While these moments may seem like an opportune time for partners to hash their problems out completely, more often than not, they end both messily and hurtfully. Thankfully, novel research suggests that this vicious cycle of escalation doesn't have to be the norm in a relationship. In fact, it can be easily short-circuited with one simple tactic: A time-out. In a 2024 study published in Communications Psychology, psychological researchers empirically
After a series of promotions over 18 months, her salary tripled - and then he couldn't deal, Dhatt says. Her partner's self-worth was tied directly to his income, and it eroded as her salary grew, Dhatt tells me. He insisted on splitting costs 50-50, leaving her with a disposable income that she wanted to spend on nice things but felt like she couldn't.
But by the end of this batch of episodes, most of these connections are starting to feel shakier than the mechanical bull at the rodeo-themed mini reunion. Perhaps that's an apt metaphor for ill-matched Love Is Blind relationships. You know that you're going to fall off and that this ride won't last forever, but you still get on and hold on for as long as possible.
I love exercise. I run every day, regularly work out, and go to spin classes. It's the only way I've found to keep my mental health in check (I've struggled with severe PTSD symptoms from a childhood accident), and it's great for my physical health. I like the way I look and how strong I feel. My fiancé also likes the way I look, but he wants me to spend less time at the gym.
My boyfriend has trichotillomania (he pulls out his beard and mustache hairs when he's anxious or bored without thinking about it). He considers it to be relatively mild because it has never caused any serious physical harm like an infection, and while I've suggested that therapy might help, he thinks that the stress of finding a therapist will just make it worse, but that is an issue for another letter.
Jake and Alma had yet another argument about money-budgets, who was spending what-but, like the others, it led to nowhere productive. But for other couples, it might not be about money but sex, or children's bedtimes. What they all have in common is that problems are not being resolved. This, unfortunately, is a common problem and pattern that, over time, can erode the relationship. These unsolved problems act as landmines that everyone learns to walk around, but which create an atmosphere of ongoing tension.