I'm a 39-year-old man, and have been married to my wife, "Ciara," for the past 10 years. We've had some ups and downs, and have been in a pretty rocky state for the past year or so. There hasn't been one big incident; it's mostly career stress, especially since my own job often requires me to take evening/night shifts. While the pay is excellent, we don't see as much of each other as we used to.
When we first met, 12 years ago, my husband and I didn't waste any time in starting the sexual part of our relationship. He warned me he was a sex addict, and I am enthusiastic about sex. On our first night together I was aware of some erectile dysfunction he wasn't entirely hard and benefited from holding himself when penetrating me though this didn't stop us reaching climax. We joked about how many times I would orgasm and neither of us seemed inhibited.
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