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Psychology
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2 days ago

The people who immediately tidy a room when they enter someone else's house aren't being helpful. They learned somewhere along the way that earning their place was the price of being allowed to stay in it - Silicon Canals

Conditional love in childhood leads to anxious attachment and compulsive helpfulness in adulthood.
Relationships
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5 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Psychology
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6 days ago

Psychology says the reason so many high-achievers can't enjoy their own wins isn't imposter syndrome, it's that achievement was the language they were taught love was spoken in, and they've never learned to receive love in any other form - Silicon Canals

High-achievers often feel unsatisfied with their accomplishments due to a childhood belief that achievement equals worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says people who feel guilty saying no carry these 7 traits linked to conditional love in childhood - Silicon Canals

Conditional childhood love can make adults equate worth with usefulness, causing chronic people-pleasing and difficulty saying no.
Mental health
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2 months ago

If these 7 scenarios trigger you more than they should, you likely had a parent who loved you conditionally - Silicon Canals

Childhood conditional love makes adults equate criticism and disappointment with personal worth, causing chronic approval-seeking, anxiety, and disproportionate reactions to everyday feedback.
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