"It's going to be hard to change your wife's habits this far into your relationship based on your preferences. In fact, at any point, doing so would be a challenge, and not generally one worth taking on, but it's especially so now, when you've had 26 years of pretty good sex. You're convinced that her shaving would make it so much better, but barring extramarital sex, you don't have a point of reference for such certainty."
"Seems like this is just your fantasy that you're trying to impose on your wife's body. So far your gentle suggestions have not been taken up, and since you pride yourself on not being forceful, it seems like acceptance is in order. Your wife doesn't feel like shaking her pubic hair. It's her body, so she gets to choose how she does or doesn't style her pubes."
A long-married man seeks advice on convincing his wife to shave her pubic hair, which he finds sexually appealing. He has approached the topic sensitively multiple times, offered reciprocal grooming efforts, and emphasized his willingness to compromise, but his wife declines due to time and effort concerns. The advice columnist responds that changing established habits in a long-term relationship based on personal preference is unrealistic and inadvisable. The wife's body remains her choice. With 26 years of good sex already established, the husband lacks certainty that shaving would genuinely improve their intimate life. Acceptance of her bodily autonomy is recommended as the appropriate path forward.
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