"The fear of rejection is evolutionary-we are hardwired to avoid rejection in order to survive and protect social cohesion. In fact, research shows that rejection triggers the same brain regions as physical pain (Kross et al., 2011). While fearing the pain of rejection can lead to self-doubt, hesitation to pursue our desires, and feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness, the experience of rejection can actually build resilience."
"Rather than leaning into a rash reaction to rejection, tolerating the uncomfortable feelings and continuing to persevere can help us to maximize the common experience of rejection (Lesnick & Mendle, 2021). Negative emotions in response to rejection are expected-coping strategies like cognitive reappraisal, seeking social support, pursuing self-growth, and making changes using a problem-focused approach can help us to achieve success in the wake of rejection (Antletse Phiriepa et al., 2025)."
Rejection triggers brain regions associated with physical pain, reflecting an evolutionary drive to avoid social exclusion. Fear of rejection can produce self-doubt, hesitation, and feelings of inadequacy. Repeated exposure to rejection can build resilience if discomfort is tolerated and effort continues. Tolerating uncomfortable feelings and persevering helps people maximize the experience of rejection. Coping strategies such as cognitive reappraisal, seeking social support, pursuing self-growth, and making problem-focused changes increase the likelihood of success after rejection. Reframing rejection as proof of courage and intentionally pursuing high-risk goals can lead to unexpected breakthroughs and career-defining outcomes.
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