Remember the wonderful times because they're precious if you lose your spouse. But truth? Marriage is flat-out determined work every day; you must keep at it and not give up, only thinking about yourself. I loved my wife; some days, I'm sure she wanted to kill me, but she still loved me - only married people will understand that. But to make it work for us for the 38 years we were together, it was truly day-by-day solid effort every day.