"Doing everything for the kids and never allowing them to make their own decisions teaches them no responsibility or problem-solving skills. Even if they don't end up with a mental health diagnosis, we don't want them to become maladjusted adults when they're older. Also, just because you've experienced these things, it doesn't automatically mean you are/will be damaged. How we behave as adults is purely our responsibility."
"The biggest one I see is parents who refuse to take accountability for their mistakes. Honestly, it's not a huge deal if a parent messes up - no one's perfect. It becomes a big deal when they refuse to admit they did something wrong and then blame their kid as a way of covering up their mistakes. The biggest one that I see is not praising their kid enough."
Parental overinvolvement by doing tasks for children and preventing independent decision-making undermines responsibility and problem-solving skills and increases risk of maladjustment. Parental refusal to accept mistakes and tendency to blame children erodes trust, models poor accountability, and magnifies harms from parental errors. Chronic lack of praise and appreciation suppresses self-esteem, self-confidence, pride in work, and intrinsic motivation while specific recognition for being and doing reinforces positive identity and cooperation. Adults retain responsibility for their behavior and recovery. When caregiving patterns contribute to persistent poor mental health, professional assessment and support are recommended.
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