Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoOur Inner Life Rules: Habit or Choice?
Inner rules governing self-treatment are often inherited and unexamined, with therapy providing a chance to consciously choose them.
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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoChildren who grew up in the 1960s without smartphones, instant gratification, or parental intervention in every conflict often display these 7 strengths as adults that younger generations struggle to develop - Silicon Canals
Children in the 1960s developed resilience and creativity through unstructured play and boredom, unlike today's youth who rely on constant stimulation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who were told they were "too much" as children didn't become less. They became strategic, learning exactly how much of themselves each person could tolerate and rationing accordingly, and they've been doing the math in every room since. - Silicon Canals
Children learn to suppress emotions to fit in, becoming strategists in managing their feelings rather than simply toning down their expressions.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe person in your life who never panics, never raises their voice, and always has a plan isn't naturally calm. They're running an entire operating system that was built in a house where someone else's instability was the weather, and calm was the only thing that kept the roof on. - Silicon Canals
Composure in crises often stems from childhood experiences in unstable environments, leading to adaptive emotional skills rather than innate personality traits.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the reason some people become extremely competent but quietly resentful is that they were rewarded for capability so early that they never learned the difference between being needed and being loved - Silicon Canals
Childhood patterns of being valued for competence rather than inherent worth create adults who confuse their value with their usefulness, leading to invisible emotional erosion despite external success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe person in your life who never panics, never raises their voice, and always has a plan isn't naturally calm. They're running an entire operating system that was built in a house where someone else's instability was the weather, and calm was the only thing that kept the roof on. - Silicon Canals
Composure in crises often stems from childhood experiences in unstable environments, leading to adaptive emotional skills rather than innate personality traits.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the reason some people become extremely competent but quietly resentful is that they were rewarded for capability so early that they never learned the difference between being needed and being loved - Silicon Canals
Childhood patterns of being valued for competence rather than inherent worth create adults who confuse their value with their usefulness, leading to invisible emotional erosion despite external success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says people who stay calm under pressure aren't naturally composed - they learned early that showing fear or panic would cost them the protection or approval they desperately needed - Silicon Canals
Emotional suppression under stress often stems from childhood experiences with caregivers, shaping attachment styles and coping mechanisms.
fromIndependent
1 week agoFewer people are now reading for pleasure - just how worried should we be?
With literacy rates declining across OECD countries, building healthy habits around books is truly essential. Allowing reading at dinner started as one of those on-the-spot parental solutions. Letting them have a copy of Bunny Vs Monkey or The Beano while they ate seemed like a more ethical solution for keeping them in their chairs for the duration of the meal than, say, duct tape.
Books
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople who can't walk through a store without running their fingers along every surface aren't being childish - they learned early that the world only felt real when their body confirmed it because the emotional information they received from people was never reliable enough to trust - Silicon Canals
For many of us, that compulsive need to touch isn't about poor impulse control. It's about confirmation. It's about making sure the world around us is real, solid, tangible - because somewhere along the line, we learned that the emotional landscape we navigated wasn't.
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Education
fromwww.bbc.com
2 weeks agoHow will SEND reforms meet London's growing needs?
SEND support in London has increased by a third over the past decade, with pupils requiring the highest level of need almost doubling, driven by better awareness of neurodevelopmental conditions, rising childhood poverty, and pandemic impacts.
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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople who were always told they were mature for their age rarely got to be immature at the right age. Now they're adults who don't know how to play, rest without earning it, or want something without justifying it first. - Silicon Canals
Praising children for being 'mature for their age' often masks parentification—a harmful adaptation where children suppress their needs to manage adult emotions and household responsibilities, creating psychological patterns that become restrictive in adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe real reason people whose parents divorced when they were children often become the calmest person in any room isn't emotional maturity - it's that they spent their childhood reading the weather between two people and that radar never turns off, it just gets quieter, and by adulthood they can feel a fight coming three sentences before anyone else in the room - Silicon Canals
Children of divorce develop heightened emotional sensitivity and conflict-detection abilities that persist into adulthood, enabling them to anticipate and defuse tension in social situations.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says the families where nothing was ever discussed are the ones producing the adults who can't stop talking about everything - and both generations think the other one is the problem - Silicon Canals
Families that suppress meaningful conversation often produce adults who compulsively overshare, as a reaction to years of being unheard and emotionally dismissed.
Travel
fromBusiness Insider
2 weeks agoAfter 5 years, our family gave up full-time travel and YouTube success. I worry we've messed up the kids.
After years of full-time travel, a child's need to control and personalize a permanent space reveals the psychological importance of stability and belonging for developing minds.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI spent my childhood being told I was so mature for my age and only understood as an adult that what they were praising was the successful theft of something I was never going to get back - Silicon Canals
Childhood praise for premature maturity often masks survival adaptation to stress, not genuine development, creating lifelong patterns of emotional suppression and people-pleasing.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the room in your house where you feel most yourself reveals these 6 things about your core attachment needs - and it's almost never the room you'd describe as your favourite - Silicon Canals
The room where you naturally gravitate reveals your unconscious emotional regulation strategy and reflects attachment patterns formed in childhood.
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoChildren who were praised only for achievements and never for simply existing often become adults who cannot relax unless they feel they've earned the right to - Silicon Canals
A child who only hears praise when they perform, who never hears 'I just like having you around' or 'You don't have to do anything special for me to love being your parent,' learns something far more corrosive: that their baseline state is insufficient. The lesson isn't explicit. No parent sits their child down and says, 'You are only lovable when productive.' The lesson is absorbed through thousands of micro-moments.
Parenting
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoPsychology says people who constantly second-guess themselves aren't lacking intelligence. They were usually raised in environments where their perception was regularly overridden by someone else's version of reality. - Silicon Canals
Chronic self-doubt often stems from childhood environments where personal perceptions were systematically dismissed, not from lack of intelligence or competence.
fromSlate Magazine
4 weeks agoMy Wife Won't Let Our Daughter Attend a Sleepover for a Ridiculous Reason. I Think She Is Way Overreacting.
There's an analogy I've heard many times that may be helpful here: If there are a few poison M&Ms in a bag of 30, should you feel safe eating it? What's three out of 30, right? Is it likely that James or someone else will do something inappropriate? No, but is it impossible? Also no.
Parenting
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoPsychology says people who overthink at night often have a brain that refuses to shut down because it never felt safe enough to rest - Silicon Canals
Nighttime overthinking stems from early experiences of emotional unpredictability that taught brains to remain vigilant during rest, not from lack of discipline.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoWhy the calmest person in a crisis is usually the one who grew up in chaos - Silicon Canals
Crisis composure stems from childhood trauma and chronic stress exposure, not innate temperament, creating dissociative competence that masks invisible psychological costs.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says people who always push their chair in when they leave a table display these 6 personality patterns that started in childhood - Silicon Canals
Consistently pushing in a chair often reflects an unconscious, childhood-formed habit indicating strong spatial awareness and consideration for others' movement and safety.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago8 hobbies wealthy families encourage their kids to take up that lower middle class parents never think of - Silicon Canals
Wealthy families choose specific hobbies to build networks, rare skills, confidence in elite settings, and opportunities that compound into future success.
Non-profit organizations
fromSan Jose Spotlight
4 months agoSan Jose nonprofits help families with food and groceries - San Jose Spotlight
Two San Jose nonprofits provided emergency grocery vouchers and food assistance to families affected by CalFresh/SNAP disruptions, targeting child well-being and food insecurity.
fromwww.theguardian.com
7 months agoNo one could compete': readers remember the magic of Allan Ahlberg's stories
I worked with primary school kids who were struggling with home and school life. One little boy, aged seven, had a tough exterior but would listen with rapture during story time.
Miscellaneous
fromBusiness Insider
9 months agoI founded a business that makes high-end play kitchens. I was told no one would pay for them, but now I run a million-dollar company.
I want Milton and Goose kitchens to last through all the kids in a family. Then, they can be passed to friends or packed away for the next generation.
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