Mindfulness

Mindfulness

I have since learned that the most difficult yoga pose is the one which confronts each student's weaknesses head on. Strength poses were no challenge for this student, but perhaps a stretching asana would have been. I have also learned that strength means more than just confronting one's weaknesses; probably the most difficult "asana" of them all is standing on one's own feet, questioning and analyzing for oneself the deeper meaning of asana, yoga, and life.

For more than a decade, I managed the national advertising program for a large life insurance company. During that time, I had an odd secret desire. I wanted to manage national advertising for a coffee company. Why? Because I had already made up the tagline for my imaginary campaign: "The fuel of business." The corporation I worked for (in real life, not my imagination) had a huge headquarters with an excellent cafeteria, with its main attraction being a vast row of gleaming silver coffee machines.

I average around four hours of my day on my phone, checking emails, responding to texts, scrolling social media, and checking the weather. That's four hours I could be spending reading a book, writing an article, learning how to predict the weather, calling a loved one, and doing anything besides checking the time suck and brain rot that is social media sites and messaging apps.

Before the social media era, we super social humans were more than willing to dole out advice to anyone who asked. But with advice being thrown our way every time we pick up our phone, which young people do on average over a hundred times a day, it's easy to feel a bit overwhelmed and confused by the many voices telling us how we should live our lives.

For 22 years, I was a military wife, putting aside my needs to support my husband's career - all for the promise that after retirement, when our children were grown, we'd travel the world together. In 2018, retirement finally came, and not long after, our nearly 25-year marriage crumbled. When his military career ended, it felt like he lost his sense of purpose. I tried to hold things together, but the unhappiness and bitter fights left me drowning, too.

Here's the truth: When it comes to everyday messes, organized people don't necessarily have better habits, they just have different inner dialogue. For example, I'm the type of person who, behind the closed doors of closets, accumulates piles of papers and boxes without shame. Eventually, I reach a point where I can't tolerate those piles (usually, when I need more space for something else). But I know, in the interim, my mess doesn't indict me as a person.

Happy Sagittarius season! The sun entered this fun-loving and free-spirited fire sign last night, and the moon is here for most of the day too. The cosmic tides are beginning to shift, and energy should start feeling a little bit lighter. The afternoon could bring about some emotional frustrations, but look at challenging feelings as fortunate opportunities for growth instead of running from them in fear.

It's the holiday season, that tender time of year marked by Thanksgiving feasts, Christmas lights, and New Year's promises. It's also the time of year when many of us silently vow to ourselves that we'll treat the people around us with greater tenderness. No more passing people by as if they're props on a stage or obstacles to swerve around.

When we establish a personal culture, it allows us to infuse our daily life with our values. We can focus on excellence and safety in the ways that make sense to us. Without that deliberate effort, outside cultures can influence us more than we realize. We can end up adopting parts of hustle culture, living to work, or grinding when that wasn't our intention.

A recent study published in the journal, , discusses the relationship between mind wandering and mood, and suggests that it isn't mind wandering, itself, that is to blame for our unhappy states, but rather the emotional tone of our thoughts as they wander. Personally, I can certainly corroborate the effect of unhelpful self-talk and the less-than-awesome moods it can inspire. In developing the capacity to mindfully sit with my own thoughts, it didn't take long to notice just how many of them were judgmental, critical,

But in reality, as someone who works in news, social media, and editorial strategy, turning off my phone is not really possible. My job pretty much requires me to live in a constant dance with the internet - refreshing feeds, scanning headlines, catching micro trends before they bloom into macro ones. Staying plugged in isn't a cute habit I can gently shake off. For me, it's the golden ticket to crafting stories that feel timely and resonant.

While the decision initially felt right, I entered months of self-doubt and indecisiveness. In retrospect, it's obvious to me that my lack of clarity was social media-fueled - after all, it can make life feel like a competition over who can look the coolest and most successful. My own desires felt clouded by what I saw through small, digital windows.

I spent over 30 years in hospitality, and after leading three different hotel companies, I became CEO of Equinox. Then I went through some personal turbulence. Business Insider's Power Hours series gives readers an inside look at how powerful leaders in business structure their workday. See more stories from the series here, or reach out to editor Lauryn Haas to share your daily routine. In 2017, my home burned to the ground from the California wildfires.

We've got a smooth lake at the moment, Gilbert Enoka says, relaxing in the bar of England's team hotel in Perth a few days before the battle for the Ashes gets under way. But the series is going to start and then there's going to be really, really choppy water in terms of what we actually have to sail. All I want is to help the guys develop structures that can help them be reliable when those waves come.

These triggers often show up in ordinary moments. Maybe it's the tone of a relative's voice that feels critical, the stress of hosting a party, or seeing a social media post that highlights someone else's "perfect" holiday. You might notice your chest tightening or that you feel on edge around a family member who drinks too much, or suddenly tear up when a holiday tradition reminds you of someone you've lost.

Most mornings, my body wakes me up before my alarm... 4:58 a.m. Or maybe 4:59. Ping. After so many years of following a formula, it's become a wise habit. Even if it's Sunday and my teen woke me up at midnight making a bowl of cereal, my body is up. My body knows that waking up early helps me untangle my day.

On a hot August Wednesday, I approach the 600-acre Dhamma Suttama silent-retreat center in Montebello, Quebec, a ninety-minute ride from Montreal, where I'm spending the summer. My driver, a Cameroonian man in his forties, hooks into a narrow forest corridor. We pull up to a concrete parking lot that wraps around a building paneled with wood and stone. Built in the eighties as a high school, it's now made up of sleeping quarters and meditation halls.

When I retire, I will reply to every email I've ever flagged. (tapping on keyboard) I will clean up my desktop. I'll read the 35 years of saved articles on my reading list. I will finish all those books I started. I will play the lifetime of computer games I missed out on. (gaming noise) I'll birdwatch. I'll learn magpies are beautiful - but terrifying.

For some people, deep breathing exercises work like a charm. For others, not so much. If you fall into the latter category, you might enjoy the "five-finger breathing" technique, which adds a little something extra into the mix. On TikTok, creators are sharing their love for five-finger breathing, including user @mindfullymadetherapy, who said, "Sometimes just breathing isn't enough, and you need a coping skill that's multi-sensory [or] involving other senses to help distract or calm down the brain."