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#self-reliance
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

Psychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals

Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

I'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals

Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

Psychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals

Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

I'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals

Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours ago

Psychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals

Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Resilience and Reconstruction in Practice

A long-term approach is essential for supporting displaced individuals, emphasizing identity continuity and meaningful work for resilience.
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Grief, Storytelling, and Identity

The concept album is a response to the brutal murder of Breedlove's father and stepmother at the hands of his stepbrother. The frame—the first song and the last—of the album is about the murders and their aftermath. But this is not a true crime record.
Music production
fromLGBTQ Nation
7 months ago

Teacher dies by suicide on the first day of school after years of anti-lesbian harassment - LGBTQ Nation

"I'm in shock. Her wife contacted me at the end of the day to tell me the terrible news. It's a waste, and I don't think there was anything that could have been done to prevent it."
LGBT
Women
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

The Hidden Cost of Holding It All Together at Work

High-performing women often bear an invisible load of responsibility that can lead to dependency and burnout.
Education
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Using Human Kindness as a Shield Against School Violence

Billions are wasted on ineffective security measures for schools instead of investing in mental health resources and social support systems.
UK news
fromwww.independent.co.uk
3 days ago

My girlfriend attacked me with scissors and carved her name into my ribs'

The Independent focuses on critical issues like reproductive rights and domestic abuse, advocating for accessible journalism and legislative changes for young victims.
Film
fromVulture
4 days ago

The Horrors of Being a Content Moderator Fuel the New Faces of Death

Poor character decisions in horror films can frustrate viewers, but Margot's journey in Faces of Death offers a relatable and engaging narrative.
London politics
fromwww.bbc.com
4 days ago

Woman told sister she was 'planning to kill her'

Nancy Pexton is accused of murdering her sister Jennifer Abbott Dauward, with evidence of prior threats and jealousy between them.
NYC parents
fromwww.theguardian.com
5 days ago

A day in the life of a 19-year-old in ICE detention: I feel that this nightmare is not going to end'

Detention at Dilley Immigration Processing Center has severely impacted Olivia, a 19-year-old asylum seeker, leading to emotional distress and sleepless nights.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

My Mom Seems to Think I Owe Her for Raising Me Alone. I Don't Want to Pay Her Price.

Family relationships shouldn't be transactional, and one is not obligated to provide childcare for a parent.
Philosophy
fromBig Think
5 days ago

The important role of ignorance in building a better society

Total freedom without laws leads to chaos; social contracts are essential for order and security in society.
Artificial intelligence
fromThe Nation
6 days ago

We All Hate AI, but if You're Poor, It Can Really Ruin Your Life

Luxury brands are emphasizing human artistry over AI to maintain exclusivity and appeal to consumers' desire for authenticity.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Trauma Awareness Stops at the Hospital Door

Chronic health conditions significantly impact psychological well-being, yet healthcare providers often neglect this aspect for both patients and themselves.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

Psychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals

Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.
Privacy professionals
fromWIRED
6 days ago

Men Are Buying Hacking Tools to Use Against Their Wives and Friends

Telegram groups facilitate the sale of hacking and surveillance services, promoting abusive content targeting women and girls.
#relationships
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Social justice
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

Trans woman sues homeless shelter over alleged "threatening" harassment that made her ill - LGBTQ Nation

A transgender staffer is suing a Michigan homeless shelter for $25,000, alleging harassment and discrimination by colleagues and management's negligence.
Women in technology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Violence Against Women and Girls Is a Multifaceted Problem

Violence against women and girls is influenced by intersecting factors like racism and ableism, creating unequal risks and barriers to justice.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours ago

The person who thrives during a crisis and falls apart during ordinary weeks isn't broken. Their entire operating system was built for emergencies, and peace registers as a system error because they never learned what competence feels like without urgency underneath it. - Silicon Canals

Crisis-thrivers are often dysregulated, struggling with normalcy after emergencies, revealing a deeper issue with their nervous system's response to stress.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

There's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals

Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
#bullying
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days ago

Classmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation

Leyton Taylor, a 13-year-old boy, died by suicide after enduring relentless bullying at school for being openly gay.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days ago

Classmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation

Leyton Taylor, a 13-year-old boy, died by suicide after enduring relentless bullying at school for being openly gay.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the adults most likely to feel invisible in their own families are not the most difficult ones - they're the ones who made themselves so consistently available, so reliably capable, so quietly present, that everyone around them stopped noticing the person and started relying on the function - Silicon Canals

Reliability can lead to emotional invisibility within family dynamics, where the capable individual is overlooked despite their struggles.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks ago

What the Epstein case teaches us about grooming podcast

People talk about Jeffrey Epstein as though he's special or as though he's mysterious in some way. That takes away from the truth of it, which is that there are lots of people like him.
Books
#domestic-violence
#leadership
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Why Power-Blindness Is the Ultimate Leadership Failure

A lack of empathy in leaders is a neurological byproduct of power, leading to strategic liabilities and poor decision-making.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Why Power-Blindness Is the Ultimate Leadership Failure

A lack of empathy in leaders is a neurological byproduct of power, leading to strategic liabilities and poor decision-making.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a kind of exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you did today and everything to do with how many versions of yourself you performed. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the weight of translation between who you are privately and who each room requires you to become. - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from the cognitive load of managing multiple identities rather than just physical effort or workload.
London politics
fromwww.bbc.com
3 weeks ago

Killed by the same abuser: Families demand answers

Family of missing woman Fiona Holm faced police inaction despite concerns about her boyfriend's behavior and previous violence.
#emotional-labor
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Nobody prepares you for the exhaustion of being naturally magnetic - the way people assume your warmth has no limits, your attention has no cost, and your need to be seen doesn't exist - Silicon Canals

Emotional Magnetic Load (EML) describes the invisible weight of managing others' emotions while neglecting one's own needs.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There's a particular kind of loneliness that belongs to people who are everyone's safe place but have never once been asked where they go when they're the one who isn't okay - Silicon Canals

Emotional anchors in relationships experience loneliness and identity erosion when support flows persistently in one direction, threatening their sense of self and requiring reciprocal emotional exchange for psychological health.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Nobody prepares you for the exhaustion of being naturally magnetic - the way people assume your warmth has no limits, your attention has no cost, and your need to be seen doesn't exist - Silicon Canals

Emotional Magnetic Load (EML) describes the invisible weight of managing others' emotions while neglecting one's own needs.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There's a particular kind of loneliness that belongs to people who are everyone's safe place but have never once been asked where they go when they're the one who isn't okay - Silicon Canals

Emotional anchors in relationships experience loneliness and identity erosion when support flows persistently in one direction, threatening their sense of self and requiring reciprocal emotional exchange for psychological health.
SF LGBT
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

Why LGBTQ+ Youth Are More Likely to Be Trafficked

LGBTQ+ youth face at least twice the trafficking risk of heterosexual peers, with nearly 50 percent of commercially sexually exploited youth identifying as LGBTQ+, driven by family rejection, homelessness, and discrimination.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

The Psychology of Sex Trafficking

Sex trafficking is a severe human rights violation, often misunderstood, with survivors criminalized instead of protected and rooted in societal norms.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Not everyone who keeps a small social circle is protecting their energy. Some of them built a wide one once, watched it reveal exactly how many people would show up during an actual emergency, and quietly restructured around the answer - Silicon Canals

Small social circles often result from past crises that reveal true friendships, rather than a preference for fewer connections.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 weeks ago

She found out a boy was gay. So she tortured him with a knife. - LGBTQ Nation

Grether Leidy Guadarramas Pena was arrested for allegedly cutting a young male family member after discovering his homosexuality through online messages.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There's a specific kind of grief that hits when you realize your parents weren't strict because they didn't trust you. They were strict because the world they grew up in punished mistakes permanently, and control was the only form of love that felt safe enough to offer. - Silicon Canals

Strict parenting rooted in scarcity and survival often reflects a parent's attempt to protect their child from an unforgiving world they experienced, rather than emotional withholding or personality rigidity.
#mental-health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

We All Belong: A Perspective on People on the Outskirts

People with psychosis and mental health conditions often feel a profound sense of not belonging in society and psychiatric settings.
Women
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Hidden Emotional Labor Draining Women Leaders

Women leaders perform substantial emotional labour daily that shapes culture and safety but remains invisible in performance metrics, creating psychological costs through constant navigation of contradictory expectations.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

The scandal of women handcuffed while in labour: I was so shocked when the restraints weren't removed'

I was taken to hospital chained to an officer with handcuffs but assumed they would be removed at the entrance to the hospital. I was so shocked when the cuffs weren't removed. When I told the prison guards who had brought me to hospital about what the Birth Companions booklet said, they replied: We don't know what that book is, we're not going to abide by it.
UK news
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Provoking & Recording in Domestic Abuse: Gaslighting in Action

He would back her into a corner and verbally abuse her for hours. And sometimes Sandra responded in ways that she now regrets-shouting at Gary, throwing things, and slamming doors in frustration. She separated from him to protect herself and the children from Gary's outbursts and coercive control. She was shocked when Gary filed for a protective order, claiming that she had abused him.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months ago

In the end, you feel blank': India's female workers watching hours of abusive content to train AI

On the veranda of her family's home, with her laptop balanced on a mud slab built into the wall, Monsumi Murmu works from one of the few places where the mobile signal holds. The familiar sounds of domestic life come from inside the house: clinking utensils, footsteps, voices. On her screen a very different scene plays: a woman is pinned down by a group of men, the camera shakes, there is shouting and the sound of breathing.
Digital life
#sexual-assault
fromwww.independent.co.uk
1 month ago

One economic abuse victim dies every three weeks, new report says

Economic abuse, a pervasive form of coercive control, is linked to the death of a victim every three weeks across England and Wales, new analysis reveals. The charity Surviving Economic Abuse (SEA) described the findings as a 'wake-up call', emphasising that this type of abuse 'is not just a money problem' but a significant danger.
Social justice
LGBT
fromAdvocate.com
1 month ago

Many alleged suicides of Black trans women are in fact modern-day lynchings, report finds

Law enforcement in Southern states may be systematically misclassifying deaths of transgender women as suicides to conceal bias-motivated killings that constitute modern-day lynchings.
Public health
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago

People Are Confessing The Unspoken Truths About Growing Up In Poverty, And It's A Must-Read If You've Always Been Comfortable

People raised in poverty adopted desperate survival tactics—dumpster diving, shoplifting, collecting recyclables, and conserving utilities—leaving lasting physical and emotional impacts.
Social justice
fromTruthout
1 month ago

Deportation Is Not a Hardship That Shall Pass - It Is an Interminable Agony

Deportation creates permanent, intergenerational trauma that extends far beyond the moment of removal, affecting families through decades of separation and ongoing restrictions.
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

26 Social Burdens Women Shoulder That Are Completely Exhausting

Putting on makeup. Like, we're supposed to disguise ourselves; otherwise, people think we didn't take this outing seriously, didn't care enough, or didn't act professionally. In some ways, beauty standards are social obligations. Keeping up with nails, clothes, hair, etc., that's almost an expectation in some relationships.
Women
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When Everything Becomes "Trauma"

Psychological trauma, originating from the Greek word for 'wound,' evolved from describing physical injuries to mental wounds in the late 19th century, with usage tripling since the 1970s as the term expanded to encompass various difficult life experiences.
Mental health
fromPsychologies
1 month ago

Is my colleague suffering from abuse? The subtle signs we often misunderstand

Abuse survivors often display workplace performance changes like missed deadlines and anxiety that are frequently misinterpreted as disengagement rather than signs of hidden domestic abuse.
#coercive-control
Social justice
fromwww.bbc.com
1 month ago

'I was trapped': Modern slavery rises across London

Modern slavery through criminal exploitation, including cuckooing and forced drug smuggling, has increased by nearly 10% in London, with vulnerable individuals targeted through manipulation and coercion.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Psychology of Fair Labor

Decent work—encompassing safety, fair hours, adequate pay, healthcare access, and alignment with personal values—is essential for mental and physical health, while its absence creates chronic stress and undermines overall well-being.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Weaponized Incompetence Isn't Just "Doing It Wrong"

It feels cruel to insist someone keep attempting something they "can't" do-or to hold them to a standard they claim they cannot meet. Weaponized incompetence exploits that reluctance. It misattributes strategic failure as a skill deficit or honest mistake, allowing the offending party to avoid responsibility, discourage future requests, or exert control. In this dynamic, the offending party is framed as the victim, while their frustrated partner is recast as unreasonable, demanding, or a "nag."
Relationships
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There is a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from being the person everyone trusts with their problems but nobody thinks to ask how you're doing - Silicon Canals

Emotionally supportive people experience compassion fatigue from consistently absorbing others' pain, leading to exhaustion and identity loss despite appearing resilient to those around them.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Sexual Abuse in Families: Be Brave and Address the Harm

Sexual abuse is never the victim's fault; parents can and must address intrafamilial sexual abuse to break cycles of generational trauma and prevent further harm.
Social justice
fromTruthout
1 month ago

Living Under a Concentration Camp Regime - and Fighting Back

Mass detention systems expand through legal 'end runs' and normalization; rapid U.S. detention infrastructure growth signals a dangerous escalation requiring organized resistance.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Hidden Psychological Costs of Misappropriated Black Imagery

It is striking how frequently organizations and individuals display images and stock photos of Black people, especially Black women, to project an image of inclusivity and to deflect accusations of Anti-Black Racism. However, a closer look at their actual practices-such as hiring, firing, internal policies, equal pay, and addressing inequities-reveals a significant absence of Black professionals and notably Black women in leadership and decision-making positions.
Social justice
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Sexual Abuse in Intimate Relationships: Beyond Coercion

Intimate partner sexual abuse commonly uses coercion, entitlement, painful acts, humiliation, and strangulation, eroding victims' safety, self-worth, and well-being.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Understanding and Preventing Image-Based Sexual Abuse

Image-based sexual abuse is sexual violence causing enduring social, psychological, and economic harm, requiring changes in consent norms, empathy, and accountability for prevention.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Victims of Sex Crimes Are Often Blamed

Victim-blaming stems from just-world bias and desire to protect perpetrators' images, causing silencing, stigma, and distress; compassionate listening reduces blame.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Covert Emotional Abuse at the Workplace

Workplace hierarchies and competition enable covert emotional abuse centered on power and control, requiring identification and risk calculation before responding.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Explaining Covert Narcissistic Abuse When They Can't Relate

Explaining covert narcissistic abuse to someone who has never experienced it can be especially difficult, even if they mean well and are trying to help. Much of what is available online oversimplifies covert narcissism or groups behavioral patterns of both overt and covert narcissism into a single concept. Covert narcissism shows up distinctly from the loud and brash behavior most people associate with narcissists. Its patterns are often subtle and can be mistaken for shyness or humility.
Psychology
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

What Does 'Care' Mean During Times of Social Instability?

Care is fluid and adaptive; emotional signals like anger, numbness, and fatigue indicate needs and limits, and individual care requires collective support for survival.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Hidden Struggles of Invisible Disabilities

Invisible disabilities—chronic pain, ADHD, depression, chronic fatigue, autoimmune and neurological disorders—are often unseen, provoke skepticism, and require awareness, accommodation, and flexible support.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

In an Age of Vulnerability, Why Is Help So Hard to Ask For?

Walk through an airport bookstore, scroll the podcast charts, or listen to a leadership keynote, and you'll likely find lessons on boundaries and burnout. Celebrities talk about therapy with a casualness that would have been unthinkable a generation ago. Coaches tell C-suite executives to " lead with vulnerability." And bestselling books like The Gifts of Imperfection, You Should Talk to Someone, and The Body Keeps the Score have given the world a common vocabulary for talking about anxiety, shame, and trauma.
Mental health
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Transformative Power of Speaking Out

Overpopulation, cultural erosion, and escalating violence have generated pervasive fear and trauma among the Raizal people on San Andrés Island.
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