#limits

#limits

Noted psychoanalyst Don Carveth wrote, "The point of analysis is to get over yourself." While we often think of therapy as a support system, which it is to an extent, it doesn't merely aid self-esteem; good therapy helps curtail pride as well. Consider the implicit demands of what people tend to complain about. We're heartbroken over disapproval, breakup, failure, and loss, some of which is obviously more objectively meaningful.

Manage your expectations: A child agreeing to a limit in theory but protesting in practice is to be expected. They aren't "tricking" you, they're just having a hard time accepting it once it's a reality. Getting frustrated and angry almost always escalates the situation and doesn't result in any lessons learned. Be prepared for this curveball so you can respond in a way that's supportive while holding the limit.