I discovered the other day that he is unemployed and has been for nearly a year. That's why he hasn't invited me out on a proper date. I know these things can happen, but I'm concerned. I don't hear him talking about pounding the pavement to find a job. I hear more of what sounds like despondency or even depression. I like this guy, but I am not inclined to be his savior.
Continue to be kind to this man and encourage him to find a job. Set boundaries around what you will and will not do with him. Be clear about what you want in a relationship including character, values and stability. Talk to him about his goals and desires.
It's gotten to the point where I sometimes feel more like an afterthought than a priority in his life. I've tried to bring this up a few times, but his response is always the same.
He'll take calls during our dates or cut plans short because of work obligations. I understand that his career is demanding, but it feels like I've been pushed to the back burner.
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