It perplexes Miss Manners how many people adore Les Miserables without being upset by its central accusation: that it is the rankest hypocrisy for society to equate serving one's time with forgiveness. But even if society were genuinely forgiving, there are many types of serious crimes. Being forgiven by society and being forgiven by one's victims are different matters. It is a simple matter to preserve your dignity with former victims of your husband's crime who now wish to maintain their distance: Respect that wish.
The Crown Bard in Rhyl had always been there, on the main road on the way out of town. Despite living a five-minute walk away, I don't remember ever going there in my teens, but I must've passed it thousands of times. Local wisdom dictated it was where the rugby lads drank, while the pub directly opposite was where you'd find the football crowd.
"My kids are so invested in their children it's beautiful! They use gentle parenting techniques, even with challenging personalities; provide them with healthy outlets and nurture their friends as well. They're 100% better than I was - but I had to do it alone with five children. I'd choose my kid's parenting over mine, every time!" - Anne W.
Love doesn't always come naturally; many of us need guidance about how to feel love and express it. There are many ways we can, consciously or not, block the experience of loving and being loved. Deep-seated fears of being hurt, used, or deceived often stop us from accepting love. Acknowledging that these fears are normal is the first step to overcoming them.
We recently participated in a weekend symposium focused on the intersections of imagination, neuroscience, art, and psychedelics at the UC San Diego Imaginarium. Viewing our couples' therapy work from this perspective was exciting and inspiring, and it reaffirmed something we have always known: The couples that stay vibrant, resilient, and deeply connected are the ones that remain curious about each other and creative and imaginative about their relationship. They don't just love one another. They are present and mindful, and they imagine and play together.
Even if it's cold, and even if you're so tired, you should still trudge out the door to meet your friends, go on the date, get to the workout class, or whatever else you have scheduled. The King of Pentacles has a reliable, steady energy, which is especially helpful if your New Year's resolutions are starting losing steam. Be kind to yourself in the days ahead, and treat others the same way. Everyone says they want a close-knit community, but you actually need to show up in order to create it.
By that point in my 50s, I struggled to maintain an erection naturally but it never diminished her enthusiasm in bed, or mine. For me, orgasming is just one small part of sex; with the right person, just being naked together is pure joy. Growing up with a single mother in the 1950s, I did not learn much about sex at home and I lost my virginity at university to the girl I ended up marrying.
When I met my husband eight years ago, I knew he was churchy, but as a low-church Protestant, I thought this wouldn't be a problem. Outside church, I am comfortable with our religious differences. I sort of believe in God, and find immense spirituality in nature, but think Christ was simply a good man, whereas my husband believes it. He respects my beliefs and has never imposed his on me.
You'll have enough people to talk to at your wedding. Just invite her. Not doing so would send a message so aggressive, it would likely create ongoing problems in the family and isolate you and your husband. It's hard for me to tell if she is being intentionally rude or if she's shy or something else entirely. But you do point out that she'll respond to you when asked a question, so it doesn't sound like she's being intentionally cruel.
My wife is invited to the wedding, but I am not, and I am furious. The groom's family is paying for the trip, and they say I am not invited for financial reasons. I don't have a great relationship with my daughter. But that isn't the point. I told my wife that if the roles were reversed and she was excluded, I would not go. This may be a deal-breaker for me.
I'm devastated and don't know where to turn. I was expecting a proposal from my boyfriend over Christmas, but instead he told me he wasn't sure if he wanted to still be together. He's moved back to his parents' house, and we have barely spoken since. I'm so angry, but I also know I would take him back in a heartbeat. I don't know what to do.
"Sara" is a close friend who suffers from significant mental health challenges. She is often sullen, easily offended, and quick to anger. Recently, she had a severe meltdown (which was never discussed), cut me off completely, and didn't speak to me for months. We patched that one up somehow, but her behavior is frequently challenging to the point where I question whether our friendship is worth it.
A stag or hen do should be a straightforward, fun night celebrating a good friend moving into a new chapter of their life. Instead, thanks to films such as The Hangover and Bridesmaids, as well as the general Americanisation of what a bachelor or bachelorette party should be, we've ended up with too many overindulgent, wildly inconvenient and quite frankly underwhelming send-offs to our friends who are getting married. Somewhere along the way, they've morphed into three-day tests of stamina and disposable income.
I've been financially responsible my entire adult life, and while I don't want to see debt as a dealbreaker, and I wouldn't break up with him over it, a part of me wants nothing to do with his debt. Also, I worry about what this says about his financial habits.
An explorationship is when you and someone else are exploring the possibility of a committed relationship. You've gone a little-or maybe a lot-beyond the just-going-out-on-dates-with-each-other phase. There may already be kissing and holding hands. There may already be couple-ish things that you do together. There may even be a little bedroom rodeo stuff or a lot of it. But you still aren't quite ready to call each other a significant other yet-even though the two of you are giving such a possibility significant consideration.
I'm no judge but there seems to be a lot of hearsay happening here. The neighbor who gave you the warning was vague in a way that perhaps suggests discretion, but in reality, only muddies the waters. Either say something helpful (and objectively true) or say nothing at all; a blanket warning hews too close to gossip for my taste. If you want to be friends with this other neighbor, trust your judgment and proceed with caution, just as you would with anyone else.
Many studies show that most women don't care much about the length or girth of men's penises, either flaccid or erect. But men don't believe it. Sex educators talk themselves hoarse about this, but many men still crave huge ones, and many opt for enlargement pills (all frauds) or for costly surgery that might leave them deformed. A recent study explored women's preferences for dildos, penis-mimicking sex toys.
Your comfort zone is challenged in all the right ways this morning as Venus in steady Capricorn links up with wild card Uranus. This brings surprising fluctuations to your love life or overall priorities. Sometimes, you need a small dose of this unexpected to push you toward decisions that will benefit you in the long run. Don't resent the disruption; focus on what it's teaching you about your needs and values.
