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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who constantly apologize for things that aren't their fault aren't being polite. They grew up in an environment where someone else's bad mood was always their responsibility to fix - Silicon Canals

Over-apologizing often stems from childhood experiences that teach individuals to manage others' emotions, leading to chronic self-blame and anxiety.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

People who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals

Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

The hardest part of growing up lower middle class wasn't the lack of money. It was learning to want things quietly, because visible desire in a household running on tight margins felt like an accusation against the people who were already giving everything they had. - Silicon Canals

Emotional training around scarcity shapes behavior in lower middle class childhoods, teaching children to suppress desires to avoid adding stress to their families.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

I'm 37 and my daughter asked me why I apologize to furniture when I bump into it, and I realized I've been rehearsing deference to inanimate objects because somewhere in childhood I learned that taking up space required an apology. - Silicon Canals

Compulsive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences where one's presence was seen as a source of tension or conflict.
fromwww.theguardian.com
10 months ago

The noises you make every day fill me with disgust. Now I'm not afraid to tell you | Rebecca Shaw

Looking back, I can see my childhood behavior as a reflection of misophonia, a disorder that triggers extreme reactions to specific sounds or actions around us.
Psychology
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