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#hosting

Miss Manners: My guest's insistence that I relax ruined the party for me

Criticism of a host's efforts, even if masked as concern, is rude and undermines the joy of hosting.

Miss Manners: I don't know what the waiter saw, but I was embarrassed

Attentive service in restaurants should not embarrass guests, and hosts are not obliged to ask for contributions if they prefer not to.
Understanding modern dining etiquette can help resolve confusion over expectations for host and guest contributions.

Miss Manners: My guest's insistence that I relax ruined the party for me

Criticism of a host's efforts, even if masked as concern, is rude and undermines the joy of hosting.

Miss Manners: I don't know what the waiter saw, but I was embarrassed

Attentive service in restaurants should not embarrass guests, and hosts are not obliged to ask for contributions if they prefer not to.
Understanding modern dining etiquette can help resolve confusion over expectations for host and guest contributions.
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#communication

We should take awkwardness less personally, and more seriously | Aeon Essays

Awkwardness serves as a powerful social inhibition that impedes necessary discussions and moral actions.

15 Things to Say When Someone Comments on Your Weight

It's crucial to avoid commenting on others' bodies, as it perpetuates harmful societal standards and may not reflect their true health or circumstances.

Why are you so offended? - Harvard Gazette

Taking offense serves as a tool for protecting status and enforcing social norms, rather than an expression of vulnerability or sensitivity.

Miss Manners: The host told me nobody would eat the food I made

It's impolite for hosts to dismiss guests' food contributions or gift choices without tact.
Gift-giving should be thoughtful, not just transactional, preserving personal connections.

Miss Manners: Would it be rude to break the news at our friends' wedding?

Sharing personal life news at a friend's wedding can be appropriate if done discreetly and respectfully, focusing on their special day.

Miss Manners: Am I overreacting about my husband's public insult?

Consider the implications behind seemingly trivial remarks and avoid unnecessary conflicts in personal relationships.

We should take awkwardness less personally, and more seriously | Aeon Essays

Awkwardness serves as a powerful social inhibition that impedes necessary discussions and moral actions.

15 Things to Say When Someone Comments on Your Weight

It's crucial to avoid commenting on others' bodies, as it perpetuates harmful societal standards and may not reflect their true health or circumstances.

Why are you so offended? - Harvard Gazette

Taking offense serves as a tool for protecting status and enforcing social norms, rather than an expression of vulnerability or sensitivity.

Miss Manners: The host told me nobody would eat the food I made

It's impolite for hosts to dismiss guests' food contributions or gift choices without tact.
Gift-giving should be thoughtful, not just transactional, preserving personal connections.

Miss Manners: Would it be rude to break the news at our friends' wedding?

Sharing personal life news at a friend's wedding can be appropriate if done discreetly and respectfully, focusing on their special day.

Miss Manners: Am I overreacting about my husband's public insult?

Consider the implications behind seemingly trivial remarks and avoid unnecessary conflicts in personal relationships.
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#respect

PSA: Stop Talking To Moms Through Their Baby

Speaking to new moms through their babies is condescending and frustrating, exacerbating their already challenging experience of motherhood.

Miss Manners: The neighbor keeps complaining. What's the proper response?

Navigating neighborly relations involves mutual respect and understanding of personal boundaries.

PSA: Stop Talking To Moms Through Their Baby

Speaking to new moms through their babies is condescending and frustrating, exacerbating their already challenging experience of motherhood.

Miss Manners: The neighbor keeps complaining. What's the proper response?

Navigating neighborly relations involves mutual respect and understanding of personal boundaries.
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#economic-impact

Opinion: Tipping culture is out of control. Trump and Harris would make it worse

American tipping culture is becoming more intense and widespread, creating financial and psychological stress for consumers.

These Are the Biggest Cash Tips Service Workers Ever Received

Tipping plays a critical role in the financial support of service workers, often supplementing their low wages.

Opinion: Tipping culture is out of control. Trump and Harris would make it worse

American tipping culture is becoming more intense and widespread, creating financial and psychological stress for consumers.

These Are the Biggest Cash Tips Service Workers Ever Received

Tipping plays a critical role in the financial support of service workers, often supplementing their low wages.
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#gender-roles

How Gender Shaped Crime and Punishment in the Medieval World - Medievalists.net

Crime in medieval society was profoundly shaped by gender roles and social norms, influencing both criminal behavior and punishment.

The "Beer Girl" Stereotype Went Viral. So I Became One.

Embracing the 'beer girl' persona can be empowering and highlights the contradictions in women's choices in social settings.

I paid for my engagement ring, and my husband picked out my wedding dress. We've always gone against gender norms.

The marriage defies traditional norms through roles and rapid engagement, emphasizing personal choices over societal expectations.

How Gender Shaped Crime and Punishment in the Medieval World - Medievalists.net

Crime in medieval society was profoundly shaped by gender roles and social norms, influencing both criminal behavior and punishment.

The "Beer Girl" Stereotype Went Viral. So I Became One.

Embracing the 'beer girl' persona can be empowering and highlights the contradictions in women's choices in social settings.

I paid for my engagement ring, and my husband picked out my wedding dress. We've always gone against gender norms.

The marriage defies traditional norms through roles and rapid engagement, emphasizing personal choices over societal expectations.
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#family-dynamics

I was shamed for taking my baby to a kid-free wedding - and was even told my daughter 'doesn't fit the family'

Navigating child-free wedding policies can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, especially when last-minute changes occur.

Changing With the Times? Attitudes About Nonparental Care

Non-parental childcare is increasingly normative, yet traditional ideals of maternal care persist in American society.

I was shamed for taking my baby to a kid-free wedding - and was even told my daughter 'doesn't fit the family'

Navigating child-free wedding policies can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, especially when last-minute changes occur.

Changing With the Times? Attitudes About Nonparental Care

Non-parental childcare is increasingly normative, yet traditional ideals of maternal care persist in American society.
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The EU has helped us understand exactly how horny people are

A significant portion of the Dutch (30%) and German (16.4%) population visits adult websites monthly, with Spain leading at 59.4%.
The Digital Services Act enhances transparency in user data from adult platforms, revealing insights into social norms and consumption habits.

Older Adults Are Sharing The Unique Experiences From The Past That Have Now Become Obsolete

Older generations have unique customs and experiences that have shaped their perspectives, many of which seem surprising to younger generations today.
#friendship

Closeness Between Men

Gender dynamics influence social interactions, showing a stark contrast between male aggression and female intimacy in friendships.

Miss Manners: She wouldn't let me wear my custom slippers in her house

Friendship should accommodate personal needs, such as health-related footwear, especially in private settings.

Miss Manners: Is it wrong that my friend group always goes dutch?

Long-standing friendship and personal agreements about meal payments are not a breach of etiquette.

Closeness Between Men

Gender dynamics influence social interactions, showing a stark contrast between male aggression and female intimacy in friendships.

Miss Manners: She wouldn't let me wear my custom slippers in her house

Friendship should accommodate personal needs, such as health-related footwear, especially in private settings.

Miss Manners: Is it wrong that my friend group always goes dutch?

Long-standing friendship and personal agreements about meal payments are not a breach of etiquette.
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Speaking the Unspeakable: What Holds Us Back from Sharing?

Memes go viral by engaging emotions and social norms, which enables them to be easily shared.

Miss Manners: The chitchat before the video meeting has taken a bad turn

Remote meetings should avoid personal discussions on unprofessional topics to maintain professionalism.
When attending events with friends, it's often expected to share the costs, even on birthdays.

Everyday Philosophy: I didn't tip for a $5 cup of coffee. Was I wrong?

Tipping culture in the US raises complex questions about fair wages and social norms, highlighting differing perspectives on the purpose of tipping.

Which Party Has Cornered the Tattoo Vote?

Tattooing among politicians is a growing trend, reflecting changing societal norms and acceptance of body art.

Miss Manners: I didn't tip him, and I was flustered by his response

Tipping valets at medical facilities is often ambiguous; check policies before deciding to tip.
#public-behavior

People Are Sharing The Small Things That Always Brighten Their Days, And It's Oh So Wholesome

Valuing authenticity and spontaneity in public behavior can inspire others to embrace their individuality.

Mom's vacation ruined by stranger's 'gross' habit at hotel pool: 'Entitlement at its worst'

Public grooming acts, like cutting toenails, can violate social norms and cause discomfort in shared spaces, as experienced by a vacationing mother.

People Are Sharing The Small Things That Always Brighten Their Days, And It's Oh So Wholesome

Valuing authenticity and spontaneity in public behavior can inspire others to embrace their individuality.

Mom's vacation ruined by stranger's 'gross' habit at hotel pool: 'Entitlement at its worst'

Public grooming acts, like cutting toenails, can violate social norms and cause discomfort in shared spaces, as experienced by a vacationing mother.
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I grew up in the US and my husband grew up in Ireland. We've settled down in Dublin, but there were a few culture shocks along the way.

Cultural differences in habits, such as pub culture and driving, reveal varying social norms and values between Ireland and the US.

Teenagers will always get drunk so why don't we just serve them in pubs? | Zoe Williams

Strict ID checks at bars can seem inconsistent, with adults facing scrutiny while teens slip through unnoticed.

13 Unwritten Rules to Know Before Traveling to Paris

Understanding Parisian etiquette enhances the visitor experience and shows respect for local customs.

How to evaluate social norms as an independent thinker

Social norms serve crucial functions in guiding behavior and ensuring societal order, especially as they are increasingly questioned in modern times.

Solo dining in US spikes 29% as restaurants cater to new trend: report

Solo dining is increasingly popular, with significant growth in solo reservations observed globally, indicating a shift in social dining norms.

Opinion | What Do Tim Walz and Travis Kelce Have in Common? Jock Insurance.

Travis Kelce and Tim Walz redefine masculinity through emotional openness and support for social issues, embodying 'Jock Insurance' that protects against perceptions of weakness.

Woman Wonders If She's In The Wrong For Wearing A Two-Piece To Swim Lessons

The scrutiny of women's bodies, especially mothers, reflects societal anxiety about body image and public appearance.

Strange Relations: Masculinity, Sexuality and Art in Mid-Century America by Ralf Webb review sex and the literary lions

Ralf Webb examines same-sex desire in 20th-century American authors, starting with Tennessee Williams' character Stanley Kowalski.

Gender Nonconforming: What to Know About This Beautiful Term

Gender nonconformity embraces breaking binary norms, supporting unique identities.
#queer-identity

In 'Queendom,' authenticity is resistance

Art has radical potential to challenge societal norms and empower individuals

How Right and Wrong Ways to Be Queer Are Changing Fiction

Navigating contradictions and expectations as a queer person in America in 2024 is complex and exhausting.

In 'Queendom,' authenticity is resistance

Art has radical potential to challenge societal norms and empower individuals

How Right and Wrong Ways to Be Queer Are Changing Fiction

Navigating contradictions and expectations as a queer person in America in 2024 is complex and exhausting.
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French artist Elisabeth Louise Vigee Le Brun - The Good Life France

Smiles were historically frowned upon in art as indications of imbecility or low social status, in contrast to modern interpretations.

Opinion | Harvey Weinstein and the Limits of She Said, She Said, She Said'

The Weinstein case overturning highlights the complexities of justice in cases involving powerful individuals.

A teacher dreams of a society that values education like sports (opinion)

Society values athletes highly, but what if educators were esteemed equally?
Imagining a world where teachers receive the same level of admiration and support as athletes.

The principles of wearable etiquette

Wearing wearables on special occasions can lead to distractions and social concerns.
Smartwatch etiquette involves being considerate of the event's formal expectations and adjusting notifications accordingly.

I will never understand heterosexual dating culture's obsession with height. Get a footstool! | Rebecca Shaw

Height difference in relationships is a societal issue
Heterosexual dating culture's emphasis on height creates advantages and disadvantages based on physical appearance.

Bill Maher Blames Biden's Low Approval On Americans Being Chronically Bummed': Cheer the F**k Up!'

Americans need to focus less on mental health according to Bill Maher
Many Americans take antidepressants without proper diagnosis, seeking a quick fix

I Had Sex With A Married Man, But It's Not What You Think

Exploring experiences with a sex therapist can help release shame around sex.
Challenging societal norms regarding sex and setting personal boundaries is essential for self-acceptance.

Authentic Funny Leap Year Postcards From 1908

Leap Year postcards depicted absurd gender stereotypes.
The 1908 postcards featured women wielding weapons to apprehend men.

Men snore loudly, women feel the cold... The real life situations that prove sex-based science is right

Gender affects health and behavior.
Debate on whether stereotypes are products of biology or social norms.

Gender is a social matter, not a biological one | Letter

Belief in a patriarchal society and male privilege influences the significance placed on the biological sex of babies.
Feminist response to patriarchy argues that social judgment comes before the significance of biological sex.

In 'May December,' Todd Haynes again delves into the dark complexities of being human

Todd Haynes's films often explore social norms through the lens of women and/or queerness.
Gracie's character in 'May December' embodies the cultural legacies and expectations placed on women.

New York really is the worst place to be single - I know from experience

New York City is ranked as one of the worst cities in the country to be single.
Dating in NYC is difficult due to the rise of dating apps and evolving social norms of approaching someone in person.
#lgbtq

20 LGBTQ+ music videos that broke boundaries - LGBTQ Nation

Music videos are utilized by many bands, including LGBTQ+ artists, as a medium to express another dimension of their art beyond just promotion.

Coming out later in life was hard. But I'm the happiest I've ever been

Coming out can be a long and complex process, influenced by personal experiences and societal norms.

20 LGBTQ+ music videos that broke boundaries - LGBTQ Nation

Music videos are utilized by many bands, including LGBTQ+ artists, as a medium to express another dimension of their art beyond just promotion.

Coming out later in life was hard. But I'm the happiest I've ever been

Coming out can be a long and complex process, influenced by personal experiences and societal norms.
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California mom's shopping cart rant sets social media ablaze

Returning shopping carts may not always be feasible for parents with young children due to safety concerns in parking lots.

Let's Talk About Our Grief

The American approach to grief is narrow and outdated, needing a more empathetic and public support system.
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Esto es lo que puedes ver en los museos de San Francisco este verano

Exhibiting diverse voices through art to challenge social norms.

Mom Wonders About Returning A $100 Gift Given At A "No Gift" Birthday

Your presence is the most important gift, but societal norms can create awkward gift-giving situations.
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