Co-regulation requires three skill sets: the ability to identify when your partner is emotionally dysregulated, the ability to tell your partner when you are dysregulated, and the ability to react to your partner in a way that is calming.
Inspectors were particularly impressed by the school's focus on emotional wellbeing, where each class elects a kindness champion trained to help resolve disagreements and support classmates feeling angry or upset.
It's not just about missing out on sex. It's about feeling as though your wellbeing doesn't matter very much. Being told you can't have something valuable leads to feelings of guilt or shame.