"Take your wife at her word. If sex with you regularly proved as effective as counting sheep, there might be a problem with your performance (or at least your compatibility with your wife). An isolated incident is worth forgiving as a blip, a freak occurrence that doesn't have any real reflection on the current state of things."
"People get tired! You're married so by now you've had sex enough that the act alone isn't necessarily the most inherently exciting thing in the world to your wife (or you for that matter). That along with whatever else is going on that could have tired her out (child care, other work, stress, general ennui over the way people treat each other in these divided times), compel you to give her a pass here."
"Your despair is predicated on a jumped-to conclusion. It's probably worth having a conversation about this, in which she'd hopefully reassure you that it won't happen again and that the issue wasn't with your performance."
A man's confidence is shaken after his wife fell asleep during intercourse. He interprets this as a reflection of his sexual performance and worries about satisfying her. The advice recommends accepting her explanation of tiredness as legitimate, recognizing that isolated incidents do not indicate performance problems. Long-term partners may experience fatigue from various life stressors including childcare, work, and general stress. The situation warrants a reassuring conversation between partners to address concerns and confirm the incident was circumstantial rather than indicative of deeper compatibility issues.
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