#self-comparison

#self-comparison

Why doesn't she like him watching porn? She imagines he compares her to porn actresses, and she feels bad about herself. She compares herself to porn actresses, and feels bad about herself. This isn't about porn. If a woman compares herself to movie stars, or models, or college cheerleaders, or the attractive barista she sees every week, she'll feel bad about herself. So she shouldn't do that.

Perfectionism is a simple way to avoid dealing with complex life problems. Perfectionists compare themselves only to their best parts, fixating on qualities they lack.