Mental health
fromPsychology Today
11 hours agoWhat Happens When We Simultaneously Seek and Avoid Intimacy?
Loneliness has escalated to a public health crisis, significantly impacting mortality rates and emotional well-being.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoPsychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals
Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoPsychology says people who would always rather call than text aren't demanding more of your time - they're asking for the one thing that separates a real conversation from the performance of one, which is the sound of another person being alive on the other end, and that need is not inconvenient, it is human - Silicon Canals
Phone calls foster deeper connections than text messages, capturing nuances of emotion that typed words cannot convey.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoHow "Supercommunicators" Make Conversations Work
There are three conversation types: practical, emotional, and social, with emotional intelligence playing a key role in effective communication.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 week agoThe Hidden Cost of Avoiding Hard Conversations
Avoiding difficult conversations damages relationships and creates emotional distance, compounding issues over time.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who command the most respect in a room aren't the loudest or most confident - they're the ones who can disagree without making others feel stupid for having believed something different - Silicon Canals
Respectful disagreement fosters genuine influence and encourages open dialogue.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoPsychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals
Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoPsychology says people who would always rather call than text aren't demanding more of your time - they're asking for the one thing that separates a real conversation from the performance of one, which is the sound of another person being alive on the other end, and that need is not inconvenient, it is human - Silicon Canals
Phone calls foster deeper connections than text messages, capturing nuances of emotion that typed words cannot convey.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who command the most respect in a room aren't the loudest or most confident - they're the ones who can disagree without making others feel stupid for having believed something different - Silicon Canals
Respectful disagreement fosters genuine influence and encourages open dialogue.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoMost people don't realize that the dishonest people in their lives rarely lie about facts - they lie about their intentions, and that specific distinction is why you keep feeling confused rather than simply hurt - Silicon Canals
Intention lies involve sharing true facts with hidden motives, making them difficult to detect.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the most important life lesson isn't learning to make better decisions - it's learning to live peacefully with the ones you can't undo - Silicon Canals
Irreversible choices shape our lives and learning to coexist with them is crucial for mental well-being.
fromFast Company
2 days agoWhat to do after a life-defining mistake
The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
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Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals
Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
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Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology suggests people who stay calm during conflict aren't less emotional - they learned early that the person who controls the temperature of the room controls the outcome, and they stopped reacting and started choosing - Silicon Canals
Controlling emotional responses during conflict can significantly influence the outcome of the situation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
fromPsychology Today
4 days agoPartnership on the Spiritual Path
Devon Hase states, 'People are trying desperately to fix, optimize, or escape their way out of relationship difficulty - and suffering more for the effort. Social media has made this worse! We're surrounded by images of perfect partnerships while quietly drowning in our own ordinary struggles.' This highlights the pressure couples feel in the age of social media.
Mindfulness
Mental health
fromIndependent
23 hours agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals
Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoNot everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals
People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoPeople With Bipolar and BPD Struggle in Mental Healthcare
There is a unique kind of pain in losing your mind, not just once, but over and over. Losing your perception of reality, of your emotions, of your closest relationships-both across months and multiple times a day. Knowing deep down that something is wrong but being unable to stop it.
Mental health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who go completely silent during an argument aren't giving you the silent treatment. They learned early that anything they said while emotional would be used as evidence against them later, so silence became the only statement that couldn't be misquoted. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can be a strategic choice rooted in childhood experiences of emotional expression being weaponized.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI stopped explaining myself when I apologize and the reactions taught me exactly which people in my life had been treating my explanations as retractions. To them, sorry with a reason attached meant sorry didn't really count, and sorry without one meant I was finally admitting fault on their terms. - Silicon Canals
Apologies without explanations reveal who truly listens and who seeks loopholes.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks agoHas Therapy Felt Useless? You May Have Been Misunderstood
Some people have excessive self-control causing emotional suppression and isolation, requiring specialized therapy approaches like Radically Open DBT instead of standard emotion-regulation focused treatments.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks agoWhy Mental Health Language Is Everywhere Now
Mental health terminology has migrated from clinical settings into everyday conversation, reducing stigma and increasing awareness, but clinical meanings shift in common speech, requiring precision for effective care and public discourse.
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks agoThe Deception of Depression
Depression is insidious. For people suffering from depression, joy is elusive. Depression is not only a general feeling of sadness or being down and out. It is a serious condition and needs attention. People suffering from depression cannot just get over it and move on. They need support, healing, and to discover the epicenter of their pain.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoPeople With Mental Illness Are Too Easily 'Othered'
Anyone who is under psychiatric care, or loves someone who is, may want to read the book The Devil's Castle: Nazi Eugenics, Euthanasia, and How Psychiatry's Troubled History Reverberates Today, by Susanne Paola Antonetta. If you care about history, particularly the history of eugenics, you may be interested as well. The book may offer us more respect for the mind, for consciousness, and its diversity.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Depression Clinicians Don't Talk About
They arrive on time, think clearly, and care about their clients. Outwardly, everything seems fine. In private, though, things can feel very different. A clinician's depression may not show up as clear despair. More often, it feels like emotional numbness, quietly withdrawing, or slowly losing interest in things that once mattered. Pleasure fades, curiosity lessens, and the work goes on, but it feels heavier and less alive.
Mental health
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoWhat I see in clinic is never a set of labels': are we in danger of overdiagnosing mental illness?
Ancient texts describe mental suffering resembling modern disorders, showing such conditions are timeless while psychiatric labels and diagnostic boundaries continue to change.
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