#self-compassion

#self-compassion

This means that your mind is flexible enough to stay calm and steady even in stressful and unpleasant situations. Here are a some suggestions for cultivating this sublime state of mind. Learn to live well despite your limitations. In 2001, I became chronically ill after contracting what appeared to be a routine viral infection. Today, my doctor calls me a "long hauler," a term that came into use when people didn't (for haven't) recovered fully from a bout with Covid.

Most of us have been reminded many times to practice self-care for the sake of our own physical and mental health or general well-being. We have been advised to eat a healthy diet, include some physical activity in each day, and get adequate sleep. These habits have been characterized as self-nurturant skills (Webb, 2014). It's not difficult to see how these actions would improve general well-being; you might even consider them to be obvious parts of a balanced lifestyle.

Loneliness is a common experience, and people in loving relationships are not immune to these feelings. Understanding that feelings of loneliness can arise from various sources, such as inadequacy or lost friendships, allows individuals to create proactive strategies and take control.

Suffering = pain x resistance. When we resist our resistance and beat ourselves up, we multiply our initial suffering, leading to even greater distress.

Self-compassion is not self-pity, self-indulgence, or self-esteem. It involves recognizing our suffering, acknowledging common humanity, and offering kindness, which can be validating, reassuring, or nurturing.

Maladaptive guilt keeps us stuck in self-blame and hinders growth. Guilt can be broken down into smaller parts to examine objectively.

If you struggle with depression, self-criticism worsens your condition, while compassion and small acts of kindness can lead to healing and upliftment.

How one quick reframe turned 'I'm a terrible parent' into a moment of healing and connection. Melissa, a working mom, snapped at her daughter but then applied self-compassion.

When you step into a therapy office, you're entering a space designed to mirror and heal the most fundamental relationship in your life—the one you have with yourself.

"I feel like I'm living someone else's life." "Why do I always put others' needs ahead of mine?" "Social situations exhaust me." In my practice, I frequently hear statements like this, and they indicate that someone might be living a partially or fully performative life.

Perfectionism is often linked to early relationships, where expectations set by caregivers shape an individual's sense of self, self-worth, and coping mechanisms.

"Shame is one of the most uncomfortable experiences, so much so that we often project our shame onto others to provide some relief from the discomfort."