#new-year-resolutions

#new-year-resolutions

But the start of another trip around the sun may spark a desire for new beginnings beyond the confines of the gym. It might be the perfect time to reevaluate your love life. The first Sunday in January, which has been dubbed " Dating Sunday," is the busiest time of year for dating apps. It's not all that surprising, as the new year is a time when people feel motivated to set goals for themselves. In this case, many singles are hunkering down and getting serious about finding a partner.

In one camp are the new year, new routine fanatics, the people you'll find smashing a 6am workout, clutching a protein shake (the clear, pea isolate ones that are almost like a protein squash have been brilliant for me) and claiming, with suspicious enthusiasm, that they love the feeling of their lungs burning in winter air. And honestly? Good for them. A reset can feel energising, and the right fitness tech, supplements and morning rituals can make this commitment easier and more appealing.

For those who have learned that love and safety are conditional, the new year can be triggering. The message is clear: To be loved and accepted, you have to be better. Be compliant. Do not need so much. Basically, who you are is not enough. To be loved, you have to be perfect. That is why rigid resolutions often collapse by February. Not because of a lack of willpower, but because change driven by shame rarely works.

My resolution next year is to climb a tough peak in the Chamonix Valley in France. The 'why' is because it's been on my list for 15 years, and it's overdue. The 'how' is a detailed set of logistical, physical, mental, and family preparations.