#conditional-praise
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Children who were praised for being helpful and easy often become adults who are remarkably kind and deeply lonely at the same time - because they learned that being low-maintenance was how you earned love, and now they can't ask for what they need without feeling like a burden - Silicon Canals

Conditional praise can lead to emotional costs and a sense of conditional love in children, impacting their adult relationships and self-perception.

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Children who were praised only for achievements and never for simply existing often become adults who cannot relax unless they feel they've earned the right to - Silicon Canals

A child who only hears praise when they perform, who never hears 'I just like having you around' or 'You don't have to do anything special for me to love being your parent,' learns something far more corrosive: that their baseline state is insufficient. The lesson isn't explicit. No parent sits their child down and says, 'You are only lovable when productive.' The lesson is absorbed through thousands of micro-moments.

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Children who were praised for being helpful and easy often become adults who are remarkably kind and deeply lonely at the same time - because they learned that being low-maintenance was how you earned love, and now they can't ask for what they need without feeling like a burden - Silicon Canals

Children who were praised only for achievements and never for simply existing often become adults who cannot relax unless they feel they've earned the right to - Silicon Canals

#conditional-praise
#conditional-praise