I Want to Teach My Girlfriend a New Trick in Bed. The Problem Is Where I Learned It From.

"I'm an olderish straight man in a serious relationship with a woman about nine years younger, with an overall fantastic sex life. Last year, we broke up for a few months while we sorted out whether I wanted to have more kids or not. That is settled, we are back together, happy, and a kid is on the way. During our breakup, I slept with quite a few women."

"One of these women was able to make me cum from oral! Like a lot of guys, this happens only rarely—so much so that I usually tell partners something like, 'Don't worry, it feels great, I just don't finish from blow jobs.' This woman's technique requires no high-level skills or anatomy, and it isn't because of some other particularly attractive attribute she had."

"My problem is about how, or if ever, to tell my girlfriend about a technique this other woman did to me. I would love to walk my girlfriend through this technique, which again is not wildly demanding, but I'm worried that if I do, it could set off a jealousy spiral. If nothing else, any time I came from this technique, I suspect she'd have a flash of thinking about me with someone else."

An older man in a committed relationship with a younger woman asks for guidance on a delicate situation. During a temporary breakup, he was with another woman whose oral technique successfully made him orgasm—a rare occurrence for him. His girlfriend knows about his breakup encounters but prefers not to hear details. She has previously expressed wanting to make him climax orally. He wants to share this technique with his girlfriend but worries it will trigger jealousy and unwanted thoughts about his time with the other woman. He considers lying about the technique's origin but values honesty in his relationship.

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