The man I was supposed to marry was someone I had known since childhood - five years older, from a wealthy Sikh family, my sister's classmate, living on the 14th floor of our high-rise building in Mumbai. He was my first crush. When I was 12, with oily braids and Coke-bottle glasses, I thought he was handsome and charming. I spent hours imagining what it would be like if he chose me.
At any point, any of your partners may have been thinking of someone (or even something) else to help themselves get over the edge. The idea of making someone orgasm with, to put it your way, just you is an illusion. People bring a lifetime of experience to the sex they have, including ways to help facilitate orgasm. Sex alone may not be enough to get your wife to come.
Lorraine: I'm so hurt that you said you did not want me to bring Joe, my significant other, to your rehearsal dinner and wedding. I can't believe you would do this to me. Stephanie: Mom, I've explained this to you before. Our wedding is about Joshua and me. It's a once-in-a-lifetime event. Joe is a stranger to us, and we don't want him there. Lorraine: But I was hoping you could meet him and get to know him.
If this has become a social norm, I am as unaware as you are. When guests are invited to a celebration, it is the host's responsibility to treat them unless it is understood when the invitation is issued that everyone will be expected to pay for the meal. The next time this person invites you somewhere, make sure to ask whether you will be splitting the bill. That way there will be no surprises.
Did you know that polyamory is an umbrella term? Well, it is! And it encompasses a huge array of ethically non-monogamous relationship styles. Polyamory or ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is loosely defined as the practice of being romantically involved with multiple, consenting partners. Polyamorous relationships can come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Many of them have boundaries similar to a monogamous relationship and have the same repercussions for breaking those boundaries.
The Core Financial Reality Gambling debt (judgments, payday loans, emptied 401k) $150,000 Current household income (single earner) $68,000 Husband's potential income (when recovered) $95,000-$110,000 Additional secured debt (house, vehicles) $142,000 Total debt burden $292,000 The critical issue isn't the debt size, it's the income gap. On Heather's $68,000 salary alone, they're carrying a debt-to-income ratio over 3:1 on gambling debt alone. The $53,000 and $19,000 judgments likely carry 8-12% interest rates, while payday loans typically charge 15-30% APR.
Last week at a dinner party, I watched two of my friends get into a heated discussion about, of all things, whether dishes should be rinsed before going in the dishwasher. What started as playful teasing quickly escalated into accusations about control issues and wasted water. It got me thinking about all those tiny household habits that reveal so much more about us than we realize.
My father kept manuals for products we hadn't owned in years, filed alphabetically in a cabinet. When I asked why, he looked at me like I'd suggested burning money. "What if we need to look something up?" The concept of finding any manual online in seconds just doesn't compute for a generation that had to rely on these paper lifelines.
People say it takes a village to do difficult things: raise a child, sustain a community, build a barn. But we don't often talk a lot about what it takes to be a villager. What does it mean to not just be in a community, but to help create one? Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters, says the key is to put yourself out there, even if it's scary.
Relationships can feel like both a blessing and the bane of your existence, a source of joy and a source of frustration or resentment. At some point, each of us is faced with a clingy child, a dramatic friend, a partner who recoils at the first hint of intimacy, a volatile parent, or a controlling boss - in short, a difficult relationship.
Love is supposed to feel safe, right? I remember sitting across from my therapist three years ago, trying to explain why I stayed in a relationship where I constantly walked on eggshells. "But they love me," I kept saying, as if that justified everything. That session changed how I understood love forever. After my four-year relationship ended in my mid-twenties, I dove deep into understanding attachment styles and relationship psychology. What I discovered was eye-opening: Genuine love has boundaries.
Physical touch is widely believed to be one of the primary, most important means of intimacy and bonding in a romantic relationship. Without frequent hugs, kisses, or sex, couples need to get creative in order to communicate their affection for one another. Most popular relationship advice also reinforces this idea; it's widely assumed that more physical closeness naturally equates to a stronger, healthier relationship.
I spent years interviewing people for my articles, and one pattern kept emerging: The most likeable people weren't always the kindest. After ending a friendship with someone who constantly competed with me while maintaining a perfect public persona, I started paying attention to the subtle behaviors that reveal someone's true character. These aren't obvious red flags like cruelty or dishonesty. They're the small, easily overlooked actions that slowly poison relationships and environments.
Difficulty working through conflict with those close to us can cause irreparable harm to families and relationships. What's more, the inability to heal these relationships can be detrimental to physical and emotional well-being, and even longevity. Healing relationships often involve forgiveness-and sometimes we have the ability to truly reconcile. But as a professor and licensed professional counselor who researches forgiveness, I believe the process is often misunderstood.
You can ask him to be your boyfriend. Or, if you don't want to be that direct, you can tell him that you are interested in taking the relationship to the next level and you want to know what he's interested in. If he feels you're heading toward a committed relationship, it's fair to ask questions like, how long is this road to a relationship? Are there any obstacles that you see? How fast are we traveling?
My office went remote during the pandemic, an arrangement which became permanent, much to my delight. I love working from home for all of the reasons one might: from kids, to pets, to putting dinner in the crockpot on my lunch hour, to saving money on clothes, food, and gas. I have reclaimed HOURS of my day! I have time to exercise! It's amazing.
I am a bisexual, 50-year-old woman who enjoys threesomes, including with the most common configuration of a bisexual woman partnered with a straight male. All my past encounters have been amazing-open communication, everyone hot for everyone, natural transitions between constellations of two and three people interacting. However, last night I ended up in bed with a couple, and once we got our clothes off, something happened.
I wish this was a one-off blip in my regimented friendship schedule, but all through 2025 I played the world's slowest game of message tennis. I'd invite a pal for dinner, only for the world to turn, the seasons pass, grey hairs gather at my temples, before a date was finally locked in. This sentiment seems to be common among my circle.
People are using AI for so many things, from asking it to respond to their emails to telling it their most intimate secrets I've been thinking about what the increasing prevalence of AI means for human relationships. In a study by vantage point, nearly a third of Americans have had some form of relationship with AI. Esther Perel has been a psychotherapist for nearly four decades.
On my third date with my then-boyfriend (he's now my husband), we had sex. And like so many times before, I decided I'd fake an orgasm. But unlike so many times before, it didn't feel right. I dated a lot of men in my 20s, and faking an orgasm just felt easier and safer than telling them I had never had an orgasm with a partner before.
After I had checked out and said my goodbyes, I walked through the gate to catch my ride to the airport. This volunteer then blocked my way and cornered me. She went on a yelling, screaming rant, saying that I hadn't left my private room (which I paid $100/night for) clean enough for her liking, and that it's not her job to clean up after me.
To a large extent, research agrees that open, honest communication predicts higher relationship satisfaction, deeper trust between partners, and longevity of their shared bond. However, he says, there's nuance within that. A truth that might startle most couples is that more communication is not always better communication. He explains that discovering this doesn't mean now resorting to playing games or withholding feelings: Instead, they should try to focus on learning the difference between healthy expression and over-processing.
I'm trying to figure out how to support my sister, but I don't know how. When my older sister "Sonya" was a teen, she was assaulted by an adult. She got pregnant, and our parents refused to let her terminate the pregnancy or put the baby up for adoption. Sonya was an unwilling mom to "Simon" until she turned 18. At that point, she left him with our parents for extended periods of time while she tried to get an education and figure herself out.
