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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

The people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals

Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
Fundraising
fromFast Company
21 hours ago

A different kind of "trust" fund

Trust is essential for effective climate innovation, requiring collaboration over competition among organizations addressing the climate crisis.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours ago

Psychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals

Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
#kindness
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks ago

The kindness of strangers: An online forum user shipped me a car radiator, saving me from financial ruin

A stranger online helped a pensioner by providing a radiator, restoring faith in kindness and prompting a pay-it-forward act.
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago
Mindfulness

If you do these 8 small acts of consideration without needing recognition, you have a truly beautiful soul - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks ago

The kindness of strangers: An online forum user shipped me a car radiator, saving me from financial ruin

A stranger online helped a pensioner by providing a radiator, restoring faith in kindness and prompting a pay-it-forward act.
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago
Mindfulness

If you do these 8 small acts of consideration without needing recognition, you have a truly beautiful soul - Silicon Canals

Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Competence, Merit, and Excellence Are Social Strengths

Competence, merit, and excellence are universal principles essential for advancement in all human endeavors.
Startup companies
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the people who find lasting success in business aren't the ones who mastered the habits productivity culture celebrates - they've quietly figured out that most of what business media treats as essential is noise, and the actual signal is found in a much smaller set of decisions most people overlook - Silicon Canals

Sustainable business success comes from focusing on key decisions rather than following productivity trends and hacks.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Secret Advantage of Not Doing It Alone

Social support enhances performance, reduces stress, increases well-being, and can be experienced through imagination and helping behaviors.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals

Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

The hill I will die on: Yes, money can buy you happiness if you spend it right | Eleanor Margolis

Having said that, I refuse to believe there's a single person out there overpaying on rent who wouldn't be happier if they owned a house outright.
Humor
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Science Confirms How to Connect to Something Greater at Work

Spirituality in the workplace fosters connection and fulfillment, addressing disconnection and burnout among workers.
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The workers most likely to burn out aren't always the ones doing the most - they're the ones who can't tell the difference between urgent and important - Silicon Canals

Workers overwhelmed by urgency rather than importance are more likely to experience burnout.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

The People-Pleaser's Misunderstanding of Another's Approval

People-pleasers seek approval to heal relationships, while perfectionists often withhold praise due to fear of vulnerability and high standards.
fromEntrepreneur
6 days ago

Why Passion Isn't Enough to Scale a Nonprofit

Most nonprofits begin with passion, and for good reason. A founder identifies a critical need and brings together a team that cares deeply enough to act. That kind of energy is what makes the early days possible. It drives long hours, resourceful problem-solving and a deep commitment to impact.
Non-profit organizations
#philanthropy
Fundraising
fromFast Company
2 weeks ago

How giving starts progress and leadership scales it

Volatility and accountability are transforming philanthropy, requiring leadership to drive impactful change.
Fundraising
fromsfist.com
2 weeks ago

Craiglist's Craig Newmark Is Inspiring Billionaires to Donate Their Fortunes Like He Is

Craig Newmark signed the Giving Pledge to donate up to $1 billion to nonprofits, encouraging other wealthy individuals to do the same.
Fundraising
fromFast Company
2 weeks ago

How giving starts progress and leadership scales it

Volatility and accountability are transforming philanthropy, requiring leadership to drive impactful change.
Fundraising
fromsfist.com
2 weeks ago

Craiglist's Craig Newmark Is Inspiring Billionaires to Donate Their Fortunes Like He Is

Craig Newmark signed the Giving Pledge to donate up to $1 billion to nonprofits, encouraging other wealthy individuals to do the same.
Renovation
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks ago

I need to declutter my life. But I can't even give my stuff away | Adrian Chiles

Decluttering is a challenge, often leading to keeping unnecessary items and regretting their disposal later.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says people who make others light up when they first meet them have usually known what it feels like to be overlooked - and instead of becoming bitter about it, they made a quiet decision at some point in their life that no one in their presence would ever feel that invisible again, and that choice is one of the most powerful things a human being can do with their own pain - Silicon Canals

Warm individuals often transform their experiences of invisibility into empathy, making others feel valued and seen.
#nonprofit
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Why You Feel Empty After Achieving Your Goals

The arrival fallacy explains post-achievement emptiness, revealing that many goals are inherited rather than authentically chosen.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

There's a specific kind of person who can give the most precise, compassionate advice to everyone around them and then make the worst possible decisions for their own life. The clarity isn't selective. It's that they can only see patterns when they're not standing inside them. - Silicon Canals

People excel at identifying cognitive biases in others but struggle to recognize them in themselves, leading to a phenomenon called the bias blind spot.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
3 weeks ago

Why "Service" and "Giving Back" Get It Wrong

Fresh terminology is needed for 'service' and 'giving back' to avoid implying a moral hierarchy.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who grew up poor in the 1960s and 70s develop a specific relationship to waste - they can't throw away a half-used candle or a rubber band or a piece of foil, not from habit, but because their nervous system still treats abundance as temporar - Silicon Canals

Scarcity during childhood shapes the brain's stress-response architecture, leading to lasting changes in emotion regulation and threat detection.
Marketing
fromForbes
1 month ago

Marketing 'Best Practices' That May Be Holding Your Nonprofit Back

Nonprofits should challenge outdated marketing practices by prioritizing leader visibility, impact-focused messaging, and relationship-building over transactional approaches to build stronger audience connections and sustainable growth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals

Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

Psychology suggests people who give endlessly but never ask for anything aren't generous - they've simply confused being needed with being loved while quietly keeping score, which is a different kind of loneliness - Silicon Canals

Compulsive givers often seek validation through being needed, leading to a complex relationship with love and attachment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

Psychology says people who compulsively tidy and reorganize aren't control freaks - they learned early that the one thing they could control was the physical space around them - Silicon Canals

Compulsive tidying is a response to anxiety, rooted in a need for control and predictability in unpredictable environments.
Psychology
fromFast Company
3 weeks ago

Are you falling into the comfort trap

Psychological safety is crucial for high-performing teams, enabling risk-taking and vulnerability without fear of punishment.
Fundraising
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

The Guardian view on falling donations to charity: rising living costs are part of the problem, but not all of it | Editorial

UK charitable donations fell from 15.4 billion to 14 billion, marking the first overall drop since 2021, with fewer donors giving smaller amounts despite high-profile fundraising campaigns.
Environment
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says people who pick up litter even when no one is watching usually display these 7 traits that are becoming increasingly rare - Silicon Canals

Some individuals perform small acts of care without recognition, driven by intrinsic motivation linked to greater psychological well-being and life satisfaction.
Silicon Valley
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says people who always volunteer to go last display these 6 traits that started as survival mechanisms - Silicon Canals

People who volunteer to go last often observe first, gathering social information and using heightened sensitivity as adaptive, evolutionarily rooted strategies.
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
2 months ago

Philanthropy Must Defend the Right to Bear Witness | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.

"Are you okay?" These were Alex Pretti's last words, said to a woman after ICE agents had tackled and pepper-sprayed her. Videos from bystanders show Pretti holding up a phone, attempting to document what was happening before he himself was pepper-sprayed, wrestled to the ground, and killed by those officers. He lost his life not for committing violence, but for documenting it, and stepping in to protect someone facing it.
US politics
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

The loneliest people in most social circles aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient and together - Silicon Canals

People who appear strong and reliable often struggle silently, leading others to overlook their need for support.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

Readers reply: what would be the most socially useful way to spend a billion dollars?

I've always thought it would be good to acquire an old warehouse in every town throughout the land and convert it into low-rent community workspaces for artists, local charities and small businesses getting off the ground. A kind of people's WeWork. What would others do with a humungous, but not unlimited, pile of dosh to benefit society? Roland Freeman, West Yorkshire Send new questions to nq@theguardian.com.
Left-wing politics
fromNature
2 months ago

Daily briefing: Why we enjoy things more when they're hard to get

According to a new analysis, about 55% of the observed variation in longevity across a population is attributable to genetics - challenging previous estimates of 10-25%. Researchers say that earlier numbers were much too low because they did not effectively separate deaths caused by extrinsic factors, such as accidents, from intrinsic ones such as the gradual decline of organ function. Not all intrinsic causes of death are equally heritable, the researchers found - and the results don't indicate a genetically encoded 'destiny' for lifespan, because so much is determined by environment and lifestyle choices.
Science
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 weeks ago

We can't all be heroes, but as a species we can become more altruistic with a bit of practice | Jackie Bailey

Human society has become kinder over time, with a decline in violence and an innate tendency towards altruism and care for others.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The 4 Gremlins That Steal Your Gratitude

Extreme self-reliance, cynicism, envy, and entitlement hinder gratitude; adopting positive habits is essential for personal growth.
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
2 months ago

This Is Not a Retreat | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.

The change in the administration's tactics in Minneapolis is not a retreat. Instead, they are regrouping and planning another mode of attack, with the hopes that their repression might be met with resistance that is easier to control and contain. People who garner their relevancy and power through the dehumanization and oppression of others will do whatever it takes to cling to their soulless sense of self.
US politics
#solidarity
fromFast Company
2 months ago

Do virtues like being compassionate increase your well-being?

Virtues such as compassion, patience, and self-control may be beneficial not only for others but also for oneself, according to new research my team and I published in the Journal of Personality in December 2025. Philosophers from Aristotle to al-Fārābī, a 10th-century scholar in what is now Iraq, have argued that virtue is vital for well-being. Yet others, such as Thomas Hobbes and Friedrich Nietzsche, have argued the opposite: Virtue offers no benefit to oneself and is good only for others.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Hidden Costs of Compulsive Caring

Caring is usually seen as an unquestioned virtue. We admire the devoted partner, the endlessly patient friend, and the person who is always available in a crisis. But in adult relationships, caring can sometimes become more than a loving response to another person's needs; it can become a relational pattern, a central way of organizing intimacy, identity, and self-worth. When this happens, it becomes a psychological role.
Mental health
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
2 months ago

Is being virtuous good for you - or just people around you? A study suggests traits like compassion may support your own well-being

Compassion, patience, and self-control often increase personal well-being by enhancing positive feelings and perceived meaning in everyday moments.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How Kindness and Compassion Make Hard Goals Doable

Love-based motivation, including kindness, compassion, empathetic joy, and equanimity, provides sustainable energy for achieving goals beyond traditional habit systems.
Fundraising
fromwww.bbc.com
1 month ago

Charity hopes new HQ can bring people together

Health Connections Guernsey purchased Beatrice House for £1m to create a community hub where younger and older islanders connect through intergenerational activities and support services.
Fundraising
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Overhead-Free Strategy That Tripled Donations

Zero-overhead guarantees triple donations, and reframing identical overhead costs increases donor participation from 49% to 71%.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says if you still feel guilty spending money on yourself even when you can afford it, you display these 8 deeply ingrained traits - Silicon Canals

Guilt when spending money on oneself stems from deeply ingrained psychological patterns, often rooted in childhood experiences and an overdeveloped sense of responsibility for others' needs.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

People who always put their shopping cart back possess these 7 character traits that predict how they treat people - Silicon Canals

You know that moment when you're loading groceries into your car and you see someone just leave their cart in an empty parking space? Or worse, watch it slowly roll toward someone's car? I've been thinking about this a lot lately, especially after watching a guy in the pouring rain push his cart all the way back to the corral. No one was watching. No reward waiting. Just him, getting soaked, doing what he thought was right.
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