"One of the most frustrating parts of life is that you can't run A/B tests to see which decisions will make you happier. All you can do is make choices to the best of your ability and trust that, should the results be unpleasant, you'll be able to make a new choice. When it comes to the future, there are no guarantees. All you know is how happy you are now."
"Typically, newly engaged couples are ecstatic, or at the very least, satisfied. Meanwhile, you're anxious, unfulfilled, and full of dread. I don't think it's likely that marrying this guy will improve your state of mind."
A woman accepted a marriage proposal from her five-year boyfriend but now experiences dread rather than excitement. She loves him and they share a good life, but she harbors unfulfilled desires to travel and teach abroad, while he wants to return to their hometown and start a family soon. She suspects her engagement enthusiasm stemmed from her best friend's wedding rather than genuine readiness. The response emphasizes that life decisions lack guaranteed outcomes and that current emotional states—anxiety and dread rather than joy—provide important information. Newly engaged couples typically feel ecstatic or satisfied, but her persistent unhappiness suggests fundamental misalignment between her goals and the proposed life path.
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