Thomas Berry once aptly noted, "The universe is a communion of subjects, not a collection of objects." This statement reinforces the need for a paradigm shift toward recognizing interconnectedness among all forms of life.
Empathy is perceived as an unqualified good, with societal belief suggesting that feeling each other's pain can heal issues such as relationship divides and social injustices. However, in romantic relationships, there can be an overemphasis on empathy, leading to an imbalance where one partner's pain overshadows the other's needs.
I had a gay professor in college at a time when openly gay folks still weren't out a lot, who became one of my favourite professors and was a great guy and would call me out when I started saying stuff that was ignorant.
Some interactions fill us up, even energize us. There's a connection, not a transfer. But others leave us depleted. There's a heaviness we feel, and perhaps a sense of confusion. We worked hard, and empathy might continue to radiate through us to the point of becoming anxious thoughts.
In a moment of crisis or deep self-doubt, what you need often isn't more reassurance... but a careful challenge: someone to help you spot the unhelpful loops in your thinking and hand you real tools to break free.
When I was 12, I was diagnosed with Lupus. It attacked my brain, and I had to relearn how to do everything. I lost my memory and had tremors in my entire body. I also couldn't walk; it was Cerebellar ataxia.