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Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoWhat if You Just Don't Like Your Teenager?
Teenage years can bring defiance and emotional strain, but parents can maintain boundaries and expectations while managing their own feelings to support growth.
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
4 days agoA Lot Of Parents Don't Realize That These Habits Can Turn Kids Into Bullies
Bullying often stems from insecurity and poor emotional expression, and parenting can unintentionally reinforce these drivers.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe person who lingers in the parking lot for a few minutes before going inside their own house isn't avoiding anyone, they're giving themselves the only stretch of unowed time they get in a day - Silicon Canals
A parked car can provide a neutral, sovereign pocket of time when home responsibilities leave no time that belongs to no one.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who say it's fine when it isn't fine aren't always lying - they may be running an old calculation that says the cost of the truth is higher than the cost of carrying it alone - Silicon Canals
“It’s fine” can reflect an outdated emotional cost calculation rather than deliberate dishonesty, with hurt redirected elsewhere through learned suppression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe definitive sign someone has done real internal work isn't calmness, articulate self-awareness, or the right vocabulary, it's the absence of urgency to make you understand them before you've finished talking - Silicon Canals
True internal work is shown by the ability to listen without preparing a rebuttal, not by surface-level calmness or vocabulary.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe people who say I don't really get angry aren't more even-tempered, they've just routed their anger into productivity, cleaning, and overcommitment so reliably that they no longer recognize it when it's happening - Silicon Canals
Calmness can mask underlying anger, which is redirected into socially acceptable behaviors rather than being expressed.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm 34 and I just noticed that I've been describing my own life to friends in the same tone I'd use to describe someone else's, and that distance turned out to be the actual problem, not the events I was describing - Silicon Canals
Self-distancing can help manage emotions, but relying on it too much can create a disconnect from one's own life experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoBehavioral scientists found that major life transitions in people over 60 - retirement, children leaving, the loss of a parent - produce a measurable increase in dream vividness and emotional intensity that most people dismiss as strange and that psychology says is actually the mind doing in sleep what it hasn't been given space to do while awake - Silicon Canals
Major life transitions after 60 significantly increase dream vividness, aiding emotional regulation and memory consolidation.
#procrastination
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoI realized I don't procrastinate because I'm lazy. I procrastinate because finishing something means submitting it to judgment, and somewhere in my childhood the message landed that completed work is just an invitation for someone to tell you what's wrong with it. - Silicon Canals
Procrastination on finishing work stems from fear of evaluation and perfectionism, not laziness or poor discipline, as people delay completion to protect their work from judgment.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhen Anger Waits: The Turtle Technique Beyond Childhood
The turtle technique is often introduced to children to help them manage strong emotions, guiding them to pause, breathe, and step back before reacting. It sounds simple, yet it carries depth when practiced with intention.
Mindfulness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says people who grew up poor in the 1960s and 70s develop a specific relationship to waste - they can't throw away a half-used candle or a rubber band or a piece of foil, not from habit, but because their nervous system still treats abundance as temporar - Silicon Canals
Scarcity during childhood shapes the brain's stress-response architecture, leading to lasting changes in emotion regulation and threat detection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology suggests the most reliable sign that someone had a difficult childhood isn't what they tell you about it - it's how startled they look when you are simply kind to them without a reason, as though kindness without a transaction attached is something the body recognizes as unusual before the mind has finished deciding what to do with it - Silicon Canals
Kindness can trigger confusion in those with a history of trauma due to learned survival responses from past experiences.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPeople who grew up being told they were too sensitive didn't become less sensitive. They became editors. Every reaction now passes through a filter that decides whether the feeling is proportionate enough to be allowed out, and that filtering process is so automatic they genuinely believe they're calm when they're actually curating. - Silicon Canals
Sensitive children often suppress their emotions, leading to automated behaviors that mask true feelings.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoHow to Let Go of the Need to Say "I Told You So"
The urge to say 'I told you so' stems from unmet validation needs rather than genuine helpfulness, and resisting this impulse through the observing self demonstrates psychological maturity and protects relationships.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoHas Therapy Felt Useless? You May Have Been Misunderstood
Some people have excessive self-control causing emotional suppression and isolation, requiring specialized therapy approaches like Radically Open DBT instead of standard emotion-regulation focused treatments.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago4 Ways to Stop Relying on Reassurance for Self-Worth
Reassurance-seeking is a nervous system regulation strategy that provides temporary relief but increases dependence on external validation, while building internal self-worth through self-trust and consistency creates lasting stability.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPeople who apologize when someone else bumps into them aren't just being polite. They're running a program that was installed so early they don't even hear it anymore, and it sounds like: your comfort matters more than my space. - Silicon Canals
Chronic over-apologizing stems from childhood conditioning where caregivers' emotional states were prioritized over the child's own needs, creating a nervous system reflex that persists into adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoThe calmest person in your friend group is almost never calm. They're performing a version of steady that they learned when being visibly distressed made things worse for everyone around them. - Silicon Canals
Calmness often reflects learned emotional suppression from childhood trauma rather than natural temperament, creating adults who excel at containment but lose touch with their own emotional needs.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPsychology says people who stay in the same relationship for 40+ years aren't settling or stuck - they usually display these 7 emotional capacities that serial monogamists rarely develop - Silicon Canals
Long-term couples succeed by developing emotional regulation skills, communication practices, and intentional commitment rather than luck or finding the perfect partner.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoI spent a day trying the 90-second rule and it didn't make me less angry | Emma Beddington
That's how long our physiological response to emotions such as anger lasts, from the time we formulate a thought to the point at which our blood is completely clean of the noradrenaline released in response to it. If you're still experiencing emotional reactions after 90 seconds, you're rethinking the thoughts.
Psychology
#childhood-trauma
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoChildren who were the calm ones in chaotic households often become adults who are excellent in a crisis but quietly exhausted by ordinary days, because their system was built for emergencies and doesn't know what to do with peace - Silicon Canals
Children who develop composure in chaotic households restructure their nervous systems to detect threats and manage emotions, creating adults who excel in crises but struggle with baseline regulation in stable environments.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoChildren who were the calm ones in chaotic households often become adults who are excellent in a crisis but quietly exhausted by ordinary days, because their system was built for emergencies and doesn't know what to do with peace - Silicon Canals
Children who develop composure in chaotic households restructure their nervous systems to detect threats and manage emotions, creating adults who excel in crises but struggle with baseline regulation in stable environments.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPsychology says people who use alcohol, shopping, scrolling, or constant socializing to regulate their emotional state aren't lacking in willpower - they've found something that reliably interrupts the signal their inner life is trying to send, and they will keep using it for exactly as long as the signal remains more frightening than the interruption - Silicon Canals
Behaviors labeled as bad habits are often successful emotional regulation strategies developed in response to overwhelming internal discomfort, not character flaws or willpower failures.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoUnderstanding Childhood Dysregulation Profile
Childhood Dysregulation Profile describes a pattern of co-occurring mood, attention, and behavioral difficulties that signals risk for later mental health challenges, with early support improving long-term outcomes.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPsychology says the room in your house where you feel most yourself reveals these 6 things about your core attachment needs - and it's almost never the room you'd describe as your favourite - Silicon Canals
The room where you naturally gravitate reveals your unconscious emotional regulation strategy and reflects attachment patterns formed in childhood.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPsychology says the way someone behaves at an airport gate when their flight is delayed reveals the difference between people who complain and people who go quiet tells you almost everything about how they were taught to handle situations they can't control - Silicon Canals
Childhood experiences with control and confrontation shape how adults respond to uncontrollable situations like flight delays, creating distinct behavioral patterns between aggressive and passive responses.
Parenting
fromFortune
2 months agoExclusive: How Dr. Becky Kennedy built a leadership playbook for parenting-and a $34 million-a-year business | Fortune
Dr. Becky Kennedy transformed from a Manhattan psychologist into a parenting influencer with 3.4 million Instagram followers, building Good Inside into a $34 million revenue company offering digital memberships, podcasts, books, and brand partnerships.
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