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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
48 minutes ago

Psychology says good people with no close friends aren't the difficult ones - they're the ones who asked too little, gave too readily, made themselves so easy to be around that nobody ever felt the particular friction that closeness actually requires - Silicon Canals

Being overly agreeable can lead to loneliness, as it prevents deeper connections and true closeness in friendships.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Cost of Being the "Easy" Partner

People-pleasers who avoid conflict through constant agreement often harbor rejection sensitivity and self-silencing patterns that ultimately undermine relationship authenticity and satisfaction.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes from being surrounded by people who only know the version of you that makes their life easier - Silicon Canals

There's a concept in relational psychology called the "false self," originally described by Donald Winnicott in the 1960s. He argued that children who learn early on that their authentic emotions are unwelcome develop a compliant, socially palatable exterior - a self designed not for expression, but for survival. The false self smiles when it doesn't want to. It says yes when it means no.
Psychology
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