It's highly likely he is right. The fact that the ex-wife has a history of mental and physical abuse may mean that the only way to deal with this behavior is to go no contact. With some personality disorders, any response to their words or gestures gives them cause to think they still have power over you. It's a dangerous, never-ending game.
Thank you for this insight. I hadn't put enough consideration into the very likely possibility that there was a personality disorder at play here. The letter writer and her fiancé ought to have better discussions about the way the letter writer feels, but it would be wise for the fiancé to stay disengaged from the ex.
In my book, the best way to communicate is also the best way to fly across the country: directly. It's not unkind to tell your relative that you have a full agenda and are hoping to see a lot of different people, some of whom the relative may not know.
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