Don't Be a "Good Mother"
Briefly

Despite what we may believe, perfection doesn't imply an extreme; genuine perfection entails a balance between them. So, while the question of "Is there such a thing as too much love?" may seem ridiculous to some, the answer is a complicated but direct, yes. Much of the popular literature on perfectionism tends to highlight trauma in its incubation, noting how exacting demands create the foundation for an obsession with "the shoulds," or excessively high standards.
A parent who was mistreated as a child may, in part through black-and-white thinking, consider the antithesis of her childhood as the only solution to the problem of parenting, overcorrecting for the mistakes made by her parents. Offsetting being a bad daughter with being a good mother, she may yearn to provide her child with the emotional and material foundation she didn't have.
Read at Psychology Today
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