#mattering

#mattering

According to the author, Zach Mercurio, mattering is when another satisfies our fundamental need to be seen, heard, and valued. Mattering is when we feel significant to others. 'Mattering is different and more elemental than 'belonging' or 'inclusion.' Belonging is feeling welcomed and accepted into a group. Inclusion is being invited and able to take an active role in that group, but mattering is feeling significant to its members.'

I was fortunate enough to have had Dr. Haidt as a lecturer during one of my classes at the University of Pennsylvania. For that class, we had read his book, The Happiness Hypothesis, another great read where Dr. Haidt (2006) shows that lasting happiness comes from balancing love, purpose, and personal growth. In The Anxious Generation, Dr. Haidt (2024) discusses how a shift has occurred in childhood and adolescence since smartphones have become constant companions, and how social media has replaced playdates and real-life friendships.