"The people-pleaser treats approval as a magical balm, with the potential to heal them and their relationships. They internalize criticism, blaming themselves for not meeting others' standards."
"Other-oriented perfectionists tend to withhold praise because it makes them feel weak. They often justify their lack of approval by nitpicking details that do not affect the overall outcome."
"Learning that praise and criticism are often used strategically can help reduce their emotional effects. Understanding the motivations behind withholding praise can lead to healthier interactions."
People-pleasers view approval as essential for healing themselves and their relationships. Other-oriented perfectionists withhold praise, fearing it shows weakness. This behavior can lead to emotional distress for those seeking approval. Understanding that praise and criticism are often used strategically can mitigate their emotional impact. Perfectionists may resist giving praise due to high standards, which can be excessive and emotional. Withholding praise often stems from a fear of vulnerability and a belief that it implies a need for approval.
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