 aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped measuring their worth against an imaginary scoreboard they inherited at 23 - Silicon Canals

Measuring worth against inherited societal scorecards leads to disappointment and a distorted sense of success.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of grief that belongs to people who outgrew their hometown but never fully arrived anywhere else. They're not homesick for the place. They're homesick for the version of themselves that didn't yet know the place was too small. - Silicon Canals

Returning to one's hometown reveals a paradox of searching for a lost self rather than a changed place.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals

Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 66 and here's the one thing I'd tell my 30-year-old self - the life you keep postponing until you've earned it, finished it, or figured it out is not waiting for you at the end of the list, it is the list, and every item you check off before you let yourself begin is another year of your actual life spent preparing to live a different one - Silicon Canals

Life is happening now; waiting for the right moment to live only leads to missed opportunities.
fromConsequence
4 days ago

Ashlee Simpson Wants Another Shot at SNL Years After Viral 2004 Lip-Syncing Moment

I was publicly humiliated, called a fraud, a fake. It was devastating. I was so young, and I thought it would define me forever.
Music
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized last month that I've spent my entire adult life collecting achievements to outrun a feeling I can't name - and I genuinely have everything I was told to want versus feeling anything close to what I was promised it would feel like - Silicon Canals

Success can become an addictive trap that fails to deliver true fulfillment, leading to a cycle of chasing achievements without satisfaction.
fromIndependent
4 days ago

Louise O'Neill: 'I wanted to write the book that I'd like to have read in the early days of my break-up'

"I wonder why I wanted to be famous," she muses now, as we sit across from each other in The Pavilion cafe in Cork.
Books
Remodel
fromAol
6 days ago

This $1500 Renter-Friendly Wall Transformed a "Plain, Open Box" in Brooklyn

Kiron Akeem fulfilled a long-held dream of living in a loft in Brooklyn, transforming his space into a personal and professional growth opportunity.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I hated small talk for thirty years because I thought it was shallow - until I noticed that every meaningful relationship I've ever had started with a conversation about the weather, a shared queue, or a throwaway comment that neither of us expected to lead anywhere - Silicon Canals

Small talk serves as a gateway to deeper conversations and meaningful relationships, contrary to the belief that it is shallow and pointless.
fromFast Company
6 days ago

'I don't want to waste my days': Eva Longoria on thriving in your 50s

"I always ask myself what defines success for me. As I get older, it's not some superficial thing. I'm at a point where I don't want to waste my days."
Media industry
fromFast Company
6 days ago

What to do after a life-defining mistake

The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
Books
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals

Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals

People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Python
fromAntocuni
2 weeks ago

My first OSS commit turns 20 today

Contributing to Open Source for 20 years has led to significant personal and professional milestones, including career advancements and meaningful relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

People Don't Just Update Beliefs, They Test Them

Understanding psychological change requires recognizing the role of control and mastery in actively pursuing change despite familiar limitations.
#career-development
Careers
fromInfoQ
1 week ago

The Principal Engineer's Path: Skills, Strategies, and Lessons Learned

Careers are non-linear journeys requiring adaptability, influence, and support, not just technical expertise, to reach leadership roles like principal engineer.
Careers
fromInfoQ
1 week ago

The Principal Engineer's Path: Skills, Strategies, and Lessons Learned

Careers are non-linear journeys requiring adaptability, influence, and support, not just technical expertise, to reach leadership roles like principal engineer.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that the older you get, the less drama you can tolerate, the more solitude makes sense, and the clearer your standards become while outgrowing the life I once thought I wanted - Silicon Canals

Aging brings a shift in priorities, leading to a decreased tolerance for drama and a greater appreciation for peace and authenticity.
Mindfulness
fromMindful
1 week ago

Just One Thing: Be Kind to Yourself by Being Kind to Others

Recognizing the importance of kindness to others leads to personal peace and fulfillment.
Relationships
fromBustle
1 week ago

TikTok's "April Relationship Theory" Might Mean A Breakup Wave Is Coming

Spring prompts self-reflection and relationship evaluation, leading many to reconsider their partnerships during April.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Behavioral scientists found that the people who become less likeable with age but more respected are operating on a principle most people understand intellectually but can't execute emotionally - that respect and likeability are often inversely correlated after 60, because likeability requires you to shrink and respect requires you to hold your shape, and most people spent their first six decades shrinking and their last two deciding that holding their shape matters more than fitting into someone else's fra

Standing up for oneself can lead to decreased likability, but it is a necessary part of emotional maturity and self-respect.
Careers
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 week ago

I was a laid-off software engineer who pivoted into blue-collar work because of AI. One year in, I couldn't be happier.

Tabby Toney transitioned from software engineering to welding after being laid off, finding job security and satisfaction in her new career.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals

Self-awareness is essential for developing genuine empathy and emotional intelligence.
Writing
fromIndependent
1 week ago

Tanya Sweeney: My 200 16-week blowdry was transformational - then I was seduced by the prospect of self-improvement

Personal challenges can create chaos, but finding time for self-care is essential.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 66 and the thing I learned too late isn't that I should have traveled more or worked less - it's that I spent forty years waiting for permission to want things - Silicon Canals

Waiting for permission to want things can lead to missed opportunities and unfulfilled desires.
fromBuzzFeed
1 week ago

When My Career Stalled, I Got A Job At Olive Garden. I Was Shocked By What I Experienced There.

In the midst of all this chaos, I was struck with a deep sense of appreciation for what I was doing. All my anxieties about being too old for the job and my writing business falling apart dissipated, and I kind of fell in love with everything the place was.
Careers
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the reason some people become wiser as they age while others become more rigid has nothing to do with intelligence. It depends on whether they ever learned to sit with discomfort - Silicon Canals

Distress tolerance influences how individuals respond to discomfort, shaping their openness and adaptability in life.
Philosophy
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

I don't know what God is. But the search keeps me grounded and feeling alive | Karen Rinaldi

Finding God amidst uncertainty can be a grounding practice during challenging times.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the midlife crisis isn't about wanting something new - it's the moment you finally hear your own voice after decades of executing someone else's blueprint and mistake the unfamiliarity for chaos - Silicon Canals

Midlife crisis often reflects an identity confrontation rather than mere loss, revealing buried personal preferences and voices.
Writing
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

Johannes Radebe: I had always been warned to wear my flesh underwear. I did not that day'

Johannes Radebe is a celebrated dancer and performer, known for his achievements in dance and his recent memoir.
Music
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

Pop maverick Robyn on sleaze, snobbery and dating during IVF: When there isn't as much at stake, sex becomes more fun'

Robyn's new album reflects her personal growth and experiences as a single mother and artist after years away from the music scene.
Toronto
fromBlueJaysNation
1 week ago

Making baseball fun again fuelled Ernie Clement's rise to Blue Jays: 'I plan on doing that the rest of my career'

Ernie Clement emphasizes the importance of enjoying baseball, especially after facing challenges in his career.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that every major decision I've made in my adult life was designed to avoid disappointing people who stopped thinking about me the moment I left the room - and that's a lesson most people learn too late to rebuild - Silicon Canals

People often overestimate how much others notice and think about them, leading to unnecessary anxiety about others' judgments.
Careers
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 week ago

I was a Meta HR manager before getting laid off. If I could speak to my younger self, here's what I'd tell her.

Experiencing a layoff can be emotionally challenging, but it's important to acknowledge those feelings and take time to evaluate future paths.
Graphic design
fromCurbed
1 week ago

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