"Crafting this new part of my identity was especially difficult because my only guide consisted mostly of a list of what not to be. Don't be emotionally unavailable. Don't be just the bath-time and weekend dad. Don't be the breadwinner who treats fatherhood as secondary."
"Two in five of the 1,216 fathers we surveyed didn't want to father the way they were fathered, and more than 75% said they valued being a good dad above career success."
"The desire to do fatherhood differently is unmistakably there. The architecture to support it is not."
"From the moment my wife told people she was pregnant she received an A-Z of practical guidance, what to expect and plan for week by week, specific and actionable. I mostly got well-meaning but vague cautionary tales."
New fathers face a significant identity shift after the birth of their children, often feeling unprepared for the emotional and practical demands of fatherhood. Many men report a desire to parent differently than their own fathers, valuing their role as a good dad over career success. Despite this desire, they lack a clear framework or support system to help them navigate these challenges. While mothers receive extensive guidance during pregnancy, fathers often receive only vague advice, leaving them feeling isolated in their new roles.
Read at www.theguardian.com
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