"So many women in perimenopause feel like something is 'wrong' with them because they've been sold a completely unrealistic story about female desire," Dr. Vanessa Coppola, a menopause expert and founder of Bare Aesthetic and Bare Soul Wellness, tells Scary Mommy. "You're supposed to want sex the same way you did at 25 for the rest of your life, and if you don't, it must mean you're broken or your relationship is failing."
To experience desire for another person, you must feel sexually confident in yourself. Sexual confidence includes having a positive body image and perceiving yourself as a person who could attract others.