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Parenting
fromPsychology Today
14 hours ago3 Reasons to Stop Hiding Your Bad Habits From Your Kids
Parenting involves modeling honesty and resilience, as hiding flaws can distort children's moral development and trust.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day agoMy Wife Is Struggling With a Very Basic Part of Parenting. I Can't Keep Swooping In to Save Her!
Managing emotional responses in parenting is crucial for effective problem-solving with young children.
fromPsychology Today
12 hours agoMy Child Has Autism: How Do I Know the Program Is Working?
If the application of behavioral techniques does not produce large enough effects for practical value, then the application has failed. Practical value is whatever you define as meaningful for your child's life.
Mental health
#grief
Mindfulness
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
18 hours agoHow to keep your career going in the midst of grief - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
Grief can disrupt work, but maintaining structure and realistic expectations helps navigate both loss and professional responsibilities.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the reason some people become gentler as they age while others become bitter has nothing to do with personality. It depends on whether they processed their grief along the way or stored it in their body and called it toughness - Silicon Canals
Grief, especially non-finite losses, significantly influences whether individuals become gentler or more bitter as they age.
Mindfulness
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
18 hours agoHow to keep your career going in the midst of grief - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
Grief can disrupt work, but maintaining structure and realistic expectations helps navigate both loss and professional responsibilities.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the reason some people become gentler as they age while others become bitter has nothing to do with personality. It depends on whether they processed their grief along the way or stored it in their body and called it toughness - Silicon Canals
Grief, especially non-finite losses, significantly influences whether individuals become gentler or more bitter as they age.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI realized at 66 that the reason I'm always tired has nothing to do with sleep. I've been running an internal monitoring system since childhood that tracks other people's moods, and it never shuts off, not even when I'm alone. - Silicon Canals
Emotional exhaustion can stem from lifelong habits of managing others' emotional states, leading to fatigue that sleep cannot alleviate.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours agoPsychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals
Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.
#self-reliance
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
fromScary Mommy
9 hours agoOK, So Everybody's Struggling To Pay For Their Kids' Extracurriculars, Right?
The original poster (OP) wrote, 'My second child is starting high school next year and is hell-bent on joining the marching band. I was in marching band myself when I was in high school and I wasn't against her joining. The discipline would be good for her. Then I found out how much it costs.'
Parenting
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPeople who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals
Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNeuroscience reveals that the calmest person in any crisis isn't naturally fearless - their brain learned to delay panic because their childhood required them to be functional before they were allowed to be afraid - Silicon Canals
Calmness under pressure is a learned response, not merely a personality trait or temperament.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says adults who have no close friends aren't necessarily antisocial or unlikable. Many of them learned in childhood that being vulnerable leads to pain, and they grew up assuming that keeping people at a distance is safer - Silicon Canals
Many people appear self-sufficient but struggle with deep-seated fears of vulnerability due to early attachment experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals
Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoChildren who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals
Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.
NYC parents
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month agoLetters: Meeting needs of mothers helps care for children
Basic sanitary products for mothers and diapers for children should be universally accessible as fundamental human rights, requiring policy changes to provide free menstrual products and permanent publicly funded diaper banks.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople raised in the 1960s and 70s didn't have optimized morning routines - they had chores, a bus to catch, and parents who didn't negotiate, and somehow that produced adults who know how to begin things without being ready - Silicon Canals
Morning routines have shifted from simple survival tasks to complex, optimized rituals filled with self-care and intention.
#motherhood
Parenting
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoMy mother's best advice: talk to your children like old friends
A mother's perspective on parenthood as companionship influenced the author's decision to have children, despite concerns about planetary instability and personal differences from her own upbringing.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhy Parents Should Acknowledge Their Anger
Anger is a core emotion that's pre-wired in the brain. Core emotions tell us what we need and what is good for us. For example, fear (another core emotion) prompts us to seek safety, while sadness tells us there's something to mourn. Anger shows up when we feel violated. This is why feeling wronged, like when our kids repeatedly push back or yell at us, can evoke it.
Miscellaneous
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe people who become the calmest adults are almost never the ones who had calm childhoods. They're the ones who grew up in houses where someone else's mood was the weather, and they learned to regulate the entire room before they ever learned to regulate themselves. - Silicon Canals
Children from chaotic homes can develop heightened emotional awareness and calmness, contrary to the belief that such environments only produce turbulence.
Mental health
fromSocial Media Explorer
1 month agoBeyond the Clinic: Practical Support for New and Expecting Moms - Social Media Explorer
Prenatal care must address mental health and emotional resilience alongside medical monitoring, with peer support and practical community resources essential for maternal wellness.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
4 weeks agoFor The Overwhelmed Moms Trying To Do It All, You Can Blame "Institutional Lag"
Afternoon chaos for working mothers stems from institutional lag—outdated systems designed for single-income households with stay-at-home parents that fail to accommodate modern dual-income families.
fromScary Mommy
1 month agoWhen Kids Get Sick, Working Moms Do The Impossible Math
A Genexa survey of 1,000 U.S. moms found that 70% use their own sick days to stay home when their child is ill, and 58% work from home while caregiving. In other words, many of us are doing the same impossible math: caring for sick kids while trying to keep our work lives moving.
Parenting
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhat Do I Do If My Child Won't Talk About an Upsetting Time?
Children may not verbally process upsetting events for various developmentally appropriate or concerning reasons, requiring parents to identify the underlying cause through patient, non-judgmental engagement.
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