Psychology
fromPsychology Today
17 hours agoPersonality Hurts: What Happens When You Just Can't Fit In
Finding a match between individuals and their environments is crucial for happiness and well-being.
#short-man-syndrome
#short-man-syndrome
[ follow ]
#masculinity #mental-health #body-image #mens-mental-health #toxic-masculinity #identity #looksmaxxing #psychology
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe loneliest men in any family aren't the ones who left - they're the ones who stayed, paid every bill, fixed every problem, and died without anyone knowing what they actually felt - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from being the reliable one, carrying burdens silently while others remain unaware of the emotional struggles beneath the surface.
#identity
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who are warm in public but distant in private aren't being fake in either setting - they've built an entire social identity around the version of themselves that performs well in rooms and they genuinely don't know who shows up when the room is empty - Silicon Canals
People may develop a polished public persona that overshadows their true self, leading to a disconnect between social performance and personal identity.
#looksmaxxing
Health
fromScary Mommy
1 month agoWhat Is "Looksmaxxing"? The Dangerous Trend Affecting Teen Boys, Explained
Looksmaxxing, a trend originating from incel forums and popularized on TikTok, encourages teens to maximize physical attractiveness through extreme measures, raising health and psychological concerns among medical professionals.
Health
fromScary Mommy
1 month agoWhat Is "Looksmaxxing"? The Dangerous Trend Affecting Teen Boys, Explained
Looksmaxxing, a trend originating from incel forums and popularized on TikTok, encourages teens to maximize physical attractiveness through extreme measures, raising health and psychological concerns among medical professionals.
#emotional-suppression
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoMost men who grew up in the 1960s and 70s were taught that admitting you needed help was a character flaw. Finally, we are discovering that openness has its own kind of strength. - Silicon Canals
Men are taught to suppress emotions, leading to loneliness and health issues.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoBehavioral scientists say men who quietly lost their joy didn't lose it suddenly - it left in increments so small that no single day felt different from the one before, and by the time the absence was large enough to notice, the man had already rebuilt his entire daily life around the gap, and the structure that replaced the joy looks so much like normal that nobody standing outside it can see what's missing - Silicon Canals
Emotional suppression diminishes both negative and positive experiences, leading to a muted life despite external busyness.
#emotional-health
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoTough it out' was the only emotional instruction a whole generation of men ever received - and now they're sitting in retirement wondering why their body aches and nobody calls - Silicon Canals
Retirement brings a realization of emotional neglect and the need for deeper connections among men.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology suggests that men who were told "man up" as boys don't just suppress their emotions - they develop a pattern of harmful avoidance and it's misread as strength - Silicon Canals
Emotional suppression in men leads to serious health risks and relationship issues, as societal norms discourage vulnerability and expression of feelings.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests men who are deeply unhappy in life but hide it well aren't being strong - they're running a performance that costs them every real connection they have, and the people closest to them almost never see it coming - Silicon Canals
Men often mask their depression with busyness and distraction, making it difficult to recognize their true emotional state.
#body-image
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals
Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
#masculinity
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere is a specific kind of masculinity that comes not from dominance but from integrity, calmness, and emotional steadiness - they make others feel safe - Silicon Canals
True strength in masculinity is calm, steady, and emotionally safe, contrasting with loud, dominant behaviors often mistaken for confidence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere is a specific kind of masculinity that comes not from dominance but from integrity, calmness, and emotional steadiness - they make others feel safe - Silicon Canals
True strength in masculinity is calm, steady, and emotionally safe, contrasting with loud, dominant behaviors often mistaken for confidence.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says men raised in the 1960s and 70s weren't just taught to be strong - they were taught that strength meant carrying everything alone, and that single belief created a generation who confused endurance with emotional health - Silicon Canals
Men of previous generations were taught to handle stress alone, leading to emotional suppression and difficulties in expressing feelings.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the reason retired men sit in silence isn't because they have nothing to say - it's because they've lost the only identity anyone ever valued them for - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to a profound identity crisis for men who equate self-worth with professional achievement.
Independent films
fromIndependent
1 month agoLorraine Courtney: Young men are turning to the 'manosphere' because masculinity has been unfairly scrutinised and criticised - they just want to belong
Society condemns girls extensively but applies different standards to boys, raising questions about gendered accountability and media scrutiny of young men.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI stopped calling it imposter syndrome when I realized the feeling wasn't that I didn't belong in the room. The feeling was that every room I'd ever entered had rules I had to decode in real time while everyone else seemed to have received the manual in advance. That's not an imposter problem. That's a class problem. - Silicon Canals
Imposter syndrome often reflects the reality of navigating environments designed for those with class advantages, not a psychological deficiency.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoMen who say "we" when referring to their favorite sports team aren't delusional - they've found one of the last remaining places in adult life where belonging is unconditional, identity is shared without negotiation, and nobody asks them to explain why it matters so much - Silicon Canals
Men's identification with their sports teams fosters a sense of community and identity without the need for qualifications or conditions.
Social media marketing
fromThe Conversation
1 month agoHow 'looksmaxxing' self-improvement apps are marketing misogyny to young men
Incel ideology promoting genetic determinism in dating is spreading to teenagers through AI-powered looksmaxxing apps that monetize appearance insecurities and mainstream toxic masculinity.
Public health
fromEurasia Review
2 months ago'Masculinity Crisis': Influencers On Social Media Promote Low Testosterone To Young Men
Influencer content on Instagram and TikTok normalizes unnecessary testosterone testing and therapy for healthy young men by promoting unproven benefits and downplaying serious medical risks.
fromenglish.elpais.com
2 months agoHammers to the face and amphetamines: hypermasculine looksmaxxing invades the internet
Two years ago, we were asking ourselves here at EL PAIS if the normal man would make a comeback meaning, whether we weren't seeing the return to glory of the guy lacking in chiseled abs, generous biceps and a square jaw, represented in today's cinema by Hovik Keuchkerian and Josh O'Connor and, classically, by legends like Humphrey Bogart and Marcello Mastroianni.
Social justice
Right-wing politics
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoThere is no shame in being vain': the relentless rise of impossible male beauty standards
Male political and cultural figures increasingly perform militaristic authority through carefully curated facial presentation and appearance, while men's faces face unprecedented public scrutiny previously reserved for women.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoHow to View the Concept of Shaming
If you feel shame, recognize that no one else can shame you; only you can make yourself feel ashamed. Only you have the power to create your emotions-positive, negative, helpful, or unhelpful. The Stoics Hundreds of years ago, the Greek and Roman Stoics advanced that insight. In his treatise the Enchiridion, Epictetus wrote: Men are disturbed not by the things that happen but by their opinions about those things. In his Epistles, Seneca stated: Everything depends on opinion.
Philosophy
fromEurekAlert!
2 months ago'Masculinity crisis': Influencers on social media promote low testosterone to young men, study finds
Young men are being encouraged to undergo testosterone testing and start hormone therapy through Instagram and TikTok content that promotes unproven health claims while downplaying medical risks, a new international study has found. The study was done at the University of Sydney's Faculty of Medicine and Health, and led by Emma Grundtvig Gram, a visiting PhD student from the University of Copenhagen.
#bystander-effect
Psychology
fromHuffPost
1 month agoMen Are More Likely To Exhibit This 1 Behavior When Other Men Are Creepy. The Reason Is Telling.
Men intervene less frequently than women in uncomfortable social situations due to masculine norms emphasizing dominance, fear of peer judgment, and confusion about acceptable behavior.
Psychology
fromHuffPost
1 month agoMen Are More Likely To Exhibit This 1 Behavior When Other Men Are Creepy. The Reason Is Telling.
Men intervene less frequently than women in uncomfortable social situations due to masculine norms emphasizing dominance, fear of peer judgment, and confusion about acceptable behavior.
Medicine
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoUS man issues challenge to disprove his claim of having world's smallest penis to raise micropenis awareness
A North Carolina man claims to have the world's smallest penis at 0.38 inches and advocates for awareness about micropenis, a rare medical condition affecting 0.6% of people worldwide.
Public health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoManosphere' influencers pushing testosterone tests are convincing healthy young men there is something wrong with them, study finds
Influencers and wellness companies promote routine testosterone screening to young men, medicalising normal variations and driving profit without clear clinical benefit.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoPerformance Anxiety: Understandable, Unnecessary, Changeable
Performance anxiety in sexual contexts stems from pressure to deliver specific outcomes valued by partners, rooted in power dynamics, unspoken threats, and unrealistic expectations rather than genuine intimacy concerns.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 month agoGrown-Ass Men Reveal The Moment They Knew They Were A 'Manchild'
A father's failure to verify his son's event schedule resulted in missing the competition, revealing a pattern of delegating parental responsibilities and prioritizing being liked over being a responsible adult.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoIf a man in his 50s suddenly gets very quiet and starts spending more time alone, psychology says something important is almost certainly happening - Silicon Canals
Men in their fifties often withdraw socially and become introspective due to accumulated life stress and physical decline, not depression or midlife crisis, as they process overwhelming responsibilities while adhering to cultural expectations of silent strength.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoDealing with the Fear of Looking Dumb
In some cases, fear of looking dumb is a symptom of social anxiety disorder (APA, 2022), and it can be associated with perfectionism and fear of failure. It can show up in issues such as imposter syndrome, or feeling like a fraud and worrying about not rising to the expectations of a high-achieving position. It can also be related to stereotype threat, when someone's membership in a marginalized group leads them to worry that they will act in a way that confirms negative stereotypes.
Mental health
[ Load more ]