There have been times in all of our careers where we've been passed up, or we didn't get that next role when we felt like we were ready for it. And I said that the one thing that's really true to me is, I think that you can either choose to be bitter or you can be better.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. ~Viktor Frankl. For a long time, my first response to difficulty was a single, aching question: 'Why me?' It surfaced whenever life took an unexpected turn—when plans collapsed, when effort didn't materialize, when circumstances felt unfair and overwhelming.
We definitely were not at our best tonight. But we found a way to win. So if the Islanders are to be criticized for not being their best over the full course of the match, they must be praised for their resiliency. Or, as coach Patrick Roy described it, their confidence and swagger in knowing they could rally.
The following by John Steinbeck supports a well-lived life. "Greatness lies in the one who triumphs equally over defeat and victory." Steinbeck is encouraging us to risk fully participating in life, with both defeat and victory being inevitable. It means living life on life's terms, doing what we can to minimize being defeated by either defeat or victory. Let's look more closely at what it means to be defeated by defeat.
No reputable financial advisor would suggest risking your entire life savings on a single stock-like the old saying, Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Still, many people who might follow this financial advice often ignore it when it comes to their daily lives: their self-esteem may depend on whether they get promoted to VP at work, or their success as a parent is tied to their child getting into an Ivy League college or making the varsity football team;
Better Up There | The Story of Léo Slemett is an intimate documentary portrait of French freeride skier Léo Slemett that goes far beyond competition highlights and powder footage. Directed by alpinist-filmmaker Mathis Dumas, the film traces Slemett's journey from a talented Chamonix kid to a Freeride World Tour standout, while focusing less on results and more on the personal struggles that shaped him along the way.
As Americans feel increasingly pessimistic about the future, the pressure to "stay positive" has never been more intense-or misplaced. Psychology has long shown that suppressing difficult emotions does not make them disappear. It makes the nervous system more reactive. When sadness, fear, and anger are treated as problems to eliminate rather than signals to understand, the brain remains on high alert. This is one reason forced positivity so often backfires, amplifying anxiety rather than easing it.
If you're watching the Olympics this year, or have watched in the past, you've probably wondered how the top athletes in the world bolster themselves emotionally for high- stress situations, being exposed and visible to millions of viewers in difficult moments, and how they deal with failure and defeat and become resilient. Dr. Cindra Kamphoff, whose MD-level background in sports psychology, two decades of work with professional and Olympic athletics, and The High Performance Mindset podcast, has developed techniques that are helpful to people inside or outside of the sports arena.
Remember those summer days that stretched on forever? No phones buzzing, no parents tracking your every move, just you and your mates figuring things out until the streetlights came on. I grew up in the 80s outside Manchester, and looking back, I realize how different childhood was then. We didn't have helicopter parents or participation trophies; we had scraped knees, hurt feelings, and parents who expected us to sort it out ourselves.
Two Fridays ago, the squad signed a statement saying they couldn't carry on like this. And last Friday, the fans who've been through it all before decided they too would walk away. Yet 48 hours later, after another week that proved them right, resisting everything, there they were still, celebrating another implausible success, another day when they had stuck it to The Man.
"I have been reading a lot of messages and comments saying that what has happened to me makes them sad. Please, don't be sad," she wrote. "Empathy, love and support I welcome with an open heart, but please not sadness or sympathy." Instead, Vonn hopes her fall inspires strength. "I hope instead it gives you strength to keep fighting, because that is what I am doing and that is what I will continue to do. Always."
Firstborn daughters in immigrant families often grow up faster than they expect to. From a young age, they are entrusted with responsibilities that extend far beyond typical childhood expectations. These daughters take on multiple duties, including supporting their parents with language barriers, caring for their younger siblings, and serving as a bridge between their home culture and the broader society. Their experiences shape their understanding of responsibility, which in turn influences their self-worth and their pursuit of success.
Nearly half of 15,639 adults from 16 countries surveyed by VML's research practice Sonar put the high cost of living in the top five problems facing society, while 86% said they find that people are more divided and unwilling to listen to one another. Nearly two-thirds say they sometimes struggle to find meaning in the day-to-day. But consumers are choosing to feel optimistic.
Not so long ago,I found myself staring at my laptop screen, unemployed for the third month straight. The media industry cuts had claimed another victim, and that victim was me. At first, I told myself it was just a temporary setback. But as rejection emails piled up and freelance gigs barely covered my rent, I started wondering if this was less of a speed bump and more of a dead end.
For twenty years, QCon has tracked the industry's major inflections. As the conference marks its 20th anniversary with its 2026 events, the editorial stance remains consistent: sessions are curated by senior engineers, focusing on what has actually worked (and failed) in production. The upcoming programs for QCon London (March 16-19) and QCon San Francisco (November 16-20) apply this lens to a new set of compounding decisions: moving AI from experiment to reliable production and validating the ROI of platform engineering.
Much like the war in Ukraine, future battlefields could be drowning in electronic interference, so the US Army stress-tested new command-and-control tech against that threat. The need to maintain connections between command and deployed weapons and crews, or reestablish those links when they're lost, is shaping how soldiers train on the service's Next Generation Command and Control, a new software-driven system that's being developed for the Army.
Teens can retreat into themselves when they find themselves confronted by difficult emotional circumstances. At times it is important and constructive to leave them to themselves as they adjust to these challenges. Parents often find it emotionally troubling to watch as their child has difficulty and want to fix things. It is important for the development of independence that a child be left to learn how to work things out.
When we think about getting help for our mental health, therapy is often the first-and sometimes only-option that comes to mind. Therapy works, and for many people it is essential. But it is not the only effective path. Emerging evidence suggests that well‑designed coaching -especially when delivered inside an adaptive, stepped‑care model-can help people feel better faster, build emotional skills, and relieve pressure on an overburdened clinical system (Sagui Henson et al.).
On the night of her 60th birthday, Sally Goldner climbed on to the top rope of the wrestling ring, to the roars of the crowd, and launched herself on to her competitors with a missile dropkick. The crowd roared. For a second, she was completely airborne, before landing on her opponents. Wow, I'm doing this,' she thought. Exhilarating. I couldn't think of anything I'd rather be doing on my birthday.
Do you savor moments of joy? Or do you postpone it until easier times? When the world feels gray and shaky, joy might seem almost offensive-something for other people, something for other times. That real or imagined voice says, "What are you smiling about?" Or else, we are just too busy multitasking, keeping up, side-hustling; we don't have the time to smell the proverbial roses.
I'm forever going to stand 10 toes and show why my God is Almighty and will never put me in a situation that I can't get through. Wherever you at right now in my story, STAY THERE! I never needed motivation or a pat on the back! All I ever needed was an opportunity and as long as I got breath I got that! The turtle race continues.
I had trained for a full year to complete a self-supported bicycle tour from San Diego to Las Cruces, New Mexico. It was meant to be the next-to-last chapter in my coast-to-coast cycling journey - one more long stretch of road before the final piece fell into place. Thirty-four miles into the ride, it was over. A microfiber towel caught in my derailleur. A fluke. One of those things you never plan for and still struggle to explain afterward.
I still remember sitting in that Melbourne warehouse, surrounded by boxes of TVs, wondering how the hell I'd ended up there. Four years of psychology education, and here I was, moving electronics from one shelf to another. Every muscle ached, my pride was thoroughly bruised, and I couldn't shake the feeling that I'd somehow failed at life. But looking back now? That miserable job was one of the best things that ever happened to me.
If you were to read a book on how you should ski, she executes it near flawlessly, two-time Olympic gold medalist Ted Ligety said. Mikaela executes on all the most technical basis like a textbook. For example: She's a rhythmic racer, almost hearing the melodic beat of a song as she weaves through the gates along a slalom course. That almost effortless form helped the 30-year-old American lock up the slalom title on Jan. 25,
The war began the week of my 26th birthday. There was a lightness on that day, something born from what remained of our childhood. Sparks like candy, crackling in our mouths: colorful letters; laughter leaking out through voice notes; hearts adorning our text chats; an abundance of cake. But the days that followed are laid out like burnt matchsticks; once the first one was lit, the flames consumed the rest. The war spared nothing on the calendar; I have had no other birthdays since.
