#over-apologizing

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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who constantly apologize for things that aren't their fault aren't being polite. They grew up in an environment where someone else's bad mood was always their responsibility to fix - Silicon Canals

Over-apologizing often stems from childhood experiences that teach individuals to manage others' emotions, leading to chronic self-blame and anxiety.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

Psychology says adults who apologise for everything aren't necessarily insecure or timid. Many of them learned that taking the blame kept the peace, and they still carry that reflex decades later - Silicon Canals

Over-apologizing can be a trauma response known as the fawn response, developed to prevent conflict and ensure safety.
fromBrooklyn Paper
1 month ago

Brooklyn playwright's show 'Apoloholics' has nothing to apologize for * Brooklyn Paper

"There's a lot of insecurity," Corigliano said of the reasons people over-apologize. "There's that feeling of needing validation, not feeling you deserve to say and feel what you say and feel." Apologizing becomes a kind of attitude, where "sorry" can be spoken or expressed in other words, undermining statements and introducing uncertainty.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

If you apologize when someone bumps into you on the street, hold the door for 30 seconds longer than necessary, and thank bus drivers twice - psychology says these 7 patterns are running simultaneously, and the over-courtesy is a map of every interaction where you were made to feel like an inconvenience - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing and over-thanking stem from learned beliefs that one's existence inconveniences others, rooted in childhood experiences of being made to feel like too much.
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