"So many women in perimenopause feel like something is 'wrong' with them because they've been sold a completely unrealistic story about female desire," Dr. Vanessa Coppola, a menopause expert and founder of Bare Aesthetic and Bare Soul Wellness, tells Scary Mommy. "You're supposed to want sex the same way you did at 25 for the rest of your life, and if you don't, it must mean you're broken or your relationship is failing."
I've been in a long-distance, open relationship with "Tom" for nearly a year. When we first met, we were only planning to be casual BDSM play partners, but we both felt an instant connection and started a romantic relationship a few months later. When we first met, I told him that I didn't need to know about his other partners as long as he was using protection and getting tested, and he agreed.
Picture this: You're getting ready for a night out, running 10 minutes behind (as usual), and putting the finishing touches on your makeup before you call your Uber. But before you go, it's time to stash essentials in your purse, like your lipstick, phone charger, condoms, perfume rollerball, and keys. For most, these are the must-haves, and for good reason: They help you feel confident and prepared - after all, keeping your lip color fresh should feel just as routine as taking care of your sexual health.
The researchers hope the findings will help to reassure women that their responses during orgasm are normal. 'While there have been case reports of women laughing, crying or having unusual physical symptoms during orgasm, this is the first study to characterize what these phenomena are, and when they are most likely to occur,' lead author Dr Lauren Streicher said. 'Women need to know that if they have uncontrollable peals of laughter every time they orgasm, and nothing was funny, they are not alone.'
Adult content has never been as accessible as it is now, thanks to the internet. Hell, online smut played a major role in the rise of the web itself in the 1990s. With that glut of porn, some have voiced concerns that some people are consuming too much of the stuff or even becoming addicted, which they claim could have consequences like regulating emotions or impaired sexual functioning.
"No, not yet. I am waiting until I am serious with someone, and until then, I am only doing oral and mutual masturbation. My reply, "That is sex!" This usually gets a response of, "Well, I meant f*cking," which they equate to sex. Nothing else. I have to remind my clients that fellatio and cunnilingus is called "oral sex" for a reason. That is still sex."
The short answer is that I don't know whether there's a way to get past this sudden gag reaction, or why it's happening now. I do, however, have some follow-up questions that might help. Did absolutely anything else change at the time that you abruptly went from easily swallowing to immediately gagging? Your stress levels, diet, or environment?
Upon a sparse table lay a mannequin with its smooth Ken doll gooch exposed. In that valley of white plastic was a crude bandage. Next to the mannequin was a laptop running a slideshow about premature ejaculation. On one slide, a couple in black and white sits disgruntled. The woman has her arms crossed, displeased. The man sits despairingly with his head in his hands. This particular slide's accompanying text read "Premature ejaculation is the #1 male sexual dysfunction."
If I'd thought my job was done after only one talk, my very shy, introverted daughter would never have come to me during a very scary time. She felt off 'down there' and told me. I knew that she had a new partner and I knew they were probably having sex; I was having sex at her age. So while she was a little vague, I knew that she'd come to me for a reason.
No one warns you about erotic grief. We hear about and live menopause, testosterone changes, cancer treatment, chronic illness, and the slow, steady realities of aging-but almost no one prepares us for this part: One day, desire may not be as effortless as it once was. It may not rise on command. It may go quiet, or slow down, or disappear for stretches. And that shift can break your heart a little.
She's happy, healthy, and everything we could've hoped for. I had a vaginal birth at 36 weeks with just a bit of tearing, nothing too major, thankfully, and recovery has been going pretty well so far," she prefaces in her post on the Mommit subreddit. She notes that she's missing "intimacy" with her husband, noting the last time they had sex was when she was 32 weeks pregnant.
I love when my partner climaxes, but when he does, something really annoying happens-and I have to spend literal days dealing with the repercussions. When we have sex, I end up "dripping" cum for 24-36 hours after. I wish I was kidding. I always use the bathroom immediately after and sit for a bit to let it fall out, and of course a shower the next morning.
In many ways, taking a break from sex is an act of self-care, says Naomi Zelin, APCC, a sex and relationship therapist at Humbly Elevated. There are plenty of reasons to say no, whether it's due to something physical, mental, emotional, or all of the above. If it isn't making you happy, or if it's complicating your life, it makes sense to step away.
When it comes to having morning sex, the early bird catches the... I'm not even going to finish that one. We'll stick with this: It's time to rise and bang. There's much more than double-shot espressos and yoga routines waiting on the other end of an early wake-up call. Morning sex has so many perks, you'll forget why it was ever tempting to hit snooze.
An apparent lack of a sex drive could mean so many things, from low testosterone to stress to an identity crisis to ... stuff I don't even want to speculate on that I'm sure you've already worried enough about it as it is.
I began doing restoration exercises about four months ago. I love it. My glans is already more sensitive and the skin expansion/growth is boosting my soft-size, which is a nice little confidence builder.
