#hayden-silas-anhedoumlnia

[ follow ]
#mental-health #psychology #relationships #emotional-health #anxiety #parenting #resilience #personal-growth
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
14 hours ago

Always in crisis mode? You might be catastrophizing here's how to stop

Catastrophizing is a cognitive distortion where individuals jump to the worst possible conclusions, often leading to chronic distress and mental health issues.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

Psychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals

Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
15 hours ago

Psychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals

Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
#vulnerability
Parenting
fromTiny Buddha
14 hours ago

Why I Let My Kids See My Sadness Now (After Hiding It for Years) - Tiny Buddha

Embracing vulnerability allows deeper connections with loved ones, as hiding emotions can create barriers instead of fostering understanding and support.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals

True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
Parenting
fromTiny Buddha
14 hours ago

Why I Let My Kids See My Sadness Now (After Hiding It for Years) - Tiny Buddha

Embracing vulnerability allows deeper connections with loved ones, as hiding emotions can create barriers instead of fostering understanding and support.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals

True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
more#vulnerability
#grief
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the reason some people become gentler as they age while others become bitter has nothing to do with personality. It depends on whether they processed their grief along the way or stored it in their body and called it toughness - Silicon Canals

Grief, especially non-finite losses, significantly influences whether individuals become gentler or more bitter as they age.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

I've spent 20 years treading water and fear that I've wasted so much time. Am I depressed? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Struggles with personal identity and grief lead to feelings of stagnation and a desire for change in life circumstances.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the reason some people become gentler as they age while others become bitter has nothing to do with personality. It depends on whether they processed their grief along the way or stored it in their body and called it toughness - Silicon Canals

Grief, especially non-finite losses, significantly influences whether individuals become gentler or more bitter as they age.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

I've spent 20 years treading water and fear that I've wasted so much time. Am I depressed? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Struggles with personal identity and grief lead to feelings of stagnation and a desire for change in life circumstances.
more#grief
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Resilience and Reconstruction in Practice

A long-term approach is essential for supporting displaced individuals, emphasizing identity continuity and meaningful work for resilience.
Yoga
fromYoga Journal
1 day ago

Feeling Overwhelmed? Indecisive? Stuck? Yoga Can Help. Here's How.

Indecision can stem from a physical response to fear, leading to a state called 'functional freeze' that affects both body and mind.
#mental-health
fromGothamist
1 day ago
Healthcare

NewYork-Presbyterian agrees to bolster care for patients in mental health crisis

Healthcare
fromGothamist
1 day ago

NewYork-Presbyterian agrees to bolster care for patients in mental health crisis

NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital will implement reforms to improve mental health care following a settlement over inadequate patient supervision.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
16 hours ago

Finding Order in Disorder, a Bipolar Memoir

The memoir explores the journey of a dancer and educator navigating mental health challenges through creative expression and familial support.
more#mental-health
East Bay (California)
fromSFGATE
4 days ago

Amy Hillyard's husband details her mental health struggles in new interview

Amy Hillyard, a coffee shop owner, disappeared while managing mental health issues, leaving no clues behind on March 25.
#happiness
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the happiest people aren't the ones who found their passion - they're the ones who stopped treating their life as a problem that needed solving - Silicon Canals

The relentless pursuit of passion may lead to unhappiness, while embracing diverse interests can foster a richer, more fulfilling life.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Is Your Pursuit of Happiness Making You Sad?

Valuing happiness as a goal can lead to emotional bankruptcy and a self-defeating cycle of constant internal surveillance.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the happiest people aren't the ones who found their passion - they're the ones who stopped treating their life as a problem that needed solving - Silicon Canals

The relentless pursuit of passion may lead to unhappiness, while embracing diverse interests can foster a richer, more fulfilling life.
more#happiness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
58 minutes ago

People who go quiet when they're angry and then resolve it internally without ever bringing it up aren't emotionally mature. They've done the math on every confrontation and concluded that the cost of being heard has never once been lower than the cost of absorbing it alone. - Silicon Canals

Emotional maturity often misinterprets silence as resolution, overlooking the cost of expressing anger versus the cost of internalizing it.
#anxiety
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
12 hours ago

Why High-Functioning Adults Often Feel Anxious

High-functioning individuals often experience anxiety despite external success and competence, struggling to relax and feel regulated.
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago
Mental health

People who always respond with "fine" when asked how they are aren't lying - they learned, at some specific point in their life, that the true answer produced outcomes that were worse than the silence, and fine has been the silence ever since - Silicon Canals

Personal experiences with anxiety and emotional responses reveal deeper truths about coping mechanisms and the challenges of authentic communication.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
12 hours ago

Why High-Functioning Adults Often Feel Anxious

High-functioning individuals often experience anxiety despite external success and competence, struggling to relax and feel regulated.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

People who always respond with "fine" when asked how they are aren't lying - they learned, at some specific point in their life, that the true answer produced outcomes that were worse than the silence, and fine has been the silence ever since - Silicon Canals

Personal experiences with anxiety and emotional responses reveal deeper truths about coping mechanisms and the challenges of authentic communication.
more#anxiety
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who become extremely selective about their time in their forties aren't becoming antisocial. They've simply collected enough data to know exactly which interactions leave them feeling more like themselves and which ones require a recovery period that nobody sees. - Silicon Canals

Social interactions have an energetic and emotional cost that varies based on the individuals involved.
Yoga
fromYoga Journal
2 days ago

Want to Drastically Improve Your Life? Start Telling the Truth.

A society built on lies cannot survive, as truth is essential for meaningful interactions and human dignity.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

The Psychology of Apology in High-Stakes Failure

Sam Bankman-Fried framed the FTX collapse as mismanagement while publicly apologizing and denying intent, reflecting self-justification and reputation management.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours ago

Psychology says people who genuinely prefer being alone aren't antisocial or damaged - they've simply discovered that their own inner world is more honest, more interesting, and less exhausting than most rooms full of people, and that realization doesn't make them lonely, it makes them selective - Silicon Canals

People who prefer solitude are motivated by internal rewards and find fulfillment in solitary activities rather than social interactions.
Writing
fromTiny Buddha
5 days ago

Phone Down, Eyes Up: How to Really See the People We Love - Tiny Buddha

Offering attention is the most valuable gift we can give to others.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
10 hours ago

When Is the Right Time to Start Trauma Therapy?

Clinicians often delay trauma-focused treatment due to overestimating the need for stabilization, while avoidance drives PTSD symptoms and treatment delays.
#forgiveness
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours ago

The people who forgive quickly and the people who forgive slowly are not experiencing the same emotion. Quick forgiveness is often a nervous system releasing a threat. Slow forgiveness is a mind rebuilding a model of someone it can no longer predict. - Silicon Canals

Forgiveness is a complex process influenced by biological and psychological factors, not simply a choice between letting go or holding grudges.
Psychology
fromHarvard Gazette
6 days ago

How forgiving can improve well-being - Harvard Gazette

Regular acts of forgiveness improve psychological well-being and foster character development across various nations.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours ago

The people who forgive quickly and the people who forgive slowly are not experiencing the same emotion. Quick forgiveness is often a nervous system releasing a threat. Slow forgiveness is a mind rebuilding a model of someone it can no longer predict. - Silicon Canals

Forgiveness is a complex process influenced by biological and psychological factors, not simply a choice between letting go or holding grudges.
Psychology
fromHarvard Gazette
6 days ago

How forgiving can improve well-being - Harvard Gazette

Regular acts of forgiveness improve psychological well-being and foster character development across various nations.
more#forgiveness
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The people who become the calmest adults are almost never the ones who had calm childhoods. They're the ones who grew up in houses where someone else's mood was the weather, and they learned to regulate the entire room before they ever learned to regulate themselves. - Silicon Canals

Children from chaotic homes can develop heightened emotional awareness and calmness, contrary to the belief that such environments only produce turbulence.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours ago

The person who thrives during a crisis and falls apart during ordinary weeks isn't broken. Their entire operating system was built for emergencies, and peace registers as a system error because they never learned what competence feels like without urgency underneath it. - Silicon Canals

Crisis-thrivers are often dysregulated, struggling with normalcy after emergencies, revealing a deeper issue with their nervous system's response to stress.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

Psychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals

Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
16 hours ago

Do You Like the Person You See in the Mirror?

Body-image concerns are prevalent among women and girls, influenced by unrealistic beauty ideals in media, but can be improved through healing mental schemas.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours ago

Psychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals

Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

The underrated value of rest - Silicon Canals

Prioritizing rest can significantly enhance creativity, patience, and overall well-being, challenging the misconception that rest is for the lazy.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
11 hours ago

What Is Your Quarter-Life Crisis Trying to Tell You?

The quarter-life crisis is driven by internal factors like purpose, meaning, and anxiety, alongside external pressures such as financial instability.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
15 hours ago

Bridging the Gap From Here to Your Future Self

Imagining a future self strengthens connections to values and enhances life choices by tracing continuity from past to future.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

I'm 66 and the most important thing I have done for myself in the last decade is learn to sit in a room alone without immediately filling it with something - without the television, the phone, the task - just the room and the light and whatever arrives in the quiet, and what arrives, it turns out, is mostly myself, and mostly myself is more than enough company - Silicon Canals

Learning to sit in silence and embrace stillness can be transformative and essential for personal growth.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Resentment Resolution: Free Yourself From Emotional Burdens

Resentment is a persistent feeling of unfair treatment that links past offenses, leading to a degenerative emotional state.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Neuroscience reveals that the calmest person in any crisis isn't naturally fearless - their brain learned to delay panic because their childhood required them to be functional before they were allowed to be afraid - Silicon Canals

Calmness under pressure is a learned response, not merely a personality trait or temperament.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

The friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals

Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

EMDR in a World HyperFocused on Healing

EMDR is an evidence-based trauma therapy that helps reorganize fragmented experiences, leading to significant reductions in trauma symptoms.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Hope and Help for Misophonia

Misophonia can severely impact a child's life, manifesting through both sound and visual triggers, often leading to significant distress and behavioral issues.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

What if Your "Type" Is Just Unfinished Business?

Sexual imprinting influences adult attraction based on early relational experiences with caregivers and emotional dynamics in childhood.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 44 and I have started paying attention to how I feel the morning after I spend time with someone - not during, when the performance is running, but after, when the honest version arrives - and that single habit has told me more about my relationships than twenty years of thinking about them - Silicon Canals

The morning after social interactions reveals true emotional states, often contrasting with the perceived enjoyment during the event.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

It's Time to Rethink the "Anxiety Drives PDA" Narrative

PDA is not solely anxiety-driven; it shares traits with ADHD and ODD, suggesting a more complex relationship with demand avoidance.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Why Deep People Struggle in Modern Relationships

Modern dating prioritizes speed over depth, creating pressure that conflicts with those who need time for genuine connections.
#ocd
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

The Drama of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Faith and humility are essential in addressing obsessive-compulsive tendencies, emphasizing the acceptance of uncertainty in relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Your Most Horrifying Thoughts May Not Mean What You Think

Intrusive sexual thoughts are a common form of OCD, often misidentified and not indicative of actual desire.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

The Drama of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Faith and humility are essential in addressing obsessive-compulsive tendencies, emphasizing the acceptance of uncertainty in relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Your Most Horrifying Thoughts May Not Mean What You Think

Intrusive sexual thoughts are a common form of OCD, often misidentified and not indicative of actual desire.
more#ocd
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

People who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals

Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says adults who have no close friends aren't necessarily antisocial or unlikable. Many of them learned in childhood that being vulnerable leads to pain, and they grew up assuming that keeping people at a distance is safer - Silicon Canals

Many people appear self-sufficient but struggle with deep-seated fears of vulnerability due to early attachment experiences.
Mindfulness
fromTiny Buddha
4 days ago

From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: How to Come Back to Yourself - Tiny Buddha

Indecision and people-pleasing stem from past experiences of conflict and self-doubt, leading to a loss of personal identity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals

Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

After her remission from cancer, Christine's friends abandoned her just when she needed them most | Bianca Denny

Support often diminishes after cancer remission, leaving survivors like Christine feeling abandoned and struggling with their psychological wellbeing.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

The Two Thoughts That Quietly Ruin Adult Children's Lives

Struggling adult children often face analysis paralysis due to the fear of uncertainty, hindering their progress and confidence.
#emotional-regulation
more#emotional-regulation
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Time-Outs Work, if We Can Learn to Do Them Right

Well-implemented time-outs lead to positive outcomes and healthier relationships in adults who experienced them as children.
#therapy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

When Therapy Explains Before It Understands

Therapists may misinterpret clients' experiences by relying on familiar frameworks, potentially overlooking genuine feelings and differences.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

When Therapy Explains Before It Understands

Therapists may misinterpret clients' experiences by relying on familiar frameworks, potentially overlooking genuine feelings and differences.
more#therapy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

How Self-Compassion Helps You Take Real Responsibility

Self-compassion fosters accountability and well-being, while shame hinders personal growth and responsibility.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

When Parts Begin to Merge: Inside Integration

Integration is a complex, lived experience involving reorganization of the self, requiring safety and support systems for healing from complex trauma.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Caring for the Part of You That Wants to Die

Suicide ideation affects 15.6% of U.S. adults, with significant risk factors including mental disorders, trauma, and social circumstances.
[ Load more ]