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fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoI'm 66 and I stopped calling my kids first - and the silence showed me something I didn't want to see: the closeness I felt was something I had been quietly maintaining all along - Silicon Canals
The experiment revealed that the author was the primary initiator in maintaining relationships with their adult children.
#masculinity
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fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoI want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals
Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoKnowing Themselves Helps LGBTQ+ Teens Thrive
Research indicates that LGBTQ+ teens entering high school experience significantly higher anxiety symptoms compared to their cisgender heterosexual peers, highlighting the unique challenges they face during this transition.
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Bicycling
fromEntrepreneur
1 day agoHis Business Sells a Nostalgic Childhood Hobby That Gets Kids Off Screens. It's On Track for $12 Million This Year: 'Absolutely Life-Changing.'
Loveland's children's bike business, Early Rider, focuses on balance bikes and achieved $10 million in revenue last year, aiming for $12 million this year.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNobody tells you that one of the cruelest parts of aging is becoming invisible in rooms you used to command - I walked into a meeting last year as a consultant and a young man looked right through me to greet the person behind me, and I stood there holding 40 years of expertise in a body he had already decided had nothing to offer, and that single moment taught me more about getting old than any birthday ever has - Silicon Canals
Aging can lead to feeling invisible and undervalued in professional settings, despite years of experience.
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 weeks agoBeloved children's singer melts hearts with message for trans kids: "You are a beautiful light" - LGBTQ Nation
I see you, and it makes me so happy to see you. There is such a disconnect between what we say America is about and what it is right now. True freedom is the freedom to be who we are, and it hurts my heart so much that in some parts of this country, it is unsafe for trans people to do that right now.
SF LGBT
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours agoPsychology says the hardest part of watching your parents age isn't the physical decline - it's the moment you realize they've started performing competence the same way you performed adulthood when you were younger - Silicon Canals
Older adults often use compensation strategies to adapt to cognitive decline, employing rehearsed behaviors to maintain normalcy in conversations.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals
Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
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fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe people who grew up in houses where money was tight but the table was always set properly, the shoes always clean, and guests always fed before family - they didn't learn class from wealth, they inherited it from someone who refused to let scarcity become an excuse - Silicon Canals
Class and dignity are intertwined, with true self-respect stemming from resilience in hardship rather than wealth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals
People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.
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fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the loneliest part of getting older isn't being alone - it's realizing that some friendships were only meant for a season, and not everyone grows with you - Silicon Canals
Friendships often fade as adults prioritize responsibilities and seek deeper connections, leading to feelings of loneliness even among familiar faces.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe people who talk about their childhood like it was fine but can't remember most of it aren't lying. The absence of memory and the absence of trauma feel identical from the inside until something cracks the seal, and by then the person has built an entire adult identity on the version where nothing happened. - Silicon Canals
Childhood amnesia affects memory retention, leading to a lack of vivid recollections from early years despite having a normal upbringing.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals
Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who replay conversations in their head didn't develop that habit by accident - most of them learned early that saying the wrong thing had real consequences, and now their brain replays every exchange searching for mistakes and misfires like a security system that was installed in childhood and has never once been turned off - Silicon Canals
Replaying conversations stems from early experiences where words had significant consequences, leading to a defense mechanism of constant analysis.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who make others light up when they first meet them have usually known what it feels like to be overlooked - and instead of becoming bitter about it, they made a quiet decision at some point in their life that no one in their presence would ever feel that invisible again, and that choice is one of the most powerful things a human being can do with their own pain - Silicon Canals
Warm individuals often transform their experiences of invisibility into empathy, making others feel valued and seen.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who grew up watching their parents pretend everything was fine at dinner didn't learn to lie. They learned that love sometimes looks like protecting someone from a truth that would change the room, and they became adults who confuse withholding with kindness. - Silicon Canals
Early relationships significantly influence adult attachment styles, with childhood conflict and lack of warmth leading to insecurity in all adult relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals
Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.
fromDefector
2 days agoShould I Take My Two-Year-Old To A Soccer Match Abroad, Or Can I Leave Him At Home? | Defector
Traveling internationally with a toddler requires careful planning and consideration. The longest flight a child has taken should be factored into the decision-making process.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and I worked six days a week for thirty-four years, missed recitals, missed dinners, missed the kind of ordinary weekday mornings I can never get back. My son works remotely, logs off at five, and coaches his daughter's soccer team. I'm not angry at him. I'm grieving for myself. - Silicon Canals
Parenthood involves complex emotions, including pride and loss, as sacrifices made for children can lead to feelings of regret and deficit.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPeople raised in the 1960s and 70s didn't have optimized morning routines - they had chores, a bus to catch, and parents who didn't negotiate, and somehow that produced adults who know how to begin things without being ready - Silicon Canals
Morning routines have shifted from simple survival tasks to complex, optimized rituals filled with self-care and intention.
fromMail Online
4 weeks agoNursery rhymes should be confined to HISTORY lessons, woke expert says
'We absolutely should challenge stereotypes about ageing. Children do build their understanding of the world from these tiny repeated narratives. If old always equals useless or confused then that's going to shape their perception.'
Psychology
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fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago30 Things To Keep Your Kids Active And Busy All Day, And Therefore Tired At Night
Durable, recycled-plastic Green Toys pull-behind wagon and a compact Nex Playground Active Play System deliver eco-friendly durability and interactive TV-connected play for kids and adults.
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoIf you remember these 8 weekend rituals from childhood, you grew up with stronger family bonds than most people have today - Silicon Canals
I was thinking about this the other day while scrolling through my phone on a Saturday morning, realizing I'd been working for two hours without even noticing. Growing up, my weekends looked nothing like this. There were unspoken rules, traditions that just happened without anyone scheduling them into a calendar app. These weren't grand gestures or expensive activities. They were simple rituals that, looking back now, built something most of us are desperately trying to recreate through therapy apps and self-help books: genuine connection.
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